This is what the men say. All the men that left comments on the post I shared on Facebook. While I felt like everyone will write against it, considering that this man is married, this child is from his dear wife. I was so wrong. Margaret’s post has taught me that men
think alike sometimes. I went back to check on that post on Facebook because I wanted to know how men feel about naming children after their exes.
Again, I am thinking that it could be the ones that thought differently did not leave comments. While women cried foul, some asked that she takes the man to church for casting and binding, the men asked questions like: “Is that news?
So, what is wrong with that?
Is the ex not a human?
Well, these men may not be married I guess. Or, should I say that many Nigerian/ African men do not really care about their wives’ emotions. I never heard of that before Margaret’s post was put on this blog. Now I know better.
I think in the future ( If you feel like naming your child after an ex, please send me a mail, send to: cuulme@gmail.com, telling us how your husband reacted. A disclaimer: That could be detrimental) we should put up a post about a married woman naming her child after an ex boyfriend and see if the men will take it.
I wish one man, just one, condemned it. @Bonario, sorry to say, but even you, did not say anything against that in your comment. ( Hubby is not available, far far away, would have loved to know what he has to say).
Dear men why??
think alike sometimes. I went back to check on that post on Facebook because I wanted to know how men feel about naming children after their exes.
Again, I am thinking that it could be the ones that thought differently did not leave comments. While women cried foul, some asked that she takes the man to church for casting and binding, the men asked questions like: “Is that news?
So, what is wrong with that?
Is the ex not a human?
Well, these men may not be married I guess. Or, should I say that many Nigerian/ African men do not really care about their wives’ emotions. I never heard of that before Margaret’s post was put on this blog. Now I know better.
I think in the future ( If you feel like naming your child after an ex, please send me a mail, send to: cuulme@gmail.com, telling us how your husband reacted. A disclaimer: That could be detrimental) we should put up a post about a married woman naming her child after an ex boyfriend and see if the men will take it.
I wish one man, just one, condemned it. @Bonario, sorry to say, but even you, did not say anything against that in your comment. ( Hubby is not available, far far away, would have loved to know what he has to say).
Dear men why??
This sounds 'wack'.If a man worries enough to want to name his child after an ex, then he has something he still wants in that ex. Not a good one for his wife!
True dear, it's d ex's name, only d name in d world? Bliv me, men wil neva agree wen dia wives wnts to name afta dia ex.
When i saw the post, i was angry and asked myself y will a man be so selfish and not care abt d feeling of his wife. Wat if shes d one tht named their child after Ex? I dont know y african men do wat ever d like and get away with it. Its not fair. I just feel hurt right now.
Exactly! Especially when he does not even know the meaning of the name. You would have excused it that he likes the meaning that's why. But in Maggie's case, he doesnt even know the meaning…*tut tut*
I wudnt take that. We will fight about it till I get my way. Out of the billions of names in the world, you choose dat of the woman before me? God forbid. Y not my own name sef, since I'm also a woman? If I do not succeed then I MUST name my baby boy after my ex and his middle name too. Let's see who is smart, since we are playing the 'name-kids-after-exs' game! NO way abeg.
The reason why it seemed like men supported it is cos we actually live a life with no strings attached… We hold no grudge as long as women do, we get along with each other easily unlike women, we forget easily, we like to be seen as strong, we are always opinionated even if wrong while a woman is always seeking advice.
Women just try to make a meaning out of every situation, they always see everything that's wrong with the other woman, jealousy, back biting and bickering is an average womans modus vivendi, they see tinz all the time double or multiple perspective, these are the greatest bane of a woman, but I won't question God for making it so.
The irony is… The child is his, he holds the mace, try to forget about his past and just see the name as a regular name that a child could be called… Afterall, in ur story you never stated that he called you up to inform you that he's naming the baby Sandra cos of his ex you only assumed it so, if he hasn't done so, just let peace reign.
Bye!
Men are thoughtless. Dey dnt thnk b4 d act. We are d ones always puttn dem in2 consideratn b4 takn any step. well, am done doin dt. If dey can b "unemotional" , den so can I. Darling hubby, take note!.
