After reading all the venom spewed about me and this blog on another Nigerian blog, I convinced myself and a few others that I needed to be off the Internet for a while. The reason I left links to blog recipes so that readers can easily find their way in my absence.
I successfully stayed off even my Facebook page cos I was really pissed. When we plan and strategize on our beds, “…God’s ways are not our ways” I started enjoying staying offline, tried to catch up on whatever I missed offline and on TV sef. Was able to watch some movies from beginning to end which is very unlike me. Took time to sleep and ensure my BP is still Ok.
Enough of the blabbing!
Yesterday, I read about wives connection on City People Magazine and like magic, my energy got revived cos I told myself God is still up to something and more blessings will surely bring more “haters” (permit me to use that word). The sweet words about wives connection? You can go read for yourself o. The latest Edition.
Not forgetting that our Groundnut Soup was featured on Saturday Punch Newspaper in January, just last month. I am encouraged. To God be the glory and those who want to spew venom about this God sent blog can SPEW as much as they like. Those who feel approving such comments on their blogs will increase “comment quantity” can go ahead but as for me. I cannot count how many comments I take down from this blog when I see that a bitter soul is trying to rubbish another blogger. Some people discovered wives connection after reading that venom about the blog, they searched for the talked about blog and it turns out they like WC and are leaving good comments on older posts, happy that they found the blog.
To some, it might just be a “Dog eat Dog world” but for me, I know how good a few older bloggers have been to me and this blog and so, I will always try my best to encourage newer/younger bloggers to grow and not faint. Anyway, to each her own.
Once Upon a time, Madame Sting published a post on her blog rubbishing this young blog and Oh my, come and see how
that post generated comments. People got licence to say all sorts about this blog and even me. Comments continued to run until the blog owner had to disable comments on that particular post. Some “bloggers” even went ahead to say why they stopped visiting wives connection “with their ID I guess” how wives connection is full of bickering and bad comments, well right now I don’t even see them anywhere online. Maybe they left the Internet cos it’s full of bad comments and bickering. After that post, none other has generated even half that number of comments till date. Ordinary wives connection is what people were falling over themselves to talk about in a negative way. The lord is our strength.
Thanks to all of us who still believe in wives connection blog and
To God alone be all the glory.
I DEY LAUGH like Baba Obasanjo!
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| Wives connection blog featured on City People Magazine and others. |
Eya, when we are weak and dispaired at doing good, some divine intervention automatically wires us back on track. Be yourself at all times. Don't let them win like that oyibo woman that committed suicide because of online bullies. We are solidly behind wives connection. D
No matter what any one says about this blog, truth is wives connection remains one of my favourite Naija blogs. I have learnt a lot here.
First of all – Eya, congrats on this blog getting picked up and mentioned in City People. e no easy! I'm discovered your blog late last year and always looked forward to the next posts about Nigerian food recipe. Now hearing that the reason why you had been M.I.A on the blog was because you wanted to "give in" to haters, I wondered why – because I "haven't" found any un-helpful article here. My dear, God says "all things worketh for good…" – even their hate keeps increasing your traffic. So, abeg make you carry on with your blogging jare. Focus on your readers – they are the only ones who matter and have a say whether you should stop blogging – not everyone will like you or what you blog. Finally, maybe na jealousy at work. Keep up this blog.
aunty eya wives connection has been and still is my favorite blog since i stumbled on it more than a year ago. I even had to go back and read previous posts. Although its not as vibrant as it used to but i understand the condition you are in now. Yet still wives connection is the first blog i log on to daily. I told my fiance now husband about it, my friends am always talking about aunty eya. U shouldnt let hate comments get to you. They are just jealous. Just like they were running down another popular blogger on a popular gossip blog. You could see the jealousy and envy. The popular blogger just completely ignored it and made or allowed no mention of it on her blog. Silence is the best answer given to fools. The way people i hate and back bite am so shocked. U have always spoken your mind about things in reference to your faith. I dont support divorce nor domestic violence. I believe where there is a will there is a way. And that is the attitude i took into my marriage. I wonder who is in a better position to give marital advice. Is it single ladies, bitter feminists or divorcees or people who had made their marriage a success. when u seek business advice do you go to those that have failed businesses or those with successful businesses? Miss peony.
Please wat blog was spewing the hate? I'm very sure its a low class one.
