This post on SMG got me thinking. Is iot that he feels his family needs the money more than his wife’s? Isn’t he supposed to send money to both his wife’s family and his as the husband? Some Nigerian men, even when the relocate abroad, that thick coat is still there on them oh!
Now, without disturbing him about her family financial needs, she wants to send her own money she earns by working really hard abroad , but, hubby says “we can’t both be breadwinners” I cannot be sending money to my parents while you too send to yours?” En? Let me laugh first before I think of what to say here.
Read the post below:
Good morning ma.
please help me post on omam and hide my id. Greetings mummy’s in the house, please I need your opinion in this matter. I live in Europe with hubby and he’s a student so he has limited hours to work, so work more than he does. I take responsibilities of everything, he only pays a few bill. Work so hard to earn more money so that I could save a little bit.
My problem is, firstly, in spite of my hard work he doesn’t allow me send money to my mum and siblings saying that we can’t both be breadwinner of our families. He is the breadwinner of his family, sends money to his mum and siblings but I can’t be breadwinner to my own family.
I once sent money to my sister without his consent (he always grudges if I tell him) and he found out, he mourned over it that you would think I stole his money. Wetin I gain if I de Obodo oyibo and my mum and siblings are suffering?
Secondly, because of some situations of some things I don’t work much and he now earn more than I do but he still want me to continue with the normal responsibilities until he makes sure there is nothing left. This man in question loves & cares for me so much and can buy anything for me when I had no job. Please advice me, how do I deal with this. I want to be sending money to my people and I want him to be paying house rent now he earns more. Or am I just being selfish?
REPLY:
You are not selfish madam.
If you live and work abroad and don’t send money back home to your mother. Who will?
May God give you more wisdom!