Topic: there are still good friends in the world. Uche is not an enemy.
I want to remain as anonymous. Please pardon me Ooº°˚ I can’t remember the prerequisite you gave us before sending you a mail but my mail is just a general comment.
First of all, I don’t like the way people are spoiling Uche and trying to poison her friend’s mind towards her. She did not do anything wrong. She is just concerned about her friend and came to give the husband’s side of the story. Yes I know that not all friend’s are good friends but there are still some good ones out there. Its. Just like when we say all men cheat and you hear some wives and girlfriend’s come out to say their men don’t cheat so also are there friends who are not evil. I have a friend and we are nice to each other. Though we hurt ourselves ones in a while but we make up and get back on track.
This is the same way people on your blog always advice married ladies to keep off their single friends which is not nice. No man is an island so you need friends. If you have been unfortunate not to have good friends too bad but there are still good ones out there. People said a lot of things about Uche. E.g that maybe her husband has not bought her a car etc what is bringing that here. I don’t know Uche from adam but I don’t like the way people started painting her as a bad friend and to think she even owned up. Her approach may have been bad for some of you but it does not make her bad. She was just sick and tired of her friend’s unreasonable attitude.
Secondly at Ahdaisy, you sound so mature in most of your advice to people in fact I take all your advice but 1where I came and commented repeatedly that you missed that particular one. I did not insult you though. But I have been disappointed at the way you reply to all these haters. Now that is your weak point. You really don’t know how to ignore people. After you sent in a post cussing and cussing your haters, people advised you to ignore which you said you have heard I am surprise to come and see that you are still replying this people. One advice to you which I told you on that post is LEARN TO IGNORE irrelevant things so you will look ever young. You already said you did not use your real name why not just relax and ignore them, if you had ignored them by now they would have been tired. Look at someone like Linda ikeji with the way people abuse her she will just post the comment and laugh inwardly. It’s just like pouring water on the back of a chicken try and be like her.
To ALL haters I ask you one Q what do you stand to gain from all your hateful comments. Does it increase the money in your account?
To you Eya, if you want to gate comment and sieve them, better employ someone specially for that otherwise your hubby will ban you from blogging because this will take more of your time.
Have a nice day
Uwe……
My tot exactly abt uche@poster
Eya now I wish you had a like botton on your blog so I will like all the comments of my supporters. #wink from POSTER… Nekky tnx for the applause lolz
Dats a vacancy. Aunty Eya employee me
My tot exactly abt uche@poster
Lol @ the last paragraph.
Uche, you don become WC star oh!
My own is people dont know this is a blog.. If some one is spewing hateful comments to u,its either u say hurtful things to them or keep quiet and let it die down.. Its a fucking blog. at the end of the day,most people dont know each other so why should what they say bother u really.. I come here and read stuffs and am just amazed..
some people even want to make the blog about them and eya keeps allowing that,when the tell u to get comment,u will gate,when they say stop gating,u will stop gating,really?
is that how u are going to get ur blog out there? u think if the likes of linda and bella kept doing what people wanted they would go far?
unless u do not want to make money from ur blog,but if u want to,do what u want to do and not what people want u to do. those who leave comments wouldnt come and advertise or sponsor ur blog o. so do things wisely thats if u want to monitize ur blog
what would make u get sponsors is comments,the more comments u have,the more traffic u have,the more ur blog is recognise,so if u keep deleting comments and all,u wouldnt get there. dont delete comments that have been published again. no sponsor wants to know what the comments are about,they just want to know ur traffic
so its either u are gating comments (choosing the comments u want to publish and publish them without deleting later) or u are not gating comments(and dont delete anybody's comments for anybody). when they are tired of fighting,they would keep quiet and rest
i know why i am saying this
A big round of applause for you dear Poster. I agree with you on all what you have said. you are so on point. I said and will keep saying it that Uche is a very good friend, she's not a pretender. having one of Uche Onuoha in your life is better than having 10 pretenders who pose as friends and will laugh at you behind you.
Ahdaisy, i'll advise to slow it down and not take anonymous comments to heart cos it might take its toll on you if you don't watch it. I agree with what Jay said in one post about ignoring and wisdom. some of these people are just having fun and the more you reply them, the more you are giving them the go-ahead to continue.
Aunty Eya, pls stop gating comments. You are busy already so why add more jobs to the ones you have already?? pls free the comments. thanks.
Uwe babe, u nailed it! You took this right from my fingers. Uche is a saint! Not all friends will sit and watch you misbehave and just path ur back, so they don't hurt ur feelings… MBA! I'll go all the way to call you names, and do everything I can to pull u out of that behaviour.
