Hello Madam Eya and all blog readers n followers.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 17 months now. We really love each other. However,
he is yet to meet my parents.
He promised me that he would come when next he is free. But he just completed a one week leave and didn’t come or mention it,though he has been all lovey-dovey. His next one week leave is in 3weeks time.
Do I bring up the fact that He promised to see my parents soonest or I would wait and watch how things pan out?
I really want us to get married this year and am really eager to start setting things like this in motion.
I don’t want to seem desperate. Please genuine advice. Thanks
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 17 months now. We really love each other. However,
he is yet to meet my parents.
He promised me that he would come when next he is free. But he just completed a one week leave and didn’t come or mention it,though he has been all lovey-dovey. His next one week leave is in 3weeks time.
Do I bring up the fact that He promised to see my parents soonest or I would wait and watch how things pan out?
I really want us to get married this year and am really eager to start setting things like this in motion.
I don’t want to seem desperate. Please genuine advice. Thanks
MY Dear chill,watch what happens so it doesnt seem like your rushing or forcing him to do something in a hurry. remeber God's time is simply the best, so just be enjoying it for now, guess when its right he would do it willing without you asking
Pls dnt ask him. Like the first commenter said let things b fo nw. Give him another one month then ask. If he doesn't "shake" body, then b sure he might nt b ready fo committment. More so, do not think fo God. Everything wld work out seemlessly @ his time
Babe, if your boyfriend is ready to settle down into married life with you, you won't have to remind him about visiting your parents. He'll be the one on your case. That being said just because he hasn't mentioned it doesn't mean he's not thinking about it. He might be making some plans of his own that he has not let you in on because he wants to "handle things" as the man. My advice? Let him be. Some men don't like "being told what to do" And he might see it that way if you bring it up. Ignore the issue and prayerfully commit it to God, if you guys truly love each other, I'm sure it will happen soon. I know it may be tough, but be patient dear. If however being patient means you have waited another year or so, then I suggest you try to discover the reason why he is not making any move. If you have any family function, this is the PERFECT excuse to get him to meet the parents, its not the ideal scenario you might have been hoping for but at least if he is willing to come with you knowing that he'd meet your family, then at least you can put your mind at rest that he's in it for the long haul.
Good luck dear
It’s interesting the way people talk about love… What I smell is people getting infatuated and calling it love. Obviously you like each other and are dating. You need to start proper courtship. What’s the difference? Dating is done in ‘secret’, while courtship starts when the parents are in the picture.
17 months is long enough to get serious… arrange for him to meet your people. Plan the trip and invite him: nothing elaborates – just a visit. Introduce him to the family and I trust they will take it from there. The proper introduction is when the man comes prepared with his family to ‘knock on the door’. This will come later. What you’re trying to do now is to get him know as the one you’re seeing. You should also do same with his family cos the earlier this is done, the better for both of you. All the best!
… is to get him 'known' as the one you’re seeing
Have you met his own parents???
Yes I have.I've met every member of his family. Thanks a lot for the advice.Thanks Madam Eya for posting this.
pls aunty Eya u hav refused to post my mail oh. So i have decided to ask my question here and now and hope i will get an answer.
Please how do i remove snails from dere shell whitout breaking the shell. Appreciate ur help people.
Are u having a laugh?
Lmao. She's taking d micky. COOK the SNAIL.
Ok, if you've met his family members, act like you don't really care about settling down soon.
Act like you've got some plans now which may take you out of town for a long while and watch for his reaction.
This will let you know if he is interested in settling down soon.
I sent you a reply that you should boil the snails a little before removing from the shell with a fork.
From this story, it's clear that you are desperate. How capable d'u think your man is? Lovey-dovey shouldn't be mistakened 4 real love. He may not be buoyant enough to do proper without you knowing. Pls don't rush in, so you dnt rush out. I suggest you give it time, dedicate it to God in prayers, 17months isn't too long 4 courtship. After all, wedding is a one-day ceremony; marriage is a life-time experience. Why not take ur time and kno Gos's plan 4 u…Mary
There is a long strong pin that you need to get. The alternative is to get a big nail that your hand can grip comfortably. Poke the nail into the snail, twist at an angle and drag it out. That's the way it is done without boiling or breaking.
My dear, d fact dat u hav met wit his family is a good step. Dnt ask him directly, we women have a way 2 infer a question in a slick way like in a laughing tone " honey I dnt knw why my parents r disturbing me, I think my mum is scared n she wld love 2 meet d special one in my life" well something like that. I have used dat trick b4 lol. But keep his mind at rest, he might have anxiety meeting ur parents, bt u knw men n their ego they wld neva want 2 admit dat they r afraid. Just use wisdom. After all those n prayers n still doesn't budge, then kick his ass 2 d curbs
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Don't ask him please just be patient for anor 1 or 2mths u really don't knw what is on his mind and don't seem or look desperate cos he may have a second thought. Above all this Pray!!!
Wish u luck
Eya i know you will like my story someday when am willing to speak. On the oda hand hope am not too late,i believe before we ladies get serious with a relationship,we should involve our parents,recently a guy asked me out and low and behold i didn't have to sing it for him,he said he was coming to see my parents and tell them he is the one dating their daughter and likewise introduce me to his parents on his own accord,i know i had done it before with an ex,i just believe when u force the guy you give him an opportunity to misbehave,give him some space,lovey-dovey my foot,if you have to dia call center to be on d phone for an hr do it,make him feel some guys out there are willing to take it to the extreme level,17months,straffing inclussive ooo babe be wise * you happen to be in an open relationship* hope u ain't chasing away good guys coming around oooo. WISE UP and no make me vex… ahahahah. lol