I will be 30yrs by April , I got married 2013 to an IMO state guy , Isiala Mbano precisely , while am from Abia state , Isiala Ngwa . during our courtship , I noticed my husband family are not that friendly to me , den I complained it to my husband & he told me not to burder/ worry myself over that since we are not going to live wit them here in Nigeria talk more of same town or roof. That he’s the one who saw me & made his choice to make me his wife .
Then after my wedding day , my husband family including him left me at my father’s house & went home , instead of them to go wit me , there newly wedded wife , den I have not choice than to sleep in my father’s house same night till d next morning when my husband latter came back to take me home .
After 2 days , we now got back to Ghana where he is based . A month after our wedding , God blessed us with the fruit of the womb which my husband told his people especially his mom whom he loves & cherishes so much. instead of his mother to rejoice & be happy with us , she now started poisoning her son’s mind (my hubby ) asking him how sure he is that he’s the one responsible for the pregnancy . Oooohh my Goodness !!!.
When I overheard them discussing that , I really felt embarrassed bcos my hubby was in a louder volume . immediately , I had to leave him at the seating room were we are sitting & rush to the bedroom. Tears started rolling down to my neck , I couldn’t get myself anymore .
Then after some hours, my hubby now came to me . he started apologizing to me , telling me how sorry he is for what d mother just said . he even begged me not to let any of my family member hear about it , that he still loves me .
OK , I accepted his apology & also promised him not to let any of my family members hear that . but after some weeks , my hubby started developing some strange character toward me . my hubby now quarrels me for nothing , starving me , beating me with the pregnancy without minding what the outcome will be . to the extent of throwing me wit my loads out for complete a week without seeing me or knowing where I am . etc ….
Remember all this are happening in Ghana where he took me to . no mother , no father , no brother , no sister … Apart from God!!. Sometimes , I will be sleeping at bus stop with my luggage like a mad woman who maybe they got pregnant , without people knowing i’m a married woman with my sense of reasoning working .
I battled all dths for complete 9 months of pregnancy . now Thank God is nine months , about to deliver . same woman still told her son not to bring me from hospital back to home if I give birth to a baby girl & he shud leave me in the Hospital & ran away to another country if I finally delivered through “CS” ( Operation) . now am in labour , suffering & crying alone , too much pains , nobody to console me , . Oooh my God !!! , I prayed to him in my mind , not minding what am passing through .. ”
God you are the one who blessed me with this gift , now I think d time for him to come out ha scome . plss come & see me through , lay ur holy hand upon me , I want to deliver like the Hebrew women … Plzz do not let my enemies succeed in mocking me .
A week after my delivery . T hings became worst . my husband now changed to bad totally . beating & starving tins increase,d he now quarrel me without nothing …
My dear .. To cut the story short . 2 months after my delivery, on a fateful morning like that , around 5am . I woke up to take off my baby pampers which he have already toilet on it. Without knowing my hubby is awake but was just lying down on the bed . we woke up with force & anger , started asking me what am trying to do .
Then I now told him am removing our baby Pampers which he have been wearing since 9pm !last night . I want to change a new one for him , he is crying because d shit in it is scratching him … D next tin I heard in my eyes was a very big blow , with blood rushing from my eyes , mouth , nose wit control , he was still courcing me. Telling me how he turns his mothers thought upside down my not marrying me , that am not a wife material , I didn’t come to make him rich in life , instead I only came to destroy d ones he has labourd for . wit tears & blood all over my face & body , den I ask him y did he said so …
He said bcos I removed the baby pampers , DAT I shudn’t have removed d pampers from d baby till around 8 to 9am wen d baby will wake & take his morning bath .. DAT if I do so , am trying to Save him from too much cost .. To d extent of him going into the waste bin & brought out d wasted pampers out , showing his houseboy how wicked I am … DAT I should have washed d Pampers & used it twice instead of throwing it out.
He locked our 2 doors & beat me like a tinka beat a barrel .. So dat nobody. Will come to my Rescue . when all this was happening , I don’t know when my neighbours contacted my mom bcos my mom came for ” Omugwo ” in Ghana , but didn’t stay long due to my husband’s character .
without even knowing DAT she dropped her phone number with my two neighbours who seem to be her friends in DAT few weeks of her stay. Now, after they called my mom , the next thing I heard was my hubby giving me his phone , telling me to answer my call DAT my Dad wants to speak with me . but at d same tym , he was still giving me signs not to narrate anything to my dad . but immediately I heard my dad’s voice , I started crying .