I have a g/frnd who almost left her home cos she tot her hubby didn't love her anymore..when I heard of it, I gave her serious heat! I called her names, told her how selfish she was, and all stuff!
Her hubby was into politics, and at the peak of it at that moment, and she was demanding attension, when it was election period, what crab! I gave her hell, and she stayed back. At first she hated me, but now she can't stop thanking me, for making her stay!
Uche is a saint!
For adhaisy, I love you so much, and I'll say take this advise.. Learn to ignore.. I always look forward to your comment, so know that you rock babe.. Kisses and hugs
Aunty eya, pls stop gating comment, it's getting to me… I know how to run oh, and I can run very fast, and really far away. Love though.
Patsy
Uwe babe, u nailed it! You took this right from my fingers. Uche is a saint! Not all friends will sit and watch you misbehave and just path ur back, so they don't hurt ur feelings… MBA! I'll go all the way to call you names, and do everything I can to pull u out of that behaviour.
I have a g/frnd who almost left her home cos she tot her hubby didn't love her anymore..when I heard of it, I gave her serious heat! I called her names, told her how selfish she was, and all stuff!
Her hubby was into politics, and at the peak of it at that moment, and she was demanding attension, when it was election period, what crab! I gave her hell, and she stayed back. At first she hated me, but now she can't stop thanking me, for making her stay!
Uche is a saint!
For adhaisy, I love you so much, and I'll say take this advise.. Learn to ignore.. I always look forward to your comment, so know that you rock babe.. Kisses and hugs
Aunty eya, pls stop gating comment, it's getting to me… I know how to run oh, and I can run very fast, and really far away. Love though.
Patsy
Yippeee!!!! Eya has opened the comments Ooº°˚ but hope its not for just this post. Hmmmm now this is room for all the haters to come in but Everybody please ignore them oooooooo they will be tired.
Every girl needs one Uche in her life. Example: I had 2 friends & when i had a major fight wit my husband, i called my 1st friend & told her i was leaving my matrimonial home. She said i shld leave, dat my husband is not a good man. I called my 2nd friend, she ran straight 2 my house & met me packing my things. She called me d biggest fool in d world & so many other unprintable names. I came back 2 my senses & started unpacking my things. I found out 2mths later dat my first friend was jealous of me & dat her cousin was dating my husband. Uche u be friend jare.
Ahdaisy, u've fallen my hand of recent. After everything Jay told u. All these pple r having fun at ur expense & u take it 2 heart. U let some faceless pple pull u down. U cant win every arguement. D only reason u r always under attack is bcos u always try 2 defend urself. B4 u know it, dis blog fight will begin 2 affect u physically, mentally & emotionally. Learn 2 IGNORE & move on. Life is 2 short.
Aunty Eya i hope dis would last(ungating of comments).Don't knw why you keep on doing what some particular ppl wants you to do,pardon me buh it shows that you don't hv a mind of your own, you could be easily controlled or manipulated *RME* I haff tire fuh yhu! Today they will tell you to gate comments, you will run and do so, tmoro they will tell you to ungate comments and you will equally run and do so and the next day they would ask you to bring down a post,immediatly the post is off, HABA!! They swear for you. Can't you manage ur blog the way you see fit or do they own d blog wit you.
Anyways, I hv said my own. Nobody should run ur blog for you, you should be the one always in control. When you feel that you hv been insulted and you could nt handle it or insult back then learn to ignore, or better still leave the blog for the time being and visit when next you feel you can handle it.
And to all dem cyberbullies, *Remember one day it could be you
Lucy
Eye's rolling… Just a step to the next bus stop! Bye bye oooo!
testing! testing!! testing!!! just checking if the comments are still gated and if yes laying low till i test again and see its been ungated
Thank you poster for the talk on Uche o. It was just somehow reading so many people lashing out at her. I had to keep visiting that post just to read her comments and see the 'bad' thing she did. I didn't see anything. Uche, God will bless you abeg. You and Chi know how far you have come in your friendship. That's why I don't understand when people pass judgement instantly on people. How a friend could put her full name on a blog, lashed out at her friend just like everyone did and now earned the frenemy name is still not easy to comprehend. That means we all that don't support bad things on this blog are enemies too na, abi?
It's only this new generation of African women that dread sustaining friendships with ladies once they get married. Is that how our parents acted when they got married? Na wa o. Friend this, friend that, single girls this, married ladies that. *phew!