@ Ace, d child is nt just his, d child is theirs. Twas a joint effort nd even more on d part of d woman.
Men could b really unbelievable at times! How can u not see sometin wrong In that? Trust me,if in d middle of a conversation, a woman mistakingly calls her husband her ex's name, all hell will break loose!evenif she says it was a slipof tongue which occured becoz she just heard dat name on d TV pshhhh!ure on ur own oo! Dat man will hold it @ heart 4eva!
@Mr ace, truth is u men are not soo unattached as u claim,just that we may attach way more importance to tins becoz of d wisdom we av over certain affairs.
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If u men don't hold on to d past den y must u name her after ur ex.anyway aunty Eya just so u kno,dose men dat suported d issue aren't caring of deir wife's feelings.cos I and my husband talked about this issue and he said he wudnt do such a thin bcos he respects me and he would feel bad if I did d same. So my advise to margaret is not to bother about the issue again,but wen she has d second child,she must make sure dat she names dat child after her ex,if he dosent feel bad,den mk she bone and accept d 'sandra'.
So I asked my husband about it….he condemmed the act. He said Names are not just names. Every name should be inspired by happenings around the pregnancy and seeking of Gods face. You don't name a child based on sentiments. MIRACLE
Heavy Bullcrap! Ok now, no wahala since they find it ok then they should also be ok with it when a woman names their child after her ex! Just like how men sleep with several women and still hope to marry virgins na only them sabi pass. Yeye dey smell
My hubby defers on opinion on almost all the posts u hv shared on ur blog.
Infact the most striking is the "problem in young marriage post"
For me, it means both sexes dont think alike. so the earlier we begin to understand each other the better for marriages
@ace am sorry 2say bt I don't like u n ur comments!no hating o,we can't like everybody in d world now can we?u sound very chauvinistic,n I dunno if we need dat here!like I can't imagine linda's favourite commentor,prince jobless on dis blog!am single,bt most women here are married with serious issues based on deir reality not sum fantasy,so try 2kip dat in mind wen next u wanna comment!thnks
Na wa o! Even my husband didn't see anything wrong with it. He said what if he likes d name becos of the meaning? I told him he shldn't try it with me oo! Anyway I have made a solemn vow to name all our children. I'll choose d name and put it in his head he ll think its his idea. Shikena!…
Adaure, in this part of the world, the child belongs to the father(remember national anthem stanza 1, line 3-to serve our fatherland) unlike Ghana, which is motherland(child belongs to the mother).
All the same, it takes two people to bring a child to this world, so both views should be respected. I'm sorry to say this but majority of Nigerian men lack empathy!
My hubby does not agree with that. He said any guy that does that still loves his ex. I agree with him totally.y wld I want to name my child after my ex? Our african men does a lot of unacceptable things n its really not fair. I can't blame pple outside nig who says they don't want to marry africans. Its very pathetic.
And how exactly will you put it in his head?
@Boomie: Its not clear what u mean by 'not blaming people outside Nig who don't want to marry Africans' are u married to an African? And did u not just say ur husband disagrees with naming a child after an ex? Somany wonderful African men are out there. I don't think you have an idea how terrible it can be for some people married to foreigners? I think its best to make you point and stop the undue comparisons. Thanks
OH MY !! you made me laugh….the name of my ex is Charles and I have nothing to do with this guy and I'm so happy I met my hubby ,I remember rubbing my big tummy when my baby was kicking one day and saying Charlie which means my friend in Ghana ,My hubby was so mad he said I was using style to call his baby my ex .I was so amazed !! so I don't want to imagine how he'll bring London bridge down when I try to call my baby an ex name…In fact he says I'm not going to name our baby that the baby will have a first name given by him and the middle and his surname is his own name that i can form a pet name from the name given ..I tire for the matter , He says that only me has experienced the carrying of the baby in the womb,vomiting,kicking ,waist and back pain that him sef wants to experience it ..