Aunty Eya, whatever you do in life, there must be haters. The internet is just an easier. Way for them to just sit in front of their computers and bully someone. Please don't take it to heart. There will never bea time when haters will stop. Bear in mind the number of people who love your blog is far greater than those who don't. Even negativity works positively atimes as people will want to see what its all about, and when they come, guess what, they will love it. Biko we love you and we don't want your bp to rise abeg. God will continue to bless you whether they like it or not. They can go and hug a live transformer. #okbye
WC is my first port of call every morning when I come online. I am in love wt this blog.
WC is the best,yesterday, today, tomorrow na him I go dey read, haters should jejeli go and hug transformer when their is light or better still go and jump into 3rd main land brigde Lagos. Mrs NCC said so.
Aww,thank God u came back stronger,you will continue to grow and achieve success in all you do,and love will always be in your family.amen…(But I wish someone will gimmie a hint,just a hint about the blog that wrote those bad things)…Teresa
Or they can stand in front of BRT or trailer hahahaha God bless u Anty Eya jare……
Madam Ojay,d Lord is your strenght,kip up d good work ur doing.this blog is a complete blog + I like ur sincerity,its one of dose its dat accompany success.so dust it off nd shine oN
Congrats dear, more blessings to you and your blog, the sky is your limit!!
my dear, don't know why anyone will write negative things about this blog,if not for anything i ve learnt a lot of things on this blog.But dont u worry, even Jesus was castigated, hated and killed but look at where he is today sitted at the right hand of the father in heaven,you are going places with this blog, just keep looking at the author and finisher of your faith.
#supported
Eya you are an inspiration.God bless you and your blog…
Well, as a human being on earth not everyone will like you. They may say things that are unfair about you and your business. It doesn't mean they hate you or wish you harm.They're just expressing their opinions in which case you either check if such opinion has merit,and if it has adopt all or part of it for your betterment. Or if it doesn't have ignore it. When I was about getting married so many people from my husband's side were against it.It doesn't mean I don't greet them when I see them. I just took it that they don't know me,if they did they would love me. You should just tell people I'm against this but this is why I say this when people tell me that, shikena and carry on with blogging.Stop letting people's opinions get to you so much. Develop thick skin.
AUNTY EYA,DONT LET IT BOTHER YOU…YOU ARE FAR BIGGER THAN THIS.
AM SURE ONCE U POP OUT THE BUNDLE OF JOY WE WOULD LOVE TO HAVE U FULLY BACK.
Anonymous12:07 PM
Bella naija, where they talked about the dead banker and her husband's sentence.
That is the link to where wives connections was talked about negatively. Tbh i wouldnt care too much aunty aya because trust me LIB gets far worse insults. I love wives connections and i saw the comments and just rolled my eyes because people will always talk. Keep your head up aunty aya x
Don't give up. I always say develop a thick skin like Linda Ikeji..I know all men are not the same but plssss try
The comments u give here r just like my grandmas' cos she neva encourages anyone 2 leave der marriage just like dat, She wuld advice 2 look inward nd check urself cos d things we women is sometimes provoking. Well nowadays pple don't wanna endure dey don't want surulere again only olohun sogo! Bt dats not 2 say that u shuld stay nd die in ur marriage if its a hopeless one. God bless WC. The rate @ which marriages break up nowadays is very alarming nd I dnt wish dat for my fellow women so women enter into marriages wiv ur eyes wide open cos d signs r always there nd gt something doing to keep u busy cos dey say-the idle mind is d devils workshop I bet u will receive respect from husband and his pple if u also work no matter how small u earn.
Buy ur quality baby clothes (0-7yrs) from uk @ affordable price!!! Holla (bb-27e7efa1). I'm based in lagos.
The comments u give here r just like my grandmas' cos she neva encourages anyone 2 leave der marriage just like dat, She wuld advice 2 look inward nd check urself cos d things we women is sometimes provoking. Well nowadays pple don't wanna endure dey don't want surulere again only olohun sogo! Bt dats not 2 say that u shuld stay nd die in ur marriage if its a hopeless one. God bless WC. The rate @ which marriages break up nowadays is very alarming nd I dnt wish dat for my fellow women so women enter into marriages wiv ur eyes wide open cos d signs r always there nd gt something doing to keep u busy cos dey say-the idle mind is d devils workshop I bet u will receive respect from husband and his pple if u also work no matter how small u earn.
