Pregnant Mom In Need Of Bedroom Advice

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Good morning Aunty Eya,how are you today?  Kindly post this on your blog as I would love to hear other views from women on how to handle this.


Am pregnant and in my third trimester(my first), God has been faithful so far cos @least I can say I have been well just little/normal pregnancy symptoms and all. Most of all, am glad I married the best hubby in the world(for all those that believe,there are still good men in the world just be who u want to be with) he’s been very very very supportive,loving, caring and everything I ever wanted in a husband…


Well, what bothers me now is that recently I keep having waist/back ache and my sister told me its cos am getting close to term. I still go to work, do some chores and cook but d only thing I dread is making love…

Now don’t get me wrong, he is not rough or harsh on me but cos of my waist I just fear it cos of the “direct contact”. Even hubby feels my pain and sometimes don’t want me to get any more hurt cos of making love. But my problem is  I enjoy it and want to still “do d do” (I even need it more now*embarrassed*) and likewise hubby whom I know what triggers him and I do them but when it comes to getting down I wanna flee… 

Now we talked about it already few days ago and he said he won’t push me cos he understands and will never cheat on me esp not now that it’s almost over rather he’ll think of masturbating!! When he said that the hair on my body stood still but hey can’t blame the man. 

Although he said it won’t get to that though… But I love this man and wouldn’t want to see him hurt.


Pls my fellow wives/mother’s, what positions are best @ this time, how can it be done so it doesn’t hurt much… What can I do??
NB: please if you don’t have anything reasonable to say, just read and move to the next post,no need for hateful and insulting comments cos I see that’s the latest trend…


God bless us all
Cute-Mom-2-Be

94 thoughts on “Pregnant Mom In Need Of Bedroom Advice”

  1. im a young lady not married. I blushed throughout while reading this. Dont have any advise cos I haven't been dere before n I pray i'd b der ijn AMEN. Cute Mom, wat of changing sex position like d doggy style or ….. married women oya come help, wanna learn too.

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  2. Am also in my 3rd n d doggy style is very k for me maybe u shld try it or any othr positn dat u cmftabl in hp it hlps

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  3. My friend that was pregnant goes to the general hospital for ante-natal.The pregnant women were given booklet for various positions.Well,let experts in the house help out cos I know I will gain one or two things dat will be of help to me when I find myself in ur position one day.BTW,Wishing u safe delivery and invite us to come chop rice.
    Yipeee *DANCING* am the first to comment.Aunt Eya,u na well done ooooo.

    ADEYANJU

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  4. Awwwwww,so am not the first to comment after all*COVERS FACE*.If I catch Vivien,Ahdaisy and dat Anon,hian,u will see wat i will do for u pple.I will still be d first one day!!!
    ADEYANJU

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  5. Hey congrat! Though ve nt bin der nd i pray 2 b der soon, wish u a save delivery. Plz mothers in d awuz say sumtin cos i wanna learn too

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  6. PLEASE AUNTY EYAH…WIVES CONNECTION IS LOOSING ITS SELLING PINT(FOOD RECIPE).PLEAS ENOUGH OF WHAT SHOULD I DO?WHY ME?WHY MEN?AM I WEIRD?SHEY I CRAZE?ETC…PLEAS WE NEED NEW FOOD RECIPES ABEG.THANKS.

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  7. Hey poster…I'm currently in your exact situation. Pregnant, third trim, and meehnnnn it isn't easy at all. With the back ache, bump ache and general aches and pains. However I have still managed to 'dtd' with hubby…as along as ur hubby isn't rough on u, my advice would be to try laying on ur side, or try the doggy style, and for u to control the level of comfort so as not to feel pain, u can be on top (best in 3rd trim). I'm sure you get what I mean. Dnt wanna go too deep in explanation as this is a family blog. Good luck!

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  8. It would be great if u send in some recipe u know… Not just anty eya doing it all.. Besides,she has virtually cooked everything cookable,so why don't u keep reading what she's posting or go back to the old food post,am sure u ve not cooked them all,if u have,then start going to the gym..

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  9. I second what Ahdaisy said,the side is okay and you can also try the doggy style or before sex check a comfortable position and try it out.

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  10. Aunty Eya, pls don't post yiour recipes because they do not appreciate you. Yesterday you posted the emergency stewand all you got on that post were insults from ingrates.

    Don't bother pls.

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  11. I think sex is beginning to be over rated in Nigeria like some parts of the world I know. Life is not all about sleeping with husbands or fiances.

