When a man gets married to multiple wives, he owns all these wives and remains the head of the family. On the part of the wives, they MUST remain loyal and faithful to the polygamous man.While most cultures frown heavily at it, In Africa, we see one or two Heads Of Government Living that Lifestyle. Those in it seem very happy. They say it is their choice and that they are loving it. They will not trade that lifestyle for anything. I have seen co-wives making uniformed outfits and even ganging up against their husband sometimes. All the wives in a polygamous marriage are seen as mothers to every child in that family, whether biological or step. The term step-mom term doesn’t exist among them.The children are taught to see all the wives as their biological mothers, while the women try as much as possible to treat children of their co wives as they would their biological children.
It is a free world, everyone is free to choose the lifestyle they want provided that it does not hurt anyone. This lifestyle, is not
one that I will recommend for any one or even chose for myself as a woman. However, lately, I have grown to bookmark Sister Wives Reality Television show as one of my favorites. I get so entertained watching them carry out their day to day activities. I can’t believe that I schedule recording for one week ahead. I make sure every single episode is recorded and stored, pending when I am ready to watch. I hate it when I miss an episode.
After watching and laughing to myself, I just feel relaxed kind of. Once upon a time, I enjoyed the show “Keeping up with the Kardashians” same way I am loving “Sister Wives” Right now. The love automatically shifted to Sister Wives and I can’t help it *rolls eyes*. I enjoy seeing their jealousy, I laugh when Christine can no longer hide her jealousy but confess.
Kody loves his four wives, he is a good husband. He finds time for them individually and also creates time for the 17 children in the family. What tickles me is the kind of energy and hyperactivity I see in him whenever he is around the newest addition of the wives. Kody around Robyn is like a bee around sweet smelling Rose flowers. He cannot control his feelings. He will find every excuse to be with her. Robyn being a very generous woman will be the one trying to make him give some more attention to the other wives, like reminding and urging him to call them while she and Kody were away enjoying their honeymoon. The other wives could not bear to think that he is having a good time honeymooning with Robyn alone for that long.
Another thing I love about Robyn is her good heart. Imagine her offering to be a surrogate for Meri the First wife, just to make her co-wife happy. She is ready to make her womb a-life-giver to a child that will be her husband and co wife’s. She has just given birth to a bouncing baby boy and rather than wallow in the excitement of her first child with Loving husband Kody, she is thinking of Meri’s infertility. I cried when she made this suggestion to Meri, and cried even more when Meri dropped her head on Robyn’s delivery bed and let her tears flow. I look forward to when the next season will start airing here in Nigeria.
Ehen, before I forget my Janelle. I love to hear her talk, her frankness and ability to just say it like it is. Most of all, I like that Janelle is ready to get a job,work and use her income to sustain the large family.
I am now like a fan of a lifestyle that I won’t chose for myself. What? Do you know that if I hear the Sister Wives are visiting Abuja, I will definitely go for an autograph? I can’t believe myself but, this is true. I enjoy seeing their life full of activity and the fact that there is no dull moment with them.
Have you found yourself in this kinda situation before? Is there anything you really enjoy watching others do, BUT not doing it, yourself.
Hi Eya,
No this would not be for me either,I find the Christian instruction on one wife for one man a lovely relationship. Although you say that these wives would not change their situation, it appears that there is jealousy and a lot of hard work to keep the family running in the relationships, and that does not reflect true happiness. I think there are probably many things I enjoy watching people do that I WOULD enjoy doing myself even if I am not able, but I would not enjoy watching people doing something that I WOULD NOT enjoy doing myself because if I would not enjoy doing it then it would not bring me happiness watching someone else doing it.
I have been laughing again writing this comment as it is a bit like a puzzle to understand.
God bless Eya
Very well Brenda, I understand you perfectly, and it's true there are many things I enjoy but I am not able to do like, script acting, I don't think that I can be a good film actress, even though I have never tried.
However,
1. do you mean that all one wife one man relationships reflect true happiness? and is there no hard work in monogamist marriages?
2. Is it that you do not get entertained by anything that you wouldn't do? *wink* yes!not an examination class.I need your responses to enable me assess this my new love for the show. hugs hugs hugs!
Aunty Eya in our part of d world,it will be so difficult to find a polygamous family like d one u depicted above. There's no way any man can love two women d same without any atom of inequality. My mum came from a polygamous home,and I grewup seeing d frequent struggle for properties and other things,I can't even allow any of my sisters to be 1st,2nd or 3rd wife to anybody, one and only is d best.
Ehen to what I enjoy watching and can't find myself doing: I enjoy watching John Cena throw Randy orton out of d ring,I also enjoy watching Brian skateboard,but can't imagine myself taking such risks.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
Please, please, l can't even think of it, being a co-wife. There will always be a shortfall of love, no matter how much they want to pretent. And in the case of the sister wives, you'll see that each person wants the greatest attention from kody.
@Myne, I'm sorry I enjoyed the interview and had to link to it at the end of the post, to make it easier for those who may be interested in reading it.
Hi Eya,
no not at all.
Answering no.1
I can only comment on my own love in my own marriage, but I do believe that what is reflected in the program you are writing about reflects the problems that would arise from more than one woman sharing one man. I believe absolutely that all marriages have to be worked at and it is only because of my having Jesus to instruct me and change me over the years that my marriage is so good. I can't imaging the chaos of me not having the Lord's guidance in my life, being married to someone who has other women in the relationship, and my old nature remaining inside me.
Answering no.2
No, I can be entertained greatly by lots of things that I would not do, but I would not be entertained by something that I would NOT ENJOY DOING. We are all different and enjoy different things. Lots of people over here like the program 'I'm a celebrity, get me out of here' I wouldn't give it a minute's viewing time. Oh Eya, your *wink* is making me laugh, why is it that I always end up laughing when I make a comment on your blog lately.
au revoir
Ehm…. no! Your examples sound amazing but I just can't see it happening realistically with me in THIS society. It would be nice to dream though lol.
Happy December Eya!
Don't think I could bear seeing my husband with another wife. However, it would be better for him to have another wife openly than have a girlfriend who he sees secretly!
SOMETIMES I CAN HARDLY SHARE THE LAST SMARTIES WITH MY DAUGHTER *YES…SHAME ON ME* SO I CAN'T EVEN CONSIDER SHARING A HUSBAND….NEVER! AM TOO STRONG WILLED FOR THAT…THERE WILL NEVER BE PEACE OH…
AS FOR WHAT I LOVE FROM AFAR BUT CANNOT BE, "A HOUSE WIFE"…I DREAM OF NOT HAVING TO CLOCK-IN AT WORK, TAKING A SIESTA DURING THE DAY, NO HORRID BOSS STRESSING ME AND NOT HAVING TO DRIVE TO AND FROM WORK EVERY WEEKDAY…TAKING TIME TO DO HOMEWORK WITH MY KIDS….HOWEVER I LOVE WORKING…I LOVE WEARING A SUIT AND GIVING ORDERS AND MENTORING PEOPLE…LOL…LOVE MY JOB I GUESS…
Alright Brenda, thank you and you know I am happy when I know that people around me are happy.
Thank you Bona.
Hahahaha, Deby you are even saying please twice!
I wish you same. hahaha!
I agree with you kind of o.
Yes Sue, I can see you have a strong personality. Thank you.