Buy ur quality baby clothes (0-7yrs) from uk @ affordable price!!! Holla (bb-27e7efa1). I'm based in lagos.
The comments u give here r just like my grandmas' cos she neva encourages anyone 2 leave der marriage just like dat, She wuld advice 2 look inward nd check urself cos d things we women do is sometimes provoking. Well nowadays pple don't wanna endure dey don't want surulere again only olohun sogo! Bt dats not 2 say that u shuld stay nd die in ur marriage if its a hopeless one. God bless WC. The rate @ which marriages break up nowadays is very alarming nd I dnt wish dat for my fellow women so women enter into marriages wiv ur eyes wide open cos d signs r always there nd gt something doing to keep u busy cos dey say-the idle mind is d devils workshop I bet u will receive respect from husband and his pple if u also work no matter how small u earn.
Buy ur quality baby clothes (0-7yrs) from uk @ affordable price!!! Holla (bb-27e7efa1). I'm based in lagos.
The comments u give here r just like my grandmas' cos she neva encourages anyone 2 leave der marriage just like dat, She wuld advice 2 look inward nd check urself cos d things we women is sometimes provoking. Well nowadays pple don't wanna endure dey don't want surulere again only olohun sogo! Bt dats not 2 say that u shuld stay nd die in ur marriage if its a hopeless one. God bless WC. The rate @ which marriages break up nowadays is very alarming nd I dnt wish dat for my fellow women so women enter into marriages wiv ur eyes wide open cos d signs r always there nd gt something doing to keep u busy cos dey say-the idle mind is d devils workshop I bet u will receive respect from husband and his pple if u also work no matter how small u earn.
Buy ur quality baby clothes (0-7yrs) from uk @ affordable price!!! Holla (bb-27e7efa1). I'm based in lagos.
The comments u give here r just like my grandmas' cos she neva encourages anyone 2 leave der marriage just like dat, She wuld advice 2 look inward nd check urself cos d things we women is sometimes provoking. Well nowadays pple don't wanna endure dey don't want surulere again only olohun sogo! Bt dats not 2 say that u shuld stay nd die in ur marriage if its a hopeless one. God bless WC. The rate @ which marriages break up nowadays is very alarming nd I dnt wish dat for my fellow women so women enter into marriages wiv ur eyes wide open cos d signs r always there nd gt something doing to keep u busy cos dey say-the idle mind is d devils workshop I bet u will receive respect from husband and his pple if u also work no matter how small u earn.
Buy ur quality baby clothes (0-7yrs) from uk @ affordable price!!! Holla (bb-27e7efa1). I'm based in lagos.
The comments u give here r just like my grandmas' cos she neva encourages anyone 2 leave der marriage just like dat, She wuld advice 2 look inward nd check urself cos d things we women is sometimes provoking. Well nowadays pple don't wanna endure dey don't want surulere again only olohun sogo! Bt dats not 2 say that u shuld stay nd die in ur marriage if its a hopeless one. God bless WC. The rate @ which marriages break up nowadays is very alarming nd I dnt wish dat for my fellow women so women enter into marriages wiv ur eyes wide open cos d signs r always there nd gt something doing to keep u busy cos dey say-the idle mind is d devils workshop I bet u will receive respect from husband and his pple if u also work no matter how small u earn.
Buy ur quality baby clothes (0-7yrs) from uk @ affordable price!!! Holla (bb-27e7efa1). I'm based in lagos.
The comments u give here r just like my grandmas' cos she neva encourages anyone 2 leave der marriage just like dat, She wuld advice 2 look inward nd check urself cos d things we women is sometimes provoking. Well nowadays pple don't wanna endure dey don't want surulere again only olohun sogo! Bt dats not 2 say that u shuld stay nd die in ur marriage if its a hopeless one. God bless WC. The rate @ which marriages break up nowadays is very alarming nd I dnt wish dat for my fellow women so women enter into marriages wiv ur eyes wide open cos d signs r always there nd gt something doing to keep u busy cos dey say-the idle mind is d devils workshop I bet u will receive respect from husband and his pple if u also work no matter how small u earn.
Buy ur quality baby clothes (0-7yrs) from uk @ affordable price!!! Holla (bb-27e7efa1). I'm based in lagos.
