A friend of mine came to M̶̲̅ε̲̣ with this story. He lost his dad recently. His mum left him A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ his siblings about 10years ago due to circumstances that Ƌяε hazy to him right now.
All he can remember was that his dad accused his mum of being d reason for his downfall. She left
4 children behind A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ the last child being d only girl was not even up to a year then.
Now that the man is dead, the woman wants back into their lives. The man’s family is divided as some want her back while others don’t. The first three male children don’t want her back, only d girl does. We Need advice…...( Sorry for the epistle)..
All he can remember was that his dad accused his mum of being d reason for his downfall. She left
4 children behind A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ the last child being d only girl was not even up to a year then.
Now that the man is dead, the woman wants back into their lives. The man’s family is divided as some want her back while others don’t. The first three male children don’t want her back, only d girl does. We Need advice…...( Sorry for the epistle)..
Na wa o.The ones dat are ready to follow their mother shld do so. Life is always a choice!
I think they should all take back their mother into their lives. They were too young to understand what happened then and you never know, their Dad might have been economical with the truth.
They should just find time to listen to her side of the story knowing that THIS is the woman that gave them life and it has not been easy for her too all these years.
Come back to where bawo? Abeg the woman should remain where she was all the years. If she really cared about then, y didn't she make efforts to reconcile or See least ask to see her kids when the ex husband was alive. She feels the dead can't speak right?
Come to think of it, the husband raised these kids alone, even the daughter meant to be breastfeeding and she has the guts to step into their lives again, maybe in their dreams. We probably don't know what d man must have gone through, been their father and mother. Even if they had a step mum, do u know how she subjected them as kids?
I am a woman doing exceedingly well and yes am married, I can relate to this same scenario, that is why I speak with so much hurt. Our dad told us all my mum did to him and how he suffered to prosper again in details even as kids at the age of 11. Grateful for our loving stepmother.
Oh and yes, I forgot to add, when we lost our dad, she came and told all sort of stories not knowing we all had idea of what transpired, forming goody shoes to us. My younger brother did not hesitate to walk her out. She went about speaking ill of our stepmum, poor woman that doesn't look for trouble. Well we asked our uncles and they are confirmed what our father told us way back. Because they were all aware of her cheating and squandering lifestyle. Just maybe she thought our dad kept it away from us. Trying to reap where she did not sow.
I regret sneaking to read WC this afternoon as I am in tears as I write. Bye poster
Poster, this is definitely not a good story and I can appreciate how badly hurt you, and your siblings, have been.
There are some pertinent questions you need to ponder – no need to provide response:
1. Do you sincerely think it was an easy decision for your mum to walk out on all of you at such tender age?
2. Did daddy prevent the possibility of making contact with your mum and for what reason(s)? Una mama want kill una – she bi witch, etc?
3. What efforts had she made to be in touch and how well was she received?
4. Would you all have been better off today had she taken the decision to go with you as she moves out of her matrimonial home? Was it really her decision to leave or she was forced out with no option of taking any of her children?
5. When did the relationship between parents turn sour (with four children)? She must have spent at least 6years with your old-man. What is the story, the real story behind the separation?
6. Why would some of your relations be in support of her coming back – so she still have some people who could accept her in the family?
Whatever pains you are going through, I can assure you that your mum is in a worse situation. Do not help to kill her. The least you can do is accept her apologies and accept her. You do not need to force a relationship – let it happen naturally. Give her all the respect and dues a mother deserves and watch what God would do… enough said!
Seconded bt pple wat wld realy make a woman leave ha children?I tire o
@Poster, Did you write this in a haste? Evrytin seems mumbled.
Anyway! The choice is his, not mine and not yours to decide.
Life is give and take, giving love irrespective will qualify you to have it back in ur own darkest times!
Auf-wiedersien!
Nuff'Said….
Abegi where she been dey all this time?
We are talking about TEN YEARS not ten months. If the man had left behind nothing, wud she still wants to come back? Mmmmmmm anyway show her Love
I've seen situation like this. Its never good. But it's really up to the grown children if they want her back. Make the family call her out. She must apologize to family first and the grown children next. . Don't need no more heartaches or re-live past pain. It's no good. I'd say close the book on her and let her go.
I'm all for forgiveness but wateva their decision, I will noy blame dem cos I'm not in their shoes so won't understand
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Ace Bentley we are tired of you. You are still holding on to the chauvinistic mentality of yesteryears. You blame every problem on women. I feel very sorry for the poor girl that would end up your wife. It's men like you that become a users, baterers, cheats and so on. Read, travel just do something to broaden your mind. You are an ignorant being. Men like you should have been extinct by now. I am really tired of your ignorant, chauvistic, egoistic views. If you have nothing to say just shut the fu*k up and don't type. Nobody takes your advice anyways. I really hope that this your attitude is an act.
Till u walk one mile in anothers shoes do not judge. Do u know what transpired? Do u know if the man threatened to kill her?
Uncle from who's side? Your dads? Lol! Dig well dear. Not saying your mother was a saint but your story get as e be
She was the reason for his downfall? Did that change after she left him for 10 years?
She was the reason for his downfall? Did that change after she left him for 10 years?
The children should speak with those people from the man's family who want her back. They may hold the key to the truth. Her husband may have barred her from coming near him or his children. And what is their Mum saying about what happened?
Usually, when a man thinks his wife is responsible for his downfall, he accuses her of witchcraft and banishes her from his home.