My Husband’s Irresponsible Behavior Has No Part Two, Can Other Women Please Help A Sister

Hi Eya, I don’t know where to start from but pls hide my identity thanks will also try to make it brief as possible…. I’m a new subscriber to this platform. I can’t say I have a smooth past or that I’m perfect. I met my
husband 9 years ‎ago we’ve bn friends he knows me inside out I tell him all that happened in my life as at that period he used to advice and encourage me like a big brother…broke up with my ex not late after he asked for my hand in marriage at first I was reluctant that one he knows too much and also he is 10 yrs older than I am but eventually I gave in that I knew him. I stay in lagos buy he stays in the east when I started visiting him I observed that he lied about who he truly was all the years I’ve known him not just to me but everyone I confronted him he apologised then we broke up later I forgave him and we made up….i assumed it’s really no big deal starting afresh with him at least I’m working and as at then he just graduated To cut the long story short we got married. My family and I sponsored the major part of the ceremony.  We had various plans b4 we got married one of it was getting an accommodation houses in lag are expensive and I did not want what will be too far away from my office we searched for house of different grade but he was always faulting them. Was forced to stay with my parents and sometimes go and stay with my sister in law I was pregnant and it was not easy for me so I gave in to the suggestion that ‎I should keep squatting…. b4 I gave birth we still went looking for house but the stories never changed he has a very high taste yet he’s not ready to drop much eventually I gave birth in my parents place according to our tradition his mother was to come take care of me but she refused stylishly then I was forced to move in to his sisters house since she stays there to assist her.  I was always up and doing no rest at all at a point I felt I was the maid. I was losing weight rapidly no rest nor enuf sleep yet his mother will always look for flimsy excuses not to bath my baby at night will be forced to mop his body myself did not tell my parents don’t want them interfering….the mother will told me to go and sleep when ppl are around yet give me series of chores to do b4 or after I wake up ….i was forced to tell my husband I needed a change of environment cos I was not just myself he accepted reluctantly we went to the east together till it was almost time for me to resume. When I saw he was still not taking the house ish serious a house was gotten for us by an agent not what I liked but I felt it’s within our budget he said he can’t afford it still…. it was almost time for me to resume I contributed more than half of the rent and asked him to add d bal which I went ahead to pay for he said the house was OK that I should go ahead and pay for it after some time he took his family members and he was about changing his mind about the house so I quickly pay to trap him cos my maternity leave was almost over. He said he won’t stay in the hose with me….etc lot of stories and threat from him but he moved down to lag with me since it does not make sense paying double rent esp when he does not have a stable job he’s doing over there. Before he left I observed he’s always sending porn msg to his neighbour. The gave themselves pet names but I just ignored another thing I observed was a particular lady was always calling him to give her money for her baby so I made sure we moved to logos and I did not confront him either The house we are staying the water was not good gave him money to fix it cos I’m sure he will get a good deal for me but he did not do it we had a slight argument then I told him to fix the water b4 I knew it he moved out of the hose dropping all the things I gave to him including his wedding rings (our marriage is just a yr) did not beg or apologise after sometime I called his dad to tell him after a week that his son has moved out of the house instead of him giving me words of encouragements or calling his son to speak sense into him….he told me he’s spoken to his mother about it and warned me never to tell anyone what’s happening not even my parents then I know something is fishing…this continued wen it was 2 weeks after I asked his son what I did wrong all he could tell me was I don’t cook early, I don’t sweep and probably mop daily, I’ve turned him to errand boy cos I usually drop few change and I didn’t learn how to drive he asked me to be driving his mothers car but I felt it was not right….but those were my punishments he moved bk in but I told him I’m fed up of the marriage but he refused and came bk in….Will greet him will not ans, he won’t tell me his whereabouts, sometimes when we go visiting his ppl all they see are the faults on the child nothing more and when we both talk jn the house all he sees are the complains and he talks to me as if he is taking to his maid. Pls permit me to stop here if I go on and on ehn u will pity me recently his sis travelled and her house girl was available since no one is at home at first I agreed but later I Tot about it that if things were OK with us it’s no big deal but having someone to come nd stay might be washing our dirty linens outside…since I rejected the offer he sends me on stupid errands, leaving the house messy etc Our child was a bit Strong recently all he did was to drop us at d clinic with 5k and asked me to call him when we were thru wen he got bk all I could see was he went to buy a new phone The following week we went for check up and he dropped us off gave me 5 hundred naira that I should call when I finish…didt argue had to leave work on both occasions for this felt stupid that what if I was not working cos the money is never enuf now just 5h put myself together collected it called him when I was through rather he said we should come and meet him in his sisters place….If u see us outside we act like perfect couple but with I’m suffering and smiling b4 I don’t ask for money for soup or anything from him I do all of that but I’m a bit broke at the moment I’ve bn asking  him so as to make him feel a bit responsible and stop doing Mr nice outside when there’s lil or nothing in the house…..rather   he told me I should set my priorities right ‎ that I should be picking BTW buying meat in the house or diapers….alot like I said I can’t say it all here…. now whenever we have s*x he comes in me and he won’t stand up for another 5 mins I’m currently on pills tho cos can’t afford to bear another child for him Please I need your advice on what other family planning methods I could use cos I’m scared the pills can fail .I dont know what to do. I’m fed up of the marriage.