The comments u give here r just like my grandmas' cos she neva encourages anyone 2 leave der marriage just like dat, She wuld advice 2 look inward nd check urself cos d things we women is sometimes provoking. Well nowadays pple don't wanna endure dey don't want surulere again only olohun sogo! Bt dats not 2 say that u shuld stay nd die in ur marriage if its a hopeless one. God bless WC. The rate @ which marriages break up nowadays is very alarming nd I dnt wish dat for my fellow women so women enter into marriages wiv ur eyes wide open cos d signs r always there nd gt something doing to keep u busy cos dey say-the idle mind is d devils workshop I bet u will receive respect from husband and his pple if u also work no matter how small u earn.
Buy ur quality baby clothes (0-7yrs) from uk @ affordable price!!! Holla (bb-27e7efa1). I'm based in lagos.
The comments u give here r just like my grandmas' cos she neva encourages anyone 2 leave der marriage just like dat, She wuld advice 2 look inward nd check urself cos d things we women do is sometimes provoking. Well nowadays pple don't wanna endure dey don't want surulere again only olohun sogo! Bt dats not 2 say that u shuld stay nd die in ur marriage if its a hopeless one. God bless WC. The rate @ which marriages break up nowadays is very alarming nd I dnt wish dat for my fellow women so women enter into marriages wiv ur eyes wide open cos d signs r always there nd gt something doing to keep u busy cos dey say-the idle mind is d devils workshop I bet u will receive respect from husband and his pple if u also work no matter how small u earn.
Buy ur quality baby clothes (0-7yrs) from uk @ affordable price!!! Holla (bb-27e7efa1). I'm based in lagos.
Eya i came to dis blog last year nd i congratulate u for ur good work.u must surely have haters even whn u do good all the way. If u worry abt all these u wont move ahead but haters make dis life sweeter for without them thr will be no strive to success
Eya keep your dream alive and don"t let it die! Dream killers will always exist that's why the bible says he will lay a table for you in the presence of your enemies. If it doesn't cost you anything then it's not worth doing. I have personally cooked for my family recipes from your blog that they loved so much. i will continue to learn alot about food from your blog for as long as its up.
Aunty Eya
I know you will enjoy seeing comments from everyone who supports you. I am new to this blog. Only been reading for a few months, but even I can tell that you've had so many posts where women are being beaten and abused and you (and your fans) simply told them to 'endure'. I think you should take that criticism to heart and seriously think again about advising women to stay in abusive marriages. Don't let what happened to Titi the banker, happen to one of your readers. In Nigerian society, women are dying EVERY DAY from domestic violence because of advice like yours. Everything else you do is nice e.g. posting recipes and I don't support anyone insulting anyone's blog. But i really think you should take that one criticism to mind and stop leading women into more pain and suffering.
Congrats Eya. More power to your elbow.
Thank you for saying what many are thinking but too nice to say. I think Eya should just stay off publishing domestic violence stories because her and some of her readers do not help the situation they make it worse. Eya stick to the original purpose of this blog which was recipes and simple advise on raising kids what to cook etc.
EYA YOU DELETED MY FIRST COMMENT SO I'LL KEEP REPOSTING.
I know the truth is bitter.
So I went to check out d comments on Bellanaija. I absolutely didn't see the spewing you are complaining abt madam Eya. All what they said is the truth. Marriage is not a death match. No man is worthy enough to die for. Eya u are fond of advicing DV victims to check themselves and don't leave the marriage even wen they are near death. How can you even give such ignorant advice.
I really hope ur husband doesnt hit you and you are saving face just for marriage. Marriage is not an award for longevity. STOP giving ignorant advice Eya becos a lot of ppl look up to you and your comments. I'm sure if that Titilayo lady came here for advice you would hav told her to check herself and cry and apologise to her husband while showering him with love. Nonsense. Ppl on Bellanaija called you out and you are here crying wolf. I hav been ff this blog a long time and the recipes hav been great help BUT I will never keep shut when I c sumtn amiss.
There's some truth in what they wrote about your blog. Any one who reads any of your posts on such topics can see it glaringly.
Though I can imagine how demoralised you must have been with that blog's comments seeing that you are only trying to help people.
The thing is to learn from criticism and move on otherwise the kind of advise given here sometimes are really disheartening.
good day ma, kindly post dis 4 me on ur blog I have black spot on my upper laps and it really disfigure my colour if I off cloth it disgusting but when I use skinol it pill but does not change colour.once I urinate and it plash on it it being 2 itch me. pls WC shld pls help.
good day ma, kindly post dis 4 me on ur blog I have black spot on my upper laps and it really disfigure my colour if I off cloth it disgusting but when I use skinol it pill but does not change colour.once I urinate and it plash on it it being 2 itch me. pls WC shld pls help.
