This is a statement from Chidinma as posted on Surprise blog. I know a lot of you guys will agree with her, but I don’t. There are testimonies of women who started with their men at zero level and eventually things change for the better. There is one thing I know for sure about a lot of men, it may look like nothing good will come out of them but when they want to hit eh? They hit it BIG. Many women started with their husbands just managing life, then, after marriage, doors open and levels change. No condition is permanent.
Read more of what she says below…
Speaking on the type of man she would love to marry, Chidinma Ekile, Nigeria’s female singer and a former winner of MTN Project Fame said she would want a man that could take care of her needs and not the one she would feed.
According to her, “never, I can’t date a man that doesn’t have money, I can’t feed a man.” The singer also disclosed that she is not in a hurry to get married but that she is not in a relationship at the moment.
Do you think money should be the deciding factor when choosing a spouse?
Do not strive to marry a rich man but strive to marry one with ambition
That's what she wants… Absolutely no issues with that. I would rephrase that to mean – I cannot date a lazy man. Date/marry a lazy man and your life will be miserable!
There are very hard working men who do not bloom early. Heard of late bloomers? There are also lazy rich men if you ask me.
It shud be 'I cannot date a man who is stingy'. Period! Cos if you marry a stingy rich man, all you get is a vewi fine roof over your head and the position of glorified housegeh…
LOLZZZZZZZ.
HE THAT IS FAITHFUL IN LITTLE, WOULD BE FAITHFUL IN MUCH!
Let me speak for myself, I am a hard working final year student and almost done with my accounting degree, I work at the mall and recently started getting clerical job offers because of my volunteering and internship experience.. now will I have a boyfriend that is not hardworking and nothing in ya wallet but you are kind, loyal and all that good stuff ? uhm no I won't.As young as I am I will not date a man that is not hard working with nothing to show for it and nice. you have to be both
Yawns
She works hard and earns her own money. She's not going to be any glorified house girl.
Well I don't blame her atall. Although I started from days of cooking for ma Sugar with ma Own pocket money cos I was so in love N dat man OO ma precious gift, I knew he was heading somewhere, as God will av it 2 years later he bought me a jeep b4 marriage ooooooo, some guys don't remember d days of humble beginning wen dey make it dey start misbehaving.
Please starting from scratch is so 1970s. Broke ass dudes are the ones with pride these days o. They don't have shishi, they know they don't o, but they will be showcasing their stupidity up and down. If you do anything, all you will hear is 'is it because i don't have money?' Nobody's got time for that!
Well said!
No rich man is lazy – except ritualist.
If you're lazy, poverty is around the corner – you can't escape it.
Shez a celeb hu xpcts ha 2 roll with a pauper? I don't….
I don't blame her for saying so! Every woman wants to marry a man that can take care of her. He doesn't have to be rich to start with, so long as he is hard working and generous. I married my husband when he had nothing. Just a one bedroom apartment and a dream. I believed he wasn't just blowing smoke. And well, in those days we really didn't know much. But I'm glad I did. Within two years of our being married, we moved into a three-bedroom apartment and bought a car. In seven and a half years, we had finished our own house. I was a stay home mum until my first child was ten (I married super early at twenty!) So I couldn't contribute to the family finances at the time. But it all worked out.
He used to buy gifts for me with the little he had, and he would rather I looked better than he did and bought me clothes regularly, but none for himself. So ladies, rather than seek to marry a man that is rich, marry one that is generous, hard-working and God fearing. With your encouragement and prayers, he can become the rich man that you'd like. But if you find a rich man with all these qualities already, why not? To each her own!
Anon, but housegirls too work hard and earn their own money… Lol…Anyway, even if U r richer than ur husband, if he is stingy, U must feel bad about it. Das life.
All dis people saying i cannot marry a poor man or someone dat doesnt hv money r d ones dating peoples husband n snatching oda girls bf, any successful man who is not married has a girl dat endured wit him n pushed him to dat position,wat y'all shud be saying is i dont want a stingy man,bcos no mata hw a man doesnt hv if he loves u he will give u d little he has,but some rich men will so spend on u wen u r dating but will turn u to their slave wen u r married. If ur husband grow rich with u,he will respect u all his life not d odaa way round.