    Gradually Nigerians are shifting away now, giving too much importance to sex as if it's solving any of our inherent problems.
    And yes am married too. Mtchewwww

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  12. You are so matured in reasoning. Thumbs…
    The way some people use words as if the blog is for adults.
    NO, it's a family blog please commenters and posters and silent readers and everyone. Let us stop being graphic. If you wanna be graphic, go and read IKEBE SUPER.

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  13. Madam Ezewanyi,pls I will ask u to refrain from using ashawo to describe a prostitute ,I ve said it several times that ashawo is my name

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  14. 3rd trimestr and you are still thinking of fucking..Go and break ur baby's head you hear you will tell people its cos u cannot control urself to dliver baby before doing your fucking rubbish..Nonsense

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  15. Aunty Eya pls oº°˚ ˚°ºoo border very wel if not for any1 buh for mi.
    Tina wat abt mi dat truly appreciate wat aunty Eya s doin, so bcus of others sins I shud suffer abi. Mbanu!

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  16. Madam I-T-K, if u have headache run to doctor,if u poo ask doctor!!! If u have noting reasonable to say,move to d next post Ode!!

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  17. @Anonymous 12:20pm if u ar a woman nor worry e go reach ur turn.some pple ar just so so immature dammmmmm.@d poster I'm not married yet so can't giv any advice but I have learnt so much here n I'm sure u hav 2 wish u safe Delivery

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  18. @anon 12:23, thk u, dat mumu no get sense, I sure say na fish brain dey him head. Abeg poster dtd ooo, it helps a lot. During my time,2hrs b4 I went into labour I had sex and by God's grace I had no tear or cut and my baby was 4points. So pls do it d way u lay down wen sleepin.

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  19. D kind of hate dat is entrenched in some peo is so appalling. Ezenwanyi its obvious u jst painted d lyf u wish u had. If u r in a happy marriage, e no go pain u say anoda person own dey sweet her too.

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  20. Na wah o! Why all these hate and spiteful comments. U pple should take ur hate to Linda and Ladun's blog and remain there.

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  21. May God grant you safe delivery, mother alive and baby(ies) alive. Let us prepare ourselves for the coming
    of the Lord. For the day of the Lord shall
    come like a thief- 2Peter 3:10. Do you
    want to be caught off-guard when he
    comes? We have to be prepared for the
    Lords coming at all times. Let's not be
    like the foolish virgins who were not
    prepared but rather let's be well
    prepared like the wise virgins who took
    extra oil -(Matt 25:1-13). "For all have
    sinned and come short of the Glory of
    God"-Romans 3:23(KJV). Its time to run to
    the throne of Grace with true repentance
    and ask God for forgiveness. If any have
    not given his/her life to Jesus Christ, it is
    time to do so now. If you're in Christ and
    you've deviated from his will,its time to
    re-dedicate your life and ask for his
    forgiveness. How prepared are you for his
    coming in case he comes now? That's a
    question we need to ask ourselves. May
    the Love and Grace of the Lord abide in
    us all,Amen.

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  22. Eya u are so silly. So you will leave the comment of dis stupid woman calling me an ode and remove mine calling her a stupid mad dog? Clap for yourself. The woman is still an idiot. Keep deleting it.

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  23. Perfect husband abi yet he let's u do household chores and go to work ontop and probably collects ur salary @ month end my dear preggy wake up and smell d coffee that ur hubby does not ve ur interest at all.I hope u never cross 30yrs because of ur waist pain if u don cross 30 tell am make he go carry ashawo because na miscarriage I dey see so
    Nne my hubby is d best three housekeepers cum nanny a cook gardener and a driver endless supply of cash I no boast na local champion like u wey I sure say na mama Grace maternity centre u register and ur hubby dey use tenth hand use car go dey here dey form my hubby is d best biko Aunty Eya next post biko

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  24. Perfect husband abi yet he let's u do household chores and go to work ontop and probably collects ur salary @ month end my dear preggy wake up and smell d coffee that ur hubby does not ve ur interest at all.I hope u never cross 30yrs because of ur waist pain if u don cross 30 tell am make he go carry ashawo because na miscarriage I dey see so
    Nne my hubby is d best three housekeepers cum nanny a cook gardener and a driver endless supply of cash I no boast na local champion like u wey I sure say na mama Grace maternity centre u register and ur hubby dey use tenth hand use car go dey here dey form my hubby is d best biko Aunty Eya next post biko

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  25. AM a preggy too, all i will say is u can use ur pillow to give ur tommy support while sleeping on ur side, so that when oga comes in u wont feel the pain that much.ur pillow will serve as a cushionnig effect. also on ur part don't open up completely make it partial( but not selfish) so there wont be pains afterwards. enjoy ur dtd.