Then my dad told me not to. Cry again & dat he don’t want me to said anything … We know what to do now … My dad now told my hubby to bring me home so we can settle things amicably , which he promised him. We now had to start our journey d next day .
yet my hubby refused , he begged & bribed me with 50k . 30k for changing of my wardrobe & 20k for my baby ‘s own … But I rejected d offer .. Den on our way down to Nigeria , d father whom I know fully well is d only one who loves me is now against me … He told his son to deceive me & collect my baby from me immediately we land Lagos state … But as God may have it , all their evil plan towards me wasn’t going for dem .. God was just reviewing dem to me … Despite my sin …
Without wasting time , I shouted to him . told him dat I overheard all his dad said . dat I wasn’t sleeping as he thought … Den I told him dat if he tries such a stupid thing here in. Lagos , dat I will shout to d extent I will give him a very big allegation
Which he wunt escape from & I will make sure dey beat him to death & burn him to ashes here .. Yet I will even denied him … Dats makes him to be afraid , he now didn’t do his father’s wish anymore . den from Lagos to my place Abia State bcos dats were d parents are living too .. ( Dey bought a land very close to my village & build a family house ) i
Immediately we are very close to my village nearest bus stop ,This young guy left me & d baby dere & ran away . chai another sufferness !!. No phone wit h me to contact my people to come & carry me , no money to enter taxi … But God really surprised me again … Not less than an hour , I saw a village brother driving down to where I am. I stopped him & narrate everything to him .. He den took me home.
Thank God am at my father’s house now … After my bath & food , I now narrated to dem all DAT I have been going through .. 2 days later , d mom & dad came to our house asking me b4 my people d reason y I took my son to my people 1st instead of dem to. See d baby 1st … Den after some arguments , dey left with anger ..
June 2014 .. Till today none of dem has ever seen or cared to know how my son is ..even d father … Am d only one struggling to make sure I feed him .. Under rain & sun … B
ut I decided to chat him (hubby ) last week concerning. Our baby . I was asking him d reason y he abandoned his innocent boy .. No calling to hear from him , no hospital bills , no school fees , talk more of feeding money .. But all he told me was DAT I can’t sent me any money. For d boy sake . in fact that I should bring d baby to stay with him over there in Ghana …. Remember he saw his son last when he was just 3 months but he’s 6 yrs now .. He also told me to send him d boy pic so he will know how he’s growing now , but I refused …
Plss is it proper for.Me to send him d pic or should I send d boy to stay with him , if I do , will dey allowed me to set my eyes on DAT boy again in life … Am totally confused , and I have suffered enough .. No even help from anybody …. Remember d mother brought out her too breast necked ,& swear dat d marriage can never hold as far as she’s concern in d family … Advice me on what to do plzz.
The title of this story shared on Social Media today is my answer to this heartbroken wife. What’s your advice please?
I feel so overwhelmed reading the torture in this story. It’s unbelievable! Two things come to mind
1. The man is under a spell
2. The man needs to be admitted at a psychiatric hospital for some medications.
This is not happening.
I beg to quote my sister Mrs Ogbum “God is more interested in your life than in this marriage”
You have suffered!!! You lived in hell and God rescued you. Who knows where your corpse would be right now, if your parents didn’t ask that you come back home.
If you want to move on with your life… Please do! You have tried my sister. There is no marriage in heaven. God didn’t institute marriage for people to suffer this much. He is interested in your happiness. If this is not reason enough for a wife to move on, then I wonder what?
From the beginning, it was just a ceremony. There was no marriage dear. Which man abandons his new bride with her parents till a day after the wedding?
which “normal man”
Love does not hurt. Please do not send your son with him to be tortured. I know it is tough being alone and taking care of a child but you are that babies stability. You know what you endured, it will be no different for your son. You both have been rescued and it is up to you to focus on healing and strengthening yourself to ensure that it never happens again, with anyone else.
Thank you Aiesha.