Ahdaisy, Ahdaisy, Ahdaisy. We beg you to please and please, keep calm and smize, not cos of your 'lovers', but cos of your own sanity. We love you and are looking out for you. We could really care less about the 'lovers'. You should too. If you continue like this, it's only going to get worse. Two wrongs don't make a right. You only make them happy and you energise them when you do all these. You should know this by now.. You know this. You know that you know this.
So, you people made a post about Uche and Ahdaisy? Hian, wonders shall never end! Aunty Eya, if you are post-less, maybe i could help. Try a post on 'LAGOS IS GETTING BETTER'. Rubisi
Now that sanity has returned, wen will the epistle writers submit my assignment? I go vex ooo *rme
BTW, I cuked spaghetti and Indomie today, it turned out gud. Wish I cud send a step by step procedure but I dnt want pple bashing me cos my pots have seen better years!!!!
My tots exactly
was surprised wen i saw pples comment calln uche a frenemy.
I v a friend lyk her n she is d only friend i v cos she tells me d truth nt minding if am hurt.
@Ada Jayde,oso enu igwe adiro easy nwannem.
Otutu ndi eche na ha kwere ekwe ka aga acho acho dt day.
May u neva b found wanting.
Remain rapturable
Don't worry, will panel beat and delete the bashing.
yaayyyy!,,,thank God gating is over. That was tiring
Ehen! Oya let peace reign in this family ooo. Enough of all the drama already. It is well with us all
All the best
Aunty Eya God is your strength, i understood your reason for gating comments, twas to put sanity in the house. thank God we have that now. You are blessed
testing the mic testing the mic. una still dey pad lock the comments?
Yep! Chi, you have a friend in Uche indeed. Not many will do what she did. Majority will tell you wat you want to hear while praying for the ruin of your marriage…..infact, they will even orchestrate it all sef just to make your marriage fail , but Uche is a true friend….she'll give you the truth hardcore! That's the kind of friend who would have your best interests at heart and always look out for you. She's gat your back..
Ahdaisy baibay, they have said it all. Learn to tune out certain comments. It's hard sometimes i know, but like they say, it's only a blog. JAY knows wats up….you shldnt let anyone's comments get to you. Remember that even fools have opinions, so not all comments should get to you.
By the way, Aunt Eya, whatever happened to that game in which you are supposed to name a major ingredient and we are supposed to make different dishes with that ingredient and submit for posting? We only did for plantain and that was it. Pls bring it back. Thanks.
Chei! Ahdaisy has suffered o….lol…
I was scrolling down and when I saw ny name, I literally said 'hey! what have I dne again o?!!!' hahahha….
Have you guys ever thought about the fact that maybe I actually enjoy replying haters? Everyone cannot be like be like Jay or Bonario. Sometimes, the trill of being on blogs for me comes from arguing. (btw I never did a post where I cussed haters…if you say I did, show me the post or comment and show me where I cussed them or used fowl words on them)
The only thing that is kinda sad is that ppl cannot argue a point with you without trying to get personal, or cuss you. One is even asking me to come and fight with her on the street…LMP*O!!!!!!!
They leave the point you r trying to make and start looking for how to rubbish ur person. esp when they see they r losing the argument. The new one is 'jobless house wife'…lol! If only they knew my schedule on a normal day, they'll pity me sef.. Dnt get me wrong, I dnt think wives who dnt have jobs or businesses are bad or something…it's just funny to be classified as one.
Anyway, for those whose hands I fell, pls I'll try n pick it up…only that I get bored when I come on a blog and everyone is saying the same thing…I love diverse opinions on an issue. I dnt like blog fights tho…but I know it's not possible to prevent it with ungated comments. I will be shocked to my bones if after these comments are ungated, peace continues to reign forever….how?! Not possible.
On Uche's case, like I said, we dnt know the dynamics of their relationship so we cnt classify her as a frenemy. She wudnt have come out to say her name if it were so.
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Pls what post did uche comment on? Guess I missed it.cos I dony know wat u all are on about
It's not like i like being anon to cuss people. I have learnt not to advice a thug cos even with all the education,husband,family and what have they. They never stop disgracing themselves …….. Ahdaisy Jayde you are a tout,drama queen and what have you,if the people you are referring to answer your long episode you'll say they hate you or cuss you. Yet you never listen to advise when they say ignore and still yet,you bring problem upon your self. Your husband must be trying if not cooling it down with a female friend already… Learn to shut up girl,Responsible married woman have a limit to what they drag. Take Advise and shut up Ahdaisy Jayde shut up Mrs always getting the point and proving the point and still defending the point to suit her self. Eya don't delete my comment. One has got to tamp this brat. Huh
My dear I am shocked to see that she still came here to defend herself. It means she gives out advice but can't take which is bad. Hmmmmmmm
You took the word right out of my mouth. Choi. Laugh won tear my belle.
