Should I Continue With This Relationship?

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Good Morning  Aunty Eya and wonderful blog readers. I appreciate the wonderful advice given by WC family and this prompted sending in my issue. A reputable aunty of mine introduced a guy to me in January, the 1st thing he asked was my genotype and I said am AA. we became so intimate that there is nothing we don’t discuss. 

In the course of our discussion, he told me a
girl is pregnant for him but can’t marry cos they are both AS. I asked the people around him my aunty inclusive they all confirmed what he said. 

Should I continue with this relationship? Fellow blog readers kindly advice a confused lady pls.
Aunty Eya please post now and I want to remain anonymous plssss.

29 thoughts on “Should I Continue With This Relationship?”

  1. AS People avoid marrying AS cos of sickle cell in children… If she is pregnant for him…then he has kinda moved beyond dat. Let him wait till the girl gives birth…if d child isnt SS…then he shud continue with the girl…. If the child is SS, then he shud still continue with the girl…abi what will happen to the child? Will he now leave the girl to suffer alone?

    U look for ur own man, one that is more stress free abeg…He shud have thought things thru before having sex with the girl. Even if he was not aware of her AS status, he shud have found out first knowing he is AS too… All these men sef! hian! If it is not this, it is that!

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  2. Someone else is pregnant for him so you are automatically second option. Girl, keep it moving. You don't want someone to be with you because of your genotype and not because he truly feels something for you. Also, that girl is going to give birth to that baby so he's going to have ties with her for the rest of your lives and your marriage (if it leads to that).

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  3. My dear this is what we call arrengee relationship. Looks more like a contract relationship everything seems too formal for my liking,no romance,no intimacy,lacks respect and I doubt the sincerety.
    He sees you more like an option,which means that if not for the genotype issue he wouldn't have been with you and am sure he's still counting his loss.
    Don't appear to be so desperate,you should have your own principle and standard of measurement. He must show commitment and sincerety of purpose. Above all he must prove his love for you.
    To avoid such utterances like "if not for this problem,I wouldn't have been with you" in the future.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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  4. Hmmmm if his only reason for not wanting to marry her is cos she is AS and not because he has stopped loving her. Then there is wahala oh. He needs healthy children, he needs a healthy family, that's what he needs u for? or maybe not. Do your investigations, find out if he's still in love with that lady. Baby mamas can be a problem in a home cos u're def gonna be sharing ur husband..he must want to spend time with his child, and there by, the mum. (that is if u guys end up getting married). Since you said u guys are very close, may be u can ask him these things urself whilst also observing. For me, i like to enter a home.. fresh!! no blasts from the past.

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  5. Has for me o, pls don't cont. with d relationship.. Co his reason for not marring. Girl who is pregnant for him is bcos of their genotype what if d girl gives birth and d child is AS or AA den what will happen? He is not getting married to d girl cos of genotype he cld also look for another reason to not marry u too..

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  6. Hmmm, talk to God in prayer. I don't want to be judmental here. Are you ready to deal with having anoda woman to contend with cuz in this age and time, I find it funny when people get ladies pregnant without knowing her genotype. PS thanks forall the encourgements. Bonario, ace, jullie, omalicha, diva and odas. Amaka

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  12. Even if d unborn child turn out to b AA or AS, wat about d ones dt wil follow, expt if they wil stick to only one child. In anoda way, if d baby turns out to b SS, hw is d mother going to cope alone, it is better imagined. Pls put ursef in her shoes dear, u wil not b hapi if a man left u wit an SS child. Leav hm alone wit his troubles, n wait 4 ur own man

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  16. Pls wait fφя̩̥̊ ЧЯ own man cos of tomorrow There Ȋ̝̊̅§ something called Peace of mind which every woman need I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ ђε̲̣̣̣̥я̩̥̊ home but Ŵi̶̲̅τ ЧЯ marriage to dis man…….. .EPHY

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  17. can As and As produce Aa, i doubt @ adebubler
    lool @ anonymous 12.30, she is yoruba now, hence d mixture of engglish
    *covers face*

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  18. dont continue with the relationship. You are just an option. he will always go back to the woman he truly love. even if u marry him,he will end up having extra-marital affair with that same woman. may be he wouldnt make the mistake of getting her preggy again. dont deceive yourself dear, find your own man. visit http://www.suspenseand emotions.blogspot.com for interesting stories

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  22. So he wants to leave her with a likely SS child…? Dats enough reason to dump his sorry ass. Such men would definately run when problems arise in d future. As if d lady got herself pregnant. Now dat she needs him he wants to abandon her…so unfair

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  23. Plz let him shift with his wahala,he now sees u as his option cuz ur AA abi? The most imp tin anybody with As considers before accepting a date is Genotype.

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  29. Medicine has moved in an advance method. If you feel like you are in luv with the guy I would say go ahead. The only way people can avoid sickle cell child is by going thr u IVF and having a genetic test done before the baby is implanted into the female womb. The only problem is tht u need money to go thru this.procedure

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