Hello All, I married my husband when he had nothing. He had just started working. We lived in a one room apartment in some remote place at ibadan. WE cld not even afford a proper wedding, my family assisted. We met at a youth camp, and dated before I went to usa for my studies.I had just returned from my studies in USA and he insisted we get married.Everyone wondered why we were in a hurry. We had just one small tv. We struggled together, finally we got a car, moved to a bigger apartment at bodija, got a second car.
After one yr my hubby started maltreating me, he started having affairs.I lost my job, he was getting promoted, he didnt assist me financially. He became cruel and irritant. He finally threw me out of his house and took his two kids. He said, I am not his choice tht I was the one desperate for marriage. I was just a young girl of 23 yrs when I got married,Now at 28 am separated. I thot love was what matters, I guess I was a fool.
You know a man's real character when he finally has money. I will never allow my daughter to marry a poor man. A poor man will pretend to be humble.
Wow ur story is so touching, ma dear ur husband will look for you one day n u ll be far gone, dis is d height of wickedness, one tin is sure Karma never fails or forget, she ll definitely come back to bite. It is well wit you. #bighug#
Ahdaisy, i agree with you. A stinger rich husband is the worstest thing to have
If you r not in d shoe, u can't talk about it. Let women who earn more than their stingy husbands speak 4 themselves. The point I was making is dat women should go earn money for themselves and stop relying on men for their every kobo. What if your rich hubby goes broke? With ur mentality, wot will u do? (Not referring to u sha), but it happens. Pray 4 a man who fears God, stop emphasizing stingy.
My husband had nothing before our marriage. Now he has a lot yet i still manage a lot.
I understand where u r coming from Ahdaisy, but I was driving at something and u missed it. Diff folks diff stripes. Everybody pray for anti-stingy and anti-non-generous men…
So true you know a man's real character when he finally has money very well said!
BLESS YOU!! Almost the same story with my mum and dad..dad didnt have that much same with mum but she was/is HARDWORKING and HUMBLE..things got better when she found her niche which is catering..big money started flowing but my dad resented her..that's when he started fighting with her and keeping late nights.. Thank God she moved on and hes trying to get to her good side..point is, you have to be with someone that is HARDWORKING and CAREER DRIVEN and also HUMBLE too
There are lazy rich men those who inherited family fortunes that never run dry especially old money children
Thanks for the link. It is appreciated.
Different women, different strokes. Some women are not the patient type, that can hold on and manage, while some can wait and even make sacrifice. To each women a type of man has been prepared for. I know of various cases where the woman stayed and managed at the end the man got rich and gave this woman HIV, another one this woman stayed and managed and today her husband buys and gives her all she wants. Wisdom is the key word, not just human wisdom because the Bible says wisdom comes frm God.
@Anon 8:36, forget the ingrate, your man will find you and really appreciate you.
Nobody is telling anybody not to marry for love, but please make sure you are using your brain too. Guys of nowadays are just something else, i never see!
Rich o, generous o, stingy o, poor o; the most important thing is to pray to God for someone who'll always prioritise you and your kids and always put y'all in his schemes, both now and in the future. We pray O Lord. And the church says ? "Lord hear our prayers". #CatholicStyle
God helP single ladies like us to end up wit the right man amidst all this.
About some weeks ago, on our way from church, I saw this couple who also attend my church. The lady was preggy, her husband had his hand loving around her shoulder and they were gisting, laughing and smiling as they walked home.
I looked at them, smiled and said "trekking in LOVE" and thought to myself that it's just a time of time till he hits it. The person beside me heard and asked why the expression of which I explained to him.
Na so him com begin talk about how girls of nowadays wanting to settle with ready man. That back in the days, the women were more interested in a man's potential and zeal to succeed.
Na so me too come contradict him; I told him about ladies who met guys that had NADA even spending their resources on him and believing in his potentials et all only for such guys to say "she isn't my type; she can't speak English fluently; she isn't tush; she too big" etc.
Him no talk afterwards oh; he kept quiet pim! Hehehehehehehe
My own take is: marry the choice of GOD for your life whether he is about to get there or he is already there.
I believe some will need to start from the beginning with a man and grow with him to reach his place of fulfilment while some don't need to go through all that, all is set for them. Theirs is just to help manage the resource WISELY.