Glam gbamest!!!! Constructive criticism isn't Venom spewing. People's opinion differ and you cannot force yours down anybody's throat. Aligning yourself in any which way with an abuser is WRONG!!! There is absolutely no reason for a man to lay his hand on a woman. Your blog should empower women..some of the advice you give are wonderful and some are not. Just take the criticism that work for you and dump the rest…congrats and be safe darl.
Onward ever backward never.
Vicky
If you think my advice is demoralizing, when next you have a misunderstanding with your husband please NEVER look inwards. RUN as fast as your legs can carry. Continue they way with your second, third, fourth, fifth, nineth and twelfth husband.
And if you are the one that said on that blog that WC makes you want to puke, please don't hold back, PUKE VERY WELL.
If my advice pains you this much, who stopped you from giving yours? Why can't you ignore mine and give us your Madame Modern Marriage Counsellor advice?
Yes, keep reposting. You have the time to repost eh? You didn't have time to help posters with advice when they asked for it. You can repost a million times cos there's no time now to delete. I'm sleeping.
Yes Eya when my husband decides to turn me into a punching ball I will stay there I will stay there and let him stab me several times and then kill me then you and the rest of your commenters can help raise my children for me!
Madame Eya please learn to take positive criticism well this is so unbecoming of you.
GO AND SEE YOUR DOCTOR!
Eya u are now behaving childish. I dont like ur resposes. U can ignore sometimes.
I ve great respect nd I look up to u.
In life not everyone wld like u nd there is nothing u can do to change it.
Pls jst focus on u bundle that is on d way.
Wish u safe delivery.
Congrats Eya.
1 million gbosa for you.
I love this blog even tho I don't comment often I always come here daily. I have really learnt a lot from this blog.
Please don't allow haters pull you down. The Lord is your strength.
Aunty Eya we are not talking abt simple misunderstandings, we r talking about ur domestic violence posts. Don't talk like its misunderstandings here. Misunderstandings like quarrels can be resolved but u Eya adviced DV women to hang in there while their stupid hubbys turn dem to pounded yam. Stop sugar coating it abeg.
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So she wil tell u to go and u wil say aunty eya said u should go abi????….so pple sha, God help us
Why don't u create ur own blog and start empowern people and tell every woman dat come to meet you for advice to leave her home, Stupid!!!….Aunty Eya biko dnt waste time in replyn dis jobless people u r better than them in evry way….I LOVE WC best ever.
Y'all leave Eya alone please. Pregnancy makes women very sensitive.Ordinarily Eya won't bother about you westernized Nigerians talking trash and showing no respect for marriage.
I never read where Eya advised any woman to die in her marriage. Leave her alone.
yeah i agree. Eya is sounding so unlike her recently, allowing comments get to her, been insultive and so on, must be the pregnancy.Eya dear, just accept creative criticism make church close ooo, just say ok make matter end. pele dear!!!
Jay you can make your point without being insultive..madam eya, wow!! Dats all
Big congrats to you on the success of your blog. Please ignore the haters and keep doing the best. We all love you.
I will pardon your comments Eya because i want to believe your pregnancy is making you hormonal o.. learn to take criticism well or you crawl back into your hole, face your family and leave blogging to people who can take the heat..
Lol the hormones crossed my mind too hahahaha she is coming off as being very hormonal. Eya take am easy ooooo
Don't mind Eya with her local reasoning. Na housewife na. Professional working class wives don't reason like this
Isn't advising a woman who is being beaten black and blue to check herself, tame her razor tongue be submissive and nice to her husband while praying and fasting for him and doing all this while still living in the abusive man's house the same as asking them to die in the marriage? Wow if Nigerian women did not learn anything from Titi Aworolo's story then women's empowerment in Nigeria has another 100 years to take root. Marriage is not a do or die affair. Like someone said in another blog the average Nigerian woman is so used to being mistreated and looked down upon in a marriage treated like a glorified house girl and having seen older women in her family go through the same that they do not understand nor believe that marriage is to be enjoyed not endured. For them if hubby does not cheat, beat you or talk you down then he doesn't love you. I weep for such women.
Madam Eya,may God continue to strengthen u and ur blog shall be known thruout the world IJN! Safe delivery!
