Good evening aunty Eya how is the family? Am sure the girls are preparing to go back to school! It is me ………. again o, after posting my sister’s story here last week, I invited her over the weekend and told her that she should apply for her annual leave and take a break from it all.
But she told me she has already started processing her transfer to the east(where my parents are) and didn’t tell me because she knows I won’t approve, that she intends leaving her husband in Lagos alone and see is he won’t fend for himself.
You know I told WC fam that hubby said
Bil should think about a business that he will start so that he will assist him. Well he came to see my husband in the office today, and of all things he could come up with, he wants to travel out to go and ‘hustle’.
My husband called to tell me and seriously I was speechless, like oga johnson predicted, he is totally clueless and he didn’t even discuss it with his wife. Me am tired o, I pray the transfer works out for my sister and then hunger and house rent will wake him up or do we assist him to travel to go and ‘hustle’ ?
But she told me she has already started processing her transfer to the east(where my parents are) and didn’t tell me because she knows I won’t approve, that she intends leaving her husband in Lagos alone and see is he won’t fend for himself.
You know I told WC fam that hubby said
Bil should think about a business that he will start so that he will assist him. Well he came to see my husband in the office today, and of all things he could come up with, he wants to travel out to go and ‘hustle’.
My husband called to tell me and seriously I was speechless, like oga johnson predicted, he is totally clueless and he didn’t even discuss it with his wife. Me am tired o, I pray the transfer works out for my sister and then hunger and house rent will wake him up or do we assist him to travel to go and ‘hustle’ ?
Hmmm, hustle? Something tells me someone wants to use this man as a courier for hard drugs, I might be wrong though. Is it that easy to go and hustle abroad ni? Abi has money started growing on trees after all we know how it is with tax and all that there. Maybe the man is tired of the marriage self who knows?
The last time i didn't comment on this post because i agreed wit a lot of people who said they should separate temporarily. i can can see this man is unrepentant and very clueless!Just hope your sister's transfer works out.You and hubby should not assist him in that aspect oh,don't no how you will do that anyway.Hmmm husbands dey sha!
No,dnt assist hm in goin tu hustle abroad let hm do it here& if he refuses den tel hm u cant help hm
If he agress tu hustle here den make sure dat u‘r involvd in watever tin he decides tu do if nt he‘ll oly waste d moni gv hm
Tell ur sister tu continu tu pray&pls let ha tell hm dat she‘s movin bak tu east as he might use it agst ha pls,its well.
You and your husband dare not give that man a dime to travel overseas and hustle!!
What the hell is wrong with him? Where are his relatives? Why is none of them assisting him? Just try to see that your sister and her kids fend well but leave that excuse of a man alone to fend for himself!!
Pls don't assist dis ur Bil, he is not only lazy but a gold digger, its not only hustle…smh..na where sweet he won just dey, no plans for himself talkless of his family…
Pls tell ur sis to pray for d transfer jare 9yrs nothing to lean back on….
see person wen no fit hustle for Nigeria! you stay home in this conducive weather we have in Nigeria and waste your wife's fuel watching TV while she and all your mates are at work now you think travelling out to a place where the weather is cold will make you suddenly turn into a hustler???? na wa ooooo lazy gold digging man. AY
Abroad ke? Ur BIL is a joker,I pray ur sister's transfer works out.Don't give ur BIL kobo to go anywia. If he can't cum up wiv something to do here then he should forget it.
I didnt comment on ur last post cos i was too shocked & angry. Pls dont give dat lazy man a dime. He only wants 2 run away from his family. U will not see dat man in Nigeria anytime soon neither will he send a kobo 2 his wife & kids while other pple continue 2 pay house rent & school fees 4 his kids. Did i mention dat he will get himself a white wife & d rest is history. Dat man is wicked & deserves no pity. Ur sister shld go ahead wit her plans. She only has one life 2 live.
Totally seconded! Give that man a kobo and you will regret it. (˘̯˘)
Pls I beg of you, don't assist him ohh! He is just lazy and clueless.. Person wey no fit hustle for Nija here go fit hustsle for abroad? Under harsh conditions, abi he think say working abroad naa beans… Shey naa Uk wey dey dey chase Nigerians back frm their country, he wan go abi?.. He is just an unserious fellow.. You people (inlaws and ur sister) have even spoiled him.. A grown man that is comfortable collecting stuff, money and upkeep of his own personal nuclear family frm his inlaws is an absolutely disgrace abeg.. No food for lazy man… 'just pray ur Sister's transfer works out ohh, hmmm! it's well..
Please do not help this man to travel! People like him have dented Nigeria's image enough outside of here, let him stay here and hustle, must it be outside the country? Lazy lier!!!
Yor BIL level of reasoning? minus zero!
I have seen, and dealt with, people like this and I tell you the only way to help them is to make them ‘suffer’ by withdrawing any help. Unfortunately your sister is involved in this… His attitude did not start today – sure everyone that knew him will not be surprised.