I was with my ex for 7 years, we met in uni. We used to soak garri together, were feeding from hand to mouth. I never asked him for a dime back then 'cos I knew he didn't have. My friends were calling me names, that why was I dating a student, that I should have been dating a working class etc. I didn't heed.
Fast forward 7 years later, he has a car, a nice (rented) house and a good job in lagos. The company is among the Fortune500 companies. Earns well and lives large.
I was counting down to a proposal, at least we had been together all these while, it was to be expected (I didn't mention it though).
Shocker! He broke up with me a little over 6 months ago via BBM over a flimsy reason as family interference. They've known me all this while but all of a sudden I'm not good for him.
I've moved on, by d grace of God alone. But I've vowed, I must marry a rich man. I am not wasting any second on any man again. Its by God's grace that I'm a long way to being 30.
Any man I marry must have a car and get mine before or immediately after the marriage. I can't trek or hop okada with pregnancy. O gini di?!
Starting from scratch gbakwa oku *rme
Thank You!!! Anon 8.21.
@Deborah, not just wisdom bt marrying the rait person that God has ordained for u
My sister, I did trekking in love o. See where it landed me. Men eh. God dey.
Life is not like arithmetic,it doesn't have any formular.
You may marry him rich today and tomorrow he grows poor.
You may marry him poor today,tomorrow he grows rich.
Talk of ladies making choices,we men do have criterias too.
Owk to me Chidimma is a NO-NO,she's small in size,short and got lil or no flesh.
My parents will prefer I marry from a rich and prominent home,coz they won't want their son burdened with catering for another family.
My mum is also of the opinion you marry a woman who has something doing already.
Ehen they are also of the opinion as the first child,you marry the last child of a family and marrying a first daughter is a NO NO.
You see all these stuffs tends to distance is from what marriage entails,coz I may endup finding this qualities in a lady that I don't truely love. Even if u had the wealth,with a bad home u can move from grace to grass.
My prayer is that God should give us the partner we deserve.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
Very true and the keyword again is "stingy"
Lmao, na so ooo.
God bless u jare.
@Bonario…. Thumbs, Claps and a rousing and standing ovation for your comment! You nailed it absolutely!
The Chidimma in question is still an uneducated underage girl child who got fame at age 20… We were very good friend, she was on my BBM for ages but as soon as she droped Kedike she deleted a lot of peepz including me!
Like I use to say! "Time and Chance" will tell if are wishes will come to past….
Nuff'Said!
*Her…
@Jay, are you catholic too?
Yes, Ace. I am.
Nice to know ma sister…. Keep the faith burning!
Money doesn't guarantee happiness but neida does poverty. N it is quite better 2 b rich and unhappy dan 2 b poor and unhappy.
Hmmmm na wa oh….
Has she ever thot abt it dat d rich guy may never have her time??, what is she looking for in a marriage, money, love etc???…. Its not d Begining dat justifies d means but d end what if he is rich today " begining" n poor tomorrow "end", has she not heard dat money has wings n it can fly???…..she shd just pray for her own man, d bone of her bone n flesh of her flesh with dat she can never go wrong…
There is absolutely nothing wrong in her words. Every man have an idea of the kind of woman he wants to be with; some want a woman with a big butt, others big boobs, some like educated women, some like women who are good cooks. People just always get worked up when someone says money because they think it is superficial, and because many people are not rich, so they feel some affront. Money is just a tool in life, and a very necessary tool for life on earth.
Lmao
@Ivy, you hit right on the head 😉
hmmmmmm…me I'm still providing and taking care of my bf..he treats me like egg now. I hope he doesn't change in d long run. He's still a student and I'm working
Could you please borrow brain from Jay and give yourself? U r most def lacking in that department.
And while at it, find yourself a super duper rich dude and stop fathering an adult! Imagine the stupidity! #oshisko
Abeg nobody wishes to end up with a pauper.most people are saying they are not looking out for a rich man but when the chips are down we will know who is who. As for I'm not praying to end up with a poor man period.
Hmm…women are always saying that can't marry a poor man..what happens when he loses all his money ehn? You go leave am and marry the next rich man?? If you love money so much, MAKE YOURS!!! Btw I am a woman.