ADEYANJU
Congrats Aunty Eya! This blog is going places o! More power to you and the blog!
How I wish you had stuck to the title of this post. Why spoil this happy post by mentioning all the bad things you read about your blog on the internet? You should have talked about those on another post. I dey vex o! :)))
Madam, why are you still upset about last week's issue, abeg mind ur pregnancy that's all should concern u now not what people said about u…
Search through her profile and you'll know she is not a housewife. You fool.Olodo rabata
Jealous b**ggers are hiding under anonymous to talk. Liverless cowards. Eya pls respond only to real humans not automated anonymouses.
Shame on them losers.
Congrats Madam!
Whoaaaaa hahahahha, I like this!
Is it easy to be a housewife and get enough money to blog in Nigeria? If you don't know blogging is very expensive try am make you see. Do you know how much serious bloggers spend on Internet subscription, electricity from generators and different computers and phones?
I didn't know until I tried blogging. A housewife who blogs this much must be rich and can afford to feed you and your wretched civil servant family. I will rather be a rich housewife than hop molue to work and back with peanuts as salary. If only you knew her you won't call her a housewife.
My dear Eya please ignore them and continue to soar higher. I know you personally and one of your posh cars alone can buy Anon 10:26 including her extended family.
Congrats dear friend. For now I chose to remain Anonymous.
This is good recognition Eya. You will continue to grow IJN
Hahahahaha Anon 10: 26 why r u so pained? Is it jealousy or what? House wife plus local reasoning yet her new blog is already on the pages of National papers. Sidon dere dey look like lucozade and don't go look for how to move forward in life. Ewu mpampa consumed by jealousy.
Hahahahaha Anon 10: 26 why r u so pained? Is it jealousy or what? House wife plus local reasoning yet her new blog is already on the pages of National papers. Sidon dere dey look like lucozade and don't go look for how to move forward in life. Ewu mpampa consumed by jealousy.
Success begets jealousy, jealousy begets secret enemies an frenemies, all roads lead to hate without which you can't aspire to grow in life.
Eya, this is your blog and you are free to blog what you want. Babe, Never listen to derailers. Keep focused and whoever doesn't like how you leave comments on your blog can GO AND DIE (in Adams Oshiomole's voice.)
Congratulations!
God is good, all the time
All the time, God is good!
Don't mind dem anty eya,more grease to ur elbow,av learnt enof frm ds blog and still learning,may God bless d good pple of WC,mrs M
Anon 10:32, are you a Nigerian in diaspora washing dead bodies and doing nanny work? Which Nigerian man even wants to marry you mortuary cleaner? You come here tospew rubbish when you can't even save enough to visit and see what happens here.
Madam Eya pls start advising us to run from all our husbands so that the diaspora dead body washers will like you. Mtchewwwww.
and here Eya goes again deleting comments. If you don't say ah Eya sorry o and give her validation of her wrongdoing, she deletes your comment. Well done Eya. Keep surrounding yourself with Yes men and yes women. The truth will set you free and take you far.
And this is why people like Mrs Dayo stay suffering in Nigeria stay there thinking that people in the Diaspora do dirty jobs you hear meanwhile we are all laughing at your backward country and backward way of thinking
Mrs Dayo why are you pained? Shebi they refused you visa? Eyaaaaaaa kpele try again next time maybe they will pity you so you can join us wash dead bodies ooooo.
Nigerians! Criticism means jealousy and hatred…
Sycophants are the ones to be believed because they say what we want to hear.
Mega Pity!
Na wah ooo! Dis whole spewing reminds me of d old era! Evry1 is entitled to deir own opinion and I feel that it's rude 2 take someone's blog to anoda for trashing. D girl that did that at the Bella naija blog was so wrong( what do you gain by bringing down someone else's values? Yes, Eya advices posters- the way some African mothers who believe strongly dat a woman's place is at her husband's side-would. Eya has her own mind as well as other women on dis blog and not all advice dished out are being taken by the posters. Please let peace reign and let's stop dis bickering.
Let's hug and forget d past, the devil is a liar.
Congrats Eya, don't let anything disturb you or WC's baby.
*hugs*
Pple can talk for all I care but one thing is certain! Wives connection have come to stay and by God's grace we are going places. Aunty Eya, relax cuz Baba God wil Never vacate his throne.