When Esau sold his birthright and wanted his blessing back, it was only one prayer his father prayed for him that brought a remarkable transformation later in his in life. Jacob prayed that “…when Esau become restless, that he shall break the yoke from his neck” (Gen 27:40 NKJV).
Your BIL will have to get to the point where he becomes dissatisfied with his condition and cry out for help… When he does – it will be visible to everyone!
Let your BIL learn how to make chocolate cake and start his hussle here in Naija. http://auntysazzy.blogspot.com/2013/08/moist-chocolate-sponge-cake.html?m=1
There’s a saying that ‘rather than give someone fish, teach him/her how to fish’. But I tell you, teaching someone who is not interested in fishing how to fish will be futile!
The greatest help you can give to someone (apart from leading them to Christ) is helping him/her to think right. The mind is where great power is – develop it!
Plz donyt give him a dime!! Haba! Dat man is so lazy and clueless! He's just trying to run out from his responsibilty. Are u people sure he still wanna even remain in dat marriage?? I bet u if he gets out of naija u people will regret it cuz he wil vanish. Make him suffer and realise his weakness once and for all. I pray ur sis transfer works so he can stay alone , let's see how he will get fuel for television,.
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Yeye man,can a lizard in Nigeria become crocodile in america,or a rat in Nigeria become elephant in London,he wants to leave his family to start a new life in another country.single ladies reading this,u better wear ur thinking cap,cus sme of u will read and still fall victim of men like this poster's Bil.u don't realise everything u come across,even seemingly harmless stories on blogs is to serve a purpose in ur life.for the married women,my pastor said if u have a man that is doing nothing but leaving u to foot all the bills,chase him away,yes he said it and I agree 100percent.nne I pray ur sisters tranfer becomes a reality like NOW.shameless man,he can't hustle in naija na abroad e wan go hustle,who dey carry kpon kpon,dey die,wake and sleep for church praying for God's mighty hand if no be am,…mttttttsssssshhhheeeeeeWwwwwwW.
Oh my, I am so speechless too. What a man? Please let me post this update so that different minds can suggest cos for me I don't think he should be assisted to travel abroad. That's unacceptable. He wants to run eh? Does he think life abroad is easy? He wants your family to help him disappear from his responsibilities that are so staring at his face. I will but without your name.
Have a lovely day and sorry I didn't check my mails last night. Please discourage your husband from giving him money to vanish.
I am not against your sis working her transfer to the East.
Haba ! Some men sha! So annoying !
Question o,my people..
What if her transfer to d east clicks and d man says,since he doesn't have anything he is doing in lagos he wants to relocate to the East with his family cause he wants to be around his kids…lol..
God forbid!!! @Mama Ijebu, this your question can cause Highhhhh Blood Pressure o.
Thank God it is where her parents are, I sure say the man stupidity no go gree am go stay for him wife parents house, the man ehnnnn….I'm short of words, pls dnt give him kobo sef, let him raise money and hustle HERE like his mates are doing.
Where are all those people who were advising "have a discussion with him" mscheww una see pesin wey you wan have discussion with smh! Poster tell your sister to transfer and move out in his absence you can get your husband to take him out for the day in the pretext of going to discuss his going abroad and let your sis move out and leave him a note telling him of her decision to go back home etc The way this man is violent he will cause chaos if she moves out when he is there. If she wants to move out in his presence then let her move out and give him the knowledge that she is only going to visit the parents and will be back in a few days otherwise if she tells him the truth you people maybe visiting her in hospital God forbid!
Seconded Oº°˚˚°ºo.
Why tell the husband she's moving to the East? He's already using her as punching bag,do you know what desperation can cause especially if he feels his meal ticket is escaping his clutches and help isn't forthcoming from his in-laws? Please let the woman sort herself quietly and get on with her life, when he's gainfully employed again then they can talk.
Seriously, you guys are right o, anyway I will tell her to do everything codedly. He will not dare follow her to my parents' place, my dad will just wash him to number nonsense. Abi
will he go there and be living with them?
Poster
U never see jobless fOOLs
Chineke!! Speechless! Na real wa for some men o. This happened to my friend and when she packed out from d house she's bn paying d rent for almost 8yrs, school fees, feeding, even d car she got him to drive he will say " Oyin, Money for fuel please or there's no garri in the house …etc" left d man der to fave d music and moves to anoda house when d rent was remaining few months…I felt bad and wished the marriage could be salvaged cos of d kids. When I asked her what about reporting to the parents to talk to their son she said, which parents am I not the one who sends money to them? Even after she stopped sending to see their reaction they said nothing to her nor to their son. The marriage is over as we speak.Me I suspect "home front" at work sometimes cos there's no explanation for such laziness.
Your sister should just transfer with her kids. This man is a clear case of laziness and a bad influence to his children
Aunty Eya.Why can't I comment on this blog?