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  26. Perfect husband abi yet he let's u do household chores and go to work ontop and probably collects ur salary @ month end my dear preggy wake up and smell d coffee that ur hubby does not ve ur interest at all.I hope u never cross 30yrs because of ur waist pain if u don cross 30 tell am make he go carry ashawo because na miscarriage I dey see so
    Nne my hubby is d best three housekeepers cum nanny a cook gardener and a driver endless supply of cash I no boast na local champion like u wey I sure say na mama Grace maternity centre u register and ur hubby dey use tenth hand use car go dey here dey form my hubby is d best biko Aunty Eya next post biko

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  27. Perfect husband abi yet he let's u do household chores and go to work ontop and probably collects ur salary @ month end my dear preggy wake up and smell d coffee that ur hubby does not ve ur interest at all.I hope u never cross 30yrs because of ur waist pain if u don cross 30 tell am make he go carry ashawo because na miscarriage I dey see so
    Nne my hubby is d best three housekeepers cum nanny a cook gardener and a driver endless supply of cash I no boast na local champion like u wey I sure say na mama Grace maternity centre u register and ur hubby dey use tenth hand use car go dey here dey form my hubby is d best biko Aunty Eya next post biko

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  28. See ivy brown ewu awusa wan bring mouth for me
    My dear I will advise u first to correct ur half past four eye maybe u can attract someone that can be servicing u I can smell d stench coming ur body over here u this stupid petrol sales girl akwunakwuna mmuo

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  29. Eya no be person naa,as she ugly na so her heart be
    Person wey chimpazee fine pass sef inyama grandmama

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  30. Madam Eya as u dey delete na so I go dey paste
    U left that ashawo mum to be comment(apologies to ashawo)and deleted d other comments abi if u delete my comments I paste them back

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  31. Ezewanyi u lyk wahala sha! Tufiakwa gi *sacrastic smiley*
    If u av prob with anybody while not face dem physically. Abeg upload ur pix so we can knw wo u b, if u get d mind as ur tongue take sharp so.

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  32. I fear ds ur attack oOo!!! Aunty Eya i fink we need best hubby contest in ds blog as soon as posible. Jst sayin though.

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  34. U re a wicked soul mary ojeifo, u sure say na human being born u? I pity ur husband n family members. U are a disgrace to ur household

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  35. True talk @bitter truth. Upload yr pics if u ger d mind and stop hiding under a faceless pic. Dis s directed at all d faceless ppl disturbin d peace of dis blog.

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  36. No mind d yeye preggy mum when her hubby use akodo or him brokos scatter pikin head her u know go rest

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  37. Dear Poster, please read and pick only comments that add value. I am deleting some sour comments on your post, but they all resurface. Sorry about someone trying to derail your post.

    Do selective reading and I know you will find comments that answer your question. May God give you wisdom to look away from any comment that has nothing to offer.

    No one should allow themselves to be discouraged cos that is her purpose. Aside her, you will still get great comments. Continue to do selective readind by scanning through the comments. I wish you all THICK SKINS.

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  39. Dear Poster, please read and pick only comments that add value. I am deleting some sour comments on your post, but they all resurface. Sorry about someone trying to derail your post.

    Do selective reading and I know you will find comments that answer your question. May God give you wisdom to look away from any comment that has nothing to offer.

    No one should allow themselves to be discouraged cos that is her purpose. Aside her, you will still get great comments. Continue to do selective readind by scanning through the comments. I wish you all THICK SKINS.

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  40. Dear Poster, please read and pick only comments that add value. I am deleting some sour comments on your post, but they all resurface. Sorry about someone trying to derail your post.

    Do selective reading and I know you will find comments that answer your question. May God give you wisdom to look away from any comment that has nothing to offer.

    No one should allow themselves to be discouraged cos that is her purpose. Aside her, you will still get great comments. Continue to do selective readind by scanning through the comments. I wish you all THICK SKINS.

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  41. Dear Poster, please read and pick only comments that add value. I am deleting some sour comments on your post, but they all resurface. Sorry about someone trying to derail your post.

    Do selective reading and I know you will find comments that answer your question. May God give you wisdom to look away from any comment that has nothing to offer.

    No one should allow themselves to be discouraged cos that is her purpose. Aside her, you will still get great comments. Continue to do selective readind by scanning through the comments. I wish you all THICK SKINS.

