Aunty Eya Good Morning. I thank you so much for all you did. May God bless you. This is Christy the lady that sought advice concerning which guy to go for? Whether the 1st or 2nd. And a big thank you to all those that left comments, most especially Jay and madam Ahdaisy. Jay you are a darling love you (Godly love) wink.
The first guy is a nice person also just that he mostly
shows it to outsiders more than me. He doesn’t drink nor smoke and can’t cheat that’s where d confusion is coming in. But d second guy drinks and likes social life and keeps loads of friends though males so much, but he respects me.
Am also close to d first guy’s family cos I stayed in his family house during my NSYC and they are nice too. Just that my fear is; if I go for d second one, ppl might begin to say it’s because his family is much richer than d 1st guy’s, they may say that am going for money not knowing that he loves me more than I do.
Lastly, the first one is much older than me. We are age mates with the second though he acts more matured than the first guy.
So that is it my dear aunty Eya and dear family. I feel so free sharing my story here than going to friends I know.
The first guy is a nice person also just that he mostly
shows it to outsiders more than me. He doesn’t drink nor smoke and can’t cheat that’s where d confusion is coming in. But d second guy drinks and likes social life and keeps loads of friends though males so much, but he respects me.
Am also close to d first guy’s family cos I stayed in his family house during my NSYC and they are nice too. Just that my fear is; if I go for d second one, ppl might begin to say it’s because his family is much richer than d 1st guy’s, they may say that am going for money not knowing that he loves me more than I do.
Lastly, the first one is much older than me. We are age mates with the second though he acts more matured than the first guy.
So that is it my dear aunty Eya and dear family. I feel so free sharing my story here than going to friends I know.
I thot the point of a revisit is so that u will tell us who u chose?? Wats d point of this if u havnt made a decision yet? Or did I read wrong?
And every contribution is necessary, no need singling a few out.
Christy, please I beg you go for the second guy and forget the first guy. A broken relationship/courtship is better than a broken marriage.
I'm sorry to deviate from the topic; I just want to say "Today is my birthday everybody!"
Happy Birthday Rubynnia.
God's abundant blessings.
You will live to celebrate your children's children.
Amen!
U hv come again abi? U want 2 eat ur cake & hv it. Alright marry d 2 of dem so u can hv everything u want in a man in two men. There was no fault in d 2nd guy yesterday. We all told u 2 go 4 him. Today its ur 1st guy dat is d saint of d day & d 2nd one all of a sudden has faults. Oya go 4 d 1st one since dat is wat u want 2 hear. I tell u again, u r suffering from FIRST LOVE SYNDROME.
Yucee.
Godly love back 🙂
Well, the advice remains the same, though you have explained more. It's the 2ND guy all da way! My dear,
1. When you make a RIGHT decision, it doesn't always have to be a POPULAR decision. Don't confuse a RIGHT decision for a POPULAR one because a POPULAR decision isn't always the RIGHT one. So, do not bother about 'dem say, dem say'. Let them say!
2. The 2nd guy loves you, he respects you. So long as he doesn't lose his mind and beat you up after drinking, that can be worked on. You can help him work on cutting his drinking and even go sober sef. Remember he is your best friend. Help him and his health by working on that. Okay?
He is social. Girl! You too should do a 'keeping up with Mr 2nd' in that social regard o. Be friends with his friends. Make him feel free to do all the social stuffs with you. Okay?
The 1st guy doesn't drink and smoke has absolutely nothing to do with your happiness or choice. Those traits are the guy's headache, as it is his health it affects and not yours. That one no join at all.
3. Age is but a number as you can clearly see. The younger one acts way more matured than the supposedly older one. So, who do you now think is older maturity wise? It's about maturity here o and not age at all. Go for maturity. Na e win am.
Above all, worry not. People will always say. So, be ready to stand by your choice and don't let anybody try to bully you for your choice. If the thing pain them too much, let them quarrel with their brother (the 1st guy) for not treating you right. Shikena.
Hey happy bday deary…may our good Lord bless u with all d goodies of life…muah
Happy bday Rubynnia… May God bless u and give u d grace to stay blessed.
U my mum's bday mate. I wish u all d goodness I wish my mum. Happy birthday.