Ahdaisy jayde just likes attention!relax woman relax!na only u dey!
http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2013/06/should-i-tell-doctor-my-husband-raped-me.html?m=1
Na siddon look I dey too,hian this is getting out of hand
My people say remove d hand of a (enwe)monkey from fire lest it turns to a human hand
HRM,pls don't us bashers and haters but it takes two to tango.cheers
I hope I was subtle enough
She is a lost cause.I regretted ever bashing her ,I thought I was bashing a normal being little did I know she is an aro patient
Madam itk carry go
*mind*
Sanity kwa!awusa a ba go awka
All d signs were there but we ignored it.just one more push yaba left straight
Duh! I love the way she runs her blog right now! She still needs peeps to patronize her. Don't be a kill joy!
Lucinda
Ahdaisy is a married woman which implies some level of maturity. Have you all considered that she could just be an immatured woman?
I like her because for her age, she's gat godly wisdom. However, it gets to her head and she reacts when least expected. Please, be more tolerant of her as she has immense potential.
Sister Ahdaisy – make u no fall our hand by responding to everything. Even God keeps quiet sometimes.
Why are you fighting like a school yard teenager? aren't you all supposed to be "matured women"? Na wa for everyone
Una welldone ooo!@ patsy I so loved ur comment!dats exactly wat I had to say. Biko kachi fo nu
Hmmmm….Lucinda Maya,Evelyn,Mrs Jay,olgal u dey change name ooooo. Its gud 2 c u here doh.
This is my 1st time commenting on this blog. I have read dis blog all from the very first day it started, Aunty Eya, right from the days u always tried to advertise ur blog on LIB. Being a silent watcher i would say I have noticed soooo many things and learnt a lot too. I cant help but agree with this AHDAISY issue. Ahdaisy, fr
Ahdaisy Jayde how do you show your husband love? Am sorry but I am really concerned with the way you defend and argue here,u cnt tell me the issues you have here dnt affect your mood and actions in the home,if you say it doesn't then ah my dear I would say you ve gat a chronic case of split personality. I remembered getting into an arguement on a blog and I was being called names and bashed alongside some other ladies that reasoned like me I could not attend to my hubby well for that period cos my mind was always diverted and I would be scurring away at every opportunity to check what has been said about us again so I can reply. My hubby was so unhappy with my actions then and since he's been monitoring me like a hawk to take it slow on blogging. Like yoruba wud say "moyaa yara mini brain" that is I learnt to borrow myself brain hahahahaha,took it easy and slowed before I became obsessive with fighting pple I dunno and driving my husband away in d process. Ahdaisy please as much as I love ur advises here,pls learn to take things easy and block ur mind and heart against haters so you can take good care of that "beautiful"man u ve got. God bless u dear *hugs*
All these anons…you can all rest now. I have changed. I actually ignored all ur comments here before but I decided to put all ur minds to rest.
1. Pls stop making references to my marriage or husband. You can advice me without bashing, or insulting me and/or my husband. Our relationship is not affected. Thank you. I even sometimes laugh and read out some of ur comments to him and all he says are 'na wa o, U guys have time on that ur village wives' blog'. There is no need making assumptions cos no two humans or relationships are the same. If you can't be urself cos you were insulted, dnt assume it happens to anyone. Trust me, if wives connection were affecting my marriage, I wudav gone since. Myvhusband and I fight for our marriage to the last and any external force that puts a strain on it, we cut off and burn!!
2. The problem we all have here is that we all take things more serioulsy than we shud. Yes, all of us. both bashers, watchers, basher's cheerleaders and I.
Sorry for pissing all of you off. Since it seems I am the scapre goat you all want to sacrifice and throw under the bus, you all have ur wish.
I joined this blog because I had a lot to learn. I have learnt. Those that say I dnt take advice, I do. I only did not take the advice/insult of people who say I shud not reply haters and those who resumed office as official haters of Ahdaisy.
I also joined cos I felt I had answers to some issues people were facing. Recipes, tips, general info. I have succeeded in doing that including inderground.
The last reason I joined was for the fun of it. I had some really fun times, a few LOLs and a few teary eyed moments from posts ….until the kill joys and pepper bodies came in. My sin is that I refused to let them have the last say and I refuse to cower at their bullying, I also refused to go under anon.to attack them, I defended myself with my name and all …my bad…isnt that after all how a young woman esp. in Nigeria is raised? To run away from a fight even if it cost her life so that people will not say…
I'll leave the blog for you so that you can all rest. You have all finally succeeded in bulldozing her away. Congratulations cos Let no man say 'I went to hell cos dang! this girl on this blog is the most annoying thing ever, I couldn't, I just couldn't' lol. Peace y'all…I'm out!
p.s lol@ my farewell speech, I am really a drama queen…hehehe…
Yawnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
Hmmm…! So it's now come to this? Ahdaisy has finally been hounded off the blog?