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  42. Eya stop looking for pity cos am not offering any .where were u when d poster called someone ode and d person replied her but u deleted d that persons comment and left d pregnant woman's own u are d reason y people fight on ur blog fyi if u delete I repaste

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  43. Ezenwanyi is now Anonymous oooooooo
    Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha, continue to deceive your devil controlled life.

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  44. I did not read all the responses, but did read several. I am going to throw my ideas in here as a married man (25+ years) and the father of 3 children.

    I think there are couple of big things here. Your safety and the baby's safety is of prime concern, and that has to be the most important thing here. Talk to your doctor, get the Doc's advice on all of this. If you can't get to the Doc right away, stay away from anything that causes you pain or discomfort.

    The second thing is, if you are wanting to continue to have a sex life during the late stages of pregnancy there things that you can do that you both can enjoy. Some examples, mutual masturbation, you pleasure him, he returns the favor. Oral sex, again, I think it should go both ways there. These things can be as much fun or more fun as regular intercourse, or at the very least, it is a lot better than taking care of your own needs.

    Once my wife could not have sex because she was having a very heavy flow day, but she wanted to have fun with me. We made out for a while and then she got out the Vaseline, lubed me up and gave me hand job that lasted almost an hour. Every time I got close to exploding, she would stop and kiss me, maybe suck on my nipples, something I love, but it still calmed me down. I loved it, it was great, when I did finally explode, it was probably the best orgasm I had in years – I mean I was seeing stars. (I think your husband should do something like that for you also, after all, why should he get to see all the stars, you should too.)

    Last thing, your husband does need to man up, take care of you, and understand that with a child in the picture things will be a little different. You both need to be understanding with each other, you don't neglect each other, but you also understand that the child has needs that are more important than our needs.

    Good Luck with the pregnancy and good luck with parenthood.

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  45. @ ezenwanyi or woteva u call urself u are a bitch! And evil! If u don't have anytin 2 say just stay @ home n control dat puppet u call a husband. Manipulating witch!*hisses*

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  46. Its very obvious dis ezenwanyi is a psycho, guess she just escaped from a psychiatric hospital.I would advice u guyz just ignore her the same way u ignore a mad woman. Can't remember any sane person having a reasonable discussion with a psycho.

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  47. Dear poster i feel u jare. Jst pick d reasonable advice on ds blog. God wil grant every pregnant womant a safe delivry. Amen

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  48. Hi aunty Eya……….and the WC family. Regular reader but never posted a comment. Great job aunty Eya. keep it up. ild be married in few months and av learnt a whole lot from this blog. May GOD continue to elevate u and may he bless ur home AMEN.
    @ Poster and other pregnant women, i wish u safe delivery. im not married so no advice from my end.
    @Anonymous 6:30 PM, MEGA great comment. ild sure remember this.
    @ezenwanyi, PLS grow up.

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  49. Aunty Eya,thank you very much 4 posting my mail,to all d good comments and great advises I appreciate u all!! May God continue to give u all wisdom,IJN. For my fellow preggies,wish us safe delivery like d Hebrew women. Both we and our babies shall come out alive,strong and healthy.
    To those who feel they are "big-mouthed",d bible didn't lie when it said whatever u sow u shall reap… When u show so much hatred and fustration to pple u don't even knw,I wonder what happens to those u know… Anyways, to each his/her own coin..like my pastor will say HOLD UR CORNER!!! As always may God bless us all.
    #Peace…

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  50. Aunty Eya,thank you very much 4 posting my mail,to all d good comments and great advises I appreciate u all!! May God continue to give u all wisdom,IJN. For my fellow preggies,wish us safe delivery like d Hebrew women. Both we and our babies shall come out alive,strong and healthy.
    To those who feel they are "big-mouthed",d bible didn't lie when it said whatever u sow u shall reap… When u show so much hatred and fustration to pple u don't even knw,I wonder what happens to those u know… Anyways, to each his/her own coin..like my pastor will say HOLD UR CORNER!!! As always may God bless us all.
    #Peace…

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  51. Dear God….Good Lord, I quickly opened this post cos I am in the same boat as the poster and I wanna learn sth but I got disgusted with the comment of a trouble maker here. Aunty Eya…may God give you wisdom on how to manage this your blog o. Mr Anonymous…a big thank you to you jawe.

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  52. my dear you are doing too much. Dearest hubby should help with the house chores. I had sex till i gave birth, even on the day i gave bith i had it in the morning. Find comfortable positions that suit you, My husband and i preferred doggy or side to side on the bed , i turn my back to him layin on my side on the bed and he hits it from the back. But like i said find what suits you and easy with all the chores you are doing. get a maid or get hubby to help. wishing u a safe delivery

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