Hello, good day auntie Eya,I’m a Christian and so is my fiance. We’re both adults, and are both waiting till marriage before we share a bed. Now, we all have urges. we’re human. I’m physically attracted to my fiance and he is the same towards me. Yet we of course won’t and can’t do anything about it and just try our best to ignore the urges.
Well, the thing is he just confessed to me that he used to masturbate, and this would ease up his sexual urges towards me whenever we’re together snuggling. but I told him he can’t masturbate because Christians don’t do that. I used to masturbate but I don’t anymore since I now know it’s wrong. Few weeks after I explained that to him, he said he’s stop. but was I wrong to make him stop? Is it actually wrong for Christians to masturbate? And if so, where does it say in the Bible? I need to confirm and be really sure myself please.
Also, I have another question cracking and headaching my brain, how far can an unmarried Christian couple go when it comes to being physical with each other? Snuggling? hugging, pecking, touching etc (with clothes on of course)? Or just arms draped around one another? Or just what is the boundary please?
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I am assuming both of you are planning on getting married pretty soon and are attending marriage counselling? If not, you need to start Now.
The Bible does not mention masturbation as a sin, neither did it list each and every sin. However, understanding Bible principles helps us (God's children) to know right from wrong. Smoking & taking hard-pressed are not listed as sins in the Bible, but I'm sure you know better…
Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit (Gal 5:22-23): you cannot be masturbation and say you have self-control. Pyrography accompanies masturbation, and all this comes from a heart of sinful last.
You will need to avoid anything that will give d devil an opportunity to bring shame. Make una do quick marry, provided you are sure God is in the equation.
I am assuming both of you are planning on getting married pretty soon and are attending marriage counselling? If not, you need to start Now.
The Bible does not mention masturbation as a sin, neither did it list each and every sin. However, understanding Bible principles helps us (God's children) to know right from wrong. Smoking & taking hard-pressed are not listed as sins in the Bible, but I'm sure you know better…
Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit (Gal 5:22-23): you cannot be masturbation and say you have self-control. Pyrography accompanies masturbation, and all this comes from a heart of sinful last.
You will need to avoid anything that will give d devil an opportunity to bring shame. Make una do quick marry, provided you are sure God is in the equation.
Where is it in d bible that its wrong.plz quote it.
Also, as a born again Christian, the holy spirit dwells in you or, is supposed to at least. That makes your body a sacred temple for God/Holy Spirit. Now the bible states that in 1 Corinthians 6:18- "…Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a man can commit is outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God with your body.…".
It helps to imagine the Holy Spirit watching you whilst you masturbate….. would you go ahead to masturbate?
Don't worry, no one's judging you at all, when you know better, you do better. If the spirit/conscience is dead from sin, you can simply repent and ask for genuine forgiveness and start over, inviting the Holy Spirit into your heart.
All have sinned….
Masturbation affects so many people's sexual lives as much as possible because you know how to give yourself pleasure and no matter how hard your spouse tries, he might not be able to give you that pleasure that you give yourself so, you never stop masturbation even in marriage.
That's my take on it. However, you can kiss but be sure to know your boundaries and no, sleeping in the same bed can push you to doing what you ordinarily won't do.
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