I've been a silent observer of this whole drama. The only time I spoke about 'ahdaisy-bashing' was when I observed that pple would usually comment anonymously to criticise her. I also pointed out that every1 makes judgements knowingly or unknowingly, overtly or covertly. It's just that some people are more outspoken with theirs.
I say the same thing now. Every so-called ahdaisy basher or advicer is guilty of the same thing they accuse her of. Why not just ignore her? Very simple!
I think the constant picking on her finally got to her. Too bad, I say!
Yawns 2. This wouldn't b d 1st blog she was being a drama queen in and wouldn't be d last. She always leaves. Ask her what happened to her at Ladun's. Not like I care, bt she shud start telling herself some truths cos she clearly lies to herself.
She say she likes drama. Pls start visiting Ladun again. U will get loads of drama there. Oh, u got tired? U want to bring ur Ladun xter 2 WC? Pls fear God even if u don't fear Eya. U know dat d heat on Ladun is far worse dan it is here. But no, u didn't lyk d way here was peaceful abi? U like drama indeed. Please enjoy d dramas since dats wot u like. Cos u like lying to urself. Meanwhile u ran away from heat at Ladun's. Lolz ps: I don't really gad, since my president doesn't. Virtuosity pls cool down n ignore her like u adviced others. She's clearly being sarcastic. She aint leaving. She can't. It'd be a shame on her part. Causing trouble on blogs and bailing all d tym? She aint doing dat ds time.
Indirectly starting all the drama again@ virtuosity
U v forgotten so soon when you sent Eya a mail cussing someone you claimed did what to you. That was actually the first time I noticed you cos usually when I read comments I don't read people's names. Well you have proven to the whole world that you are the troublemaker. My dear your absence here wontt kill Eya's blog. Take a bow
Nope. Just calmly stating an opinion. Guess I'm entitled to that.
'We all need to have the kind of relationships that dont break down when truth is spoken in love'. This is from the book, Power of A Praying woman. I honestly think Uche fits into it. She was concerned about her friend and her home so she probably wanted to air the husband side of the story. Maybe TMI was said here but i do think Uche isnt a bad person. I have been following the entire story, just thought to comment on this particular issue
Ahdaisy pls don't go! I wish I can write an epistle to give reasons why you should stay but all I can say is, you are one of the reasons I visit WC and you are one of the ppl that have made it home for me.
Ada, u really do not hv to reply anyone. Nkiti ka eji a gbagbu……i used to admire ur comments (never even thought of bashing U) but for a yl now U put up ds long epistles n tuk n tuk, when we become tok opinionated abt evrythin, we gradually lose relevance in our circles.
There is so much wisdom in silence. U shd also learn to let it go, dust it off no matter how much ur ego is pushing U. Ryt from when all d katakata here started plus d mail U sent that was taken down I hv just followed silently.
I still admire U, but nne there is silence in wisdom.
Make excuses for all the anons, be the example even to believers and unbelievers alike, be the same sound minded person at home, outside and on social media. WWJD!! U r better than this. Much love!
Ezenwanyi why did u use anonymous here? Why not sign as ezenwanyi so we knw its u dear? Stop confusing ppl
My dear nelly don't mind me jare I was in a hurry to post won't do it again
Ahdaisy all i can say now is its well. + as human we r nt all knowin cos we r nt God n we can neva play d roll of God. I fink we all need advise as much as we give others cos we r nt island of knowledge. I ve bin monitorin ur advise,arguement n defence here. Som tinz i am thrilled n somtinz i cant bt wonder Y, anyway i fink u need 2 pause n examine.
I think everyone has a right to his or her own opinion and it would be really wrong to have your own say while others aren't allowed to speak freely. I've never had an issue with Ahdaisy's comments, that's just her way of expressing herself. Not one word you say about her here will change who she is, her xter so far has brought her to this point in life and it will take her farther.
Remember, she's her own unique human being and no one has d right to make her feel less than she is.
I think everyone has a right to his or her own opinion and it would be really wrong to have your own say while others aren't allowed to speak freely. I've never had an issue with Ahdaisy's comments, that's just her way of expressing herself. Not one word you say about her here will change who she is, her xter so far has brought her to this point in life and it will take her farther.
Remember, she's her own unique human being and no one has d right to make her feel less than she is.