Eya there is absolutely nothing you can do to please ndi uwa oo. Abi have you forgotten the story about the man, his wife and their mule. I am sorry but I like it when you bite them sometimes. Hehehehe. Ndi ajo onu. Yeye people.
Meanwhile how on earth do you expect Eya to advise a woman to leave her husband. Online? Its not possible my dear mouth runners. Nobody wants to bear that burden. Apart from the other issues that can rise frof
As I was saying above, so many issues can arise from that. But there are other anonymouses that can say it as it is.
I don't also understand how u people expect Eya to control what people say. Of course she has to let all the sides through so you have a variety of opinions to choose from.
Finally gaan open ya own blog for wives, let's see how it goes. Ndi onu ojoo!
Thank you dear, chop knuckle
Aunty Eya, all kudos to me. I invited the first Ghanian to this blog (you are welcome), she is a food person so she advertised ur blog on her facebook page… U r welcom
The issue is not advising women to leave their marriages online but laying blame on the victim. So in essence she is being told that it is her fault she got beaten that is wrong on so many levels. These same men who have wives that talk back to them also have other females they work with that talk back to them so why do they think it is ok to hit their wives for example because she talked back but would not dare hit a female co worker who talks back at them. Typical Nigerian mentality where men are treated like demi gods and women slaves
ANON 1:14, YOU ARE SO JOBLESS. DO YOU LIVE ON THIS BLOG. YOU NEVER FAIL TO REPLY ANYONE THAT FAVOURS EYA WITH HER COMMENT. MUST YOU KEEP SAYING THE SAME THING TO SPITE OTHER USEFUL COMMENTERS?
WE KNOW YOUR STYLE OF REPLIES SO TAKE A REST ALREADY DON'T COME AND DIE ON BLOG PLEASE, YOUR LIFE IS MUCH MORE IMPORTANT OR YOU VISIT OTHER BLOGS FOR SOME RELAXATION.
Ndi Oyibo please do not try to force your views on us. You guys adopt children, cats and dogs for companionship. We Africans believe in marriage and we believe there are some wife beaters that change when their wives change their bad characters.
A lot of men who fight their wives at the beginning of a marriage turn out to be the sweetest husband after learning. If it can be remedied, pls wives stay and find the remedy. Running away to America with the kids may not solve your problem. Don't listen to some women running their mouths on Eya's blog.
If it's impossible to remedy the situation, you can then leave.
The way they want to force their gay and lesbian lifestyle on us is same way they want to force their unnecessary divorce lifestyle on us Africans. Mtceeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
Congratulations Eya, recognition is a good thing.
This is for all those running their mouths here. Does this statement mean that Aunty Eya is a professional counsellor or it's telling readers to still seek professional help?
You are so bitter already, who did Aunty Eya forbid from seeing a marriage counsellor?????????????????:??
Your comments are highly appreciated.
DISCLAIMER: Advice given on this blog is just me and readers; Our views and personal opinions.
Always seek Professional Help and Consultation.
GBAM!!!!! JAYNE, JAYNE, YOUR HEAD DEY THERE. DON'T MIND THOSE THAT CANNOT READ DISCLAIMERS ON BOOKS AND BLOGS. OLODOSSSSS.
AUNTY EYA LEARN TO IGNORE THE JOBLESS CYBERBULLIES JOR.
When you feel that things are falling apart, it might just be God, putting things in place… Never bother about the negative things people say about you… They're stepping stones to your greatness…
DDC-Cakes n More….
Exactly! Like linda, develop a thick skin.
I've read some bloggers deliberately berate her- one way or the other- some people look for any means at all to express their dislike of her and mention her in their blogs (I'm not talking about the comments on this blogger's blogs but the posts they put out themselves) but Linda NEVER responds or acts like she's even aware any such thing is on-going but, off course we know she knows.
That's living ABOVE pettiness and jealousy.
God is definitely taking you places Aunt Eya.
Keep up the good job!
More power to your elbows!
Also, Aunt Eya, you don't even need any validation from magazines et al because the same magazine that sings your praise today will seek to sink you tomorrow- soft sell magazines are full of shit.
Your validation should be knowing that yours is a platform that is helping wives all around the world.
Fashi all these magazines and their ratings o, because if you put your mind there, the next thing you'll see will definitely come as a rude surprise.
Hmmm.
I think you should probably stop responding, Aunt Eya.
I really don't think the people posting these comments mean any harm- its just their opinion- and I think its quite constructive.