Happy birthday Rubynnia! God bless you loads. Have a fun filled day dear.
How do I "like" this post Eya? I mean u should import the *like* and *unlike* icon here too. And this lady is always on point. Well said
Jay, r u male or female? Married or single.? Nothin, nothin o, just curious.:)
Begining to lik u a lot.
Yels o #team keeping up with the mr 2nd# looolz.
Jay, well done!
Anty Eya I just went through it and was moved by what Jay said. If not for you how will I get such advice I really appreciate walahi (Hausa). I want to ask you a favour pls. Can u pls connect me to Jay either thru bbm so that I can ask him some critical question about all dis? If possible I'll be glad. No bad motives trust me. He can send his pin to you cos I wudnt want to publish my Pin, so I can get it 4rm you.
Thanks
Christy.
Hiya birthday mate!!! Happy birthday dear
Hbd Rubynnia. WIsh you all the best as u celebrate 2day.
No way o. Keep it all on this blog, some of us want to learn too :D. But really, Christy, u may not be the only person in a similar situation. Haba naa, be 9c…
Jay i duff my hat for you! spot on. need i say more dear poster?
Happy bday ruby!@poster,I take God name beg u,stop looking4excuses!I beg,dat is wat u re doin,u want2follow ur hrt n ur hrt is with dat ur 1st luv.dunno who is lying2u dat he doesn't cheat.sum1 dat didn't want u2cum n visit doesn't cheat.abeg let's liv matter 4mathais,my boo is also very sociable.sumtyms I tell him he knows half of lagos state,we don't go out n he doesn't c sum1 he knows.eida 4rm way bck or sum1 dat jus knows him around bt guess wat?as long as wen he's meeting dis pple,he hugs me so close2him n introduces me as his wife(we aren't married yet)den I'm happy,n any bad friend I c around him I tell him ho ha I don't like n he shud step bck 4rm dem,even if he doesn't answer me immediately,sumthin sumthin will happen n he wud split 4rm d friend.age is nothing but a number,@least u aren't older dan him.PLS use ur head,n 4get wat ny1 will say.its ur life.ur future!
Hehehehehehe Jay has taking over from Ada jaide…..
No need to share my view since d last was nt acknowledged.
Jay, well spoken. @ poster follow ur heart n do wat is ryt so u don't regret ur future 2mao. No body go follow una stay d house, na just una so choose wu will cherish now n later. As my mum will always say it is beta to marry a guy wu loves u more than u do. USE UR HEAD n follow ur heart.
awwww dont give up in sharing your views jare..just kep being you..
Hehehehe. I am a female actually o.
Do I sound male? Not the first time I'm hearing it sha. Oh my!
Anon 12:00, are you still interested in my status now? I'm beginning to like you too #PlentyPunIntended 🙂
Christy, Aunt Eya will contact you on that shortly. Bless!
Happy Birthday Ruby…. May the favour of God be with you always in everything you do. Have a great day…and year…
Dear Poster, just follow ur heart. Remember anything bad you get during courtship will be multiplied in marriage. If you find things you can absolutely not live with, don't try to manage it.
Happy birthday Ruby! God bless.
Dear Poster you have said things abt the 2 Men, how the 2nd one loves you more than the first one, bt dt is what you can see with ur physical eyes. Now my advice to you is for you to pray to God let HIM give you the right man as husband.
Christy, its like u don't know what u want,u stated dat d first guy never loved u all dis while u guys were dating bt just started lovin u now, bt d second guy loves n respect u.
You ve a guy dat loves, cares, and respect u and even cnt bear it wen u cry,and u even called him ur bestfrnd, both families loves each oda,what else do u want?
My dear, to me, I think d 2nd guy is d best 4 u bt I will want u to pray over dis issue, ask God to direct u and show u d right man. Goodluck.
That name "Jay" sounds masculine.
Happy Birthday Ruby, God bless you now and always.
Happy birthday Ruby. May God give u dat which u earnestly desire. Congrats and enjoy ur day
Abeg u sis wit God almighty stick wit the 2nd guy
HBD Ruby,more of God's blessings IJN!!!
Wow. My bad then. Jay for 'J' sha.
Happy birthday Rubynnia. God bless you now and always!
Happy birthday rubby! Sorry its coming in late.