You have a great point when you say "don't look inward but keep running away until you've run from the 6th, 7th, 8th and … Husband" but I also think their comments require a certain "looking inward" on your part and being retrospective about the posts that have had the DV theme.
I personally believe some adjustments could be made in the woman's attitude cos her attitude may just be provocative to the man but I totally loathe the concept of a man bullying and beating a woman.
My husband's slapped me before and, God knows, I felt like killing him and I'm certain my reaction shocked the hell outta him.
It still doesn't mean I didn't really look at certain behaivours I'd been putting out and resolved on my own to desist from being such a bitch.
Hmmm. This Monique, you are sha a donkey- no brain.
What Anon has said is so totally reasonable so what are you spouting on about?
And can you please stop screaming with that capitalized text?
in fairness to aunty eya… let me state my personal experience on this blog. when i brought my situation to this blog… not once did she tell me i must endure by all means.. pple generally gave their advice and encouragement. i took everything and acted along what suited my situation. when i finally took the plunge to leave my ex hubby almost a year later… it took a while before i communicated this to her. and in her reply… she said she had been worried abt me.. and she s happy i now have peace. she asked after my son and wished me the very best. she never berated me for not trying to stay in that marriage forever. and i could tell from her reply that she was indeed happy for me.
God bless you Odunayo (ikorodu lady) for this comment. Jayne thank you for bringing d attention of people to the DISCLAIMER.
Just like every advice even from medical professionals we pick what suits us and we don't necessarily use as prescribed.
I hope this is settled and we can move on.
God bless you Aunty Odun. The mouth runners can now rest. The disclaimer says it all.
Peace be still. Accusers of Aunty Eya, please go cook for your boyfriends.
Just want to read the said post on Bellanaija.
1) Bellanaija did not write trash about WC.
2) there was an element of truth on what they said.
3) advice victims of DV to run while they can.
Lost my mom when I was 10years to DV. Can't imagine the hardship my 4 sibling and I endured while growing up.
My husband knows the day he raises his hand to hit me is the day the marriage will end.
If my mom had run, I would have had someone o turn to at my darkest moments.
Keep up the good work madam Eya…..no shaking.
But guys. Hmmmm. I pity men this time around o. Women no just gree. Lol! And they still want to be kings. We have to find a balance that works o. If the guy is a good person….
May God continue to comfort you for your loss dear. Cases like your mother's is what we all should should be working to prevent. That is the danger with all the stay and pray advice, should the person stay and be praying while in danger or 1st remove herself from danger and then both parties can use the separation period to do some soul searching and counseling. after that they can try and come back together but if another incidence occurs they should go their separate ways. We lose too many women to domestic abuse and at the end it is the children who will suffer. children are better off with 2 parents who live apart but love the kids and take care of them then a situation where their mother is dead and the father in jail!
Good evening ma…
I want to use this medium to say a big thank you and also encourage you. Your blog has been a great source of inspiration to me and many others. The truth about it is; there will always be haters. They are there so we can radiate the glory of God to the shame of the devil. I read through the blog at every opportunity and there's always something new to learn.
Please, when these "tongues" rise to condemn the good work you do; all you need is look at the "testimonies" of lives changed as a result of the blog you started. In your own little way, you are changing lives…and for this, I wanna say thank you.
Thank you for providing a haven for many of us; for giving us a family outside of our immediate families. There are many topics discussed here that have changed my orientations about many things.
Thank you and God bless you
Diary of DiDo you are one wise person! Linda once said that the best talent she has is ignoring people she said she can ignore you until you begin to doubt your existence and I believe that is exactly what she does. There is a blogger who was once friends with her who enables comments dissing her and even puts up posts where people trash talk Linda of course Linda reads these posts but she has NEVER i repeat NEVER given these people any attention or replied to them or put up a post replying them. Of course she see's posts about her online because as media savvy blogger as she is she has Google alerts so every time a post about her or she is mentioned online she gets an alert. The said blog post even had commentators saying how they are waiting for round two aka Linda's reply it never came it's been over a month now it will never come. Eya since you said you look up to Linda as a blogger and even dedicated posts to her and her success please also try and emulate her "ignoring people out of existence stance". It will do you well.
can u employ me?,,,cos i nid job plssss.
Great to know your blog is pulling such an astronomical crowd, I'm inspired. Please keep the good work going, I am learning a lot from you.