Aunty Eya, my name is ********** and my phone no is *********** but plssssss do not publish that information. I am worried abt my 3yrs 6 mnths old daughter. She is extremely stubborn. She
flaunts my instruction.
I ve to scream so loud at times to get her to obey instructions. B4 u start judging me, she was well brought up and not spoilt at all in any way whatsoever. I don’t know if it is a phase thing and would pass wit time but this gets me so worked up and I ve found myself praying most parts of the night for her.
flaunts my instruction.
I ve to scream so loud at times to get her to obey instructions. B4 u start judging me, she was well brought up and not spoilt at all in any way whatsoever. I don’t know if it is a phase thing and would pass wit time but this gets me so worked up and I ve found myself praying most parts of the night for her.
"Before you start judging me,shr was well brought up"
Hehehehehe well broughtup at age 3? I guess the training started when she was still in your womb.
Yep this is actually a phase,it's the phase of spare the rod and spoil the child. Its that simple.
The Okro tree cannever be taller than the man that planted it.
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Poster continue praying for her like a parent will pray for his/her child.
I really don't think there is anything wrong with her. There's something called 'trouble 2' when kids just don't seem to listen (I don't really believe in it) but it sometimes goes on till 4yrs.
From my experience and some other parents I kno most girls around that age often prove difficult.
Please carry on setting rules and let her kno the consequences of breaking d rules. She is not too young to be put in a naughty corner, asked to face d wall, have her favourite toys taken away for a day or 2, not given her favourite snack or drink until she aologises and promises behave.
Finally carry on bringing her up in a good way like u have always done and don't cease praying for her.
@Bonario,I don't think you are married talkless of having kids or having raised one. If u seriously do not have any thing condtructive to say, pls keep quiet. Don't even know what you are doing here in the 1st place. You must sha show yourself in every blog.
Bonario, this poster needs help and genuine advise from experienced mothers. If you are not one, pls and pls try and keep shut.
Its normal dear. I have 3yr old twin boys and they are like that. Don't get worked up o but continue praying. DO NOT SPARE THE ROD when necessary too
But mrs married with kids you endedup not giving her any advice,atleast I gave her an advice. Or are u the one seeking for help?
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
My dear buy her a small cane. Like Bona said 'the okra tree…' Cut her down to size.
Pls @ 28yrs old mother of four, Bona didn't make any sense at all so pls don't tow his line abeg. Poster, pls most 3yrs old are like that and it is a phase. Just continue to be firm, do not spare the rod and continue to pray for her as you claim.
@Poster: that is d same way I felt wen my gurl was arround that age.I tot ve never seen a child as sturborn like mine. But my son have proved me wrong o, he is my daughter(before) times 10. And wat amazes me now is, wen its like am gonna break my son to pieces, my gurl(now 5) will be d one to advice me saying "mum, just leave him alone, u know he is a TATA" lol. So my dear, just relax its a phase in their lives. And be a PRAYING MUM. It pays.
What Bonario said makes much more sense than what you said. At 3, it's a little early to say a child was "well brought up".
Please you don't have to be a mom to be a parent, bonario made light of a matter that she thought was a big deal and advice which I think came from a good place..why should he shut it? @ poster, your child is only 3 and a bit, please don't listen to people that say she is stubborn, she is only just learning to be independent and you ll get a lot of No!!! U just have to calmly steer and teach her what is right and wrong..pray for grace and patience and for wisdom to teach her the good path to follow..there is absolutely nothing wrong with your child, it is common with kids of that age and don't let anybody tell you different..and please don't brand her a stubborn child cos she is not..say positive things about your child always…mee
I am very sure Anonymous is Bonario. Hahahahahahahaha.
It isn't like that at all… There is no age group for misbehavior! This is when you need the rod! B4 she gets to age 5, you shld ve a strng will power over her. She should always answer you whenever you call… Don't tolerate silence from her.. Diff punishment skills
1. Get a strng cain, flog her on a butt when necessary.. This can be used in the car too, or public places… Don't spare her at all
2. Lock her alone in a dark room, and make her stay under the bed.. Use this smtimes @ home instead of cain.
3. Buy snack for other kids and dnt buy for her.. When she ask for hers give her a serious quarrel, and tell her to apologise to whoever she offended or to you.
Lastly always tell her to knee down and pray for forgiveness to God, each time she's tru with any punishment and teach her words to say while praying… Then don't forget to hug and kiss her afterwards, then promise her a reward if she doesn't misbehave again..make sure u keep to ur reward.
If you spare her now, and she gets to 5 b4 u introduce this method it becomes difficult becos she will think you hate her
Patsy
It isn't like that at all… There is no age group for misbehavior! This is when you need the rod! B4 she gets to age 5, you shld ve a strng will power over her. She should always answer you whenever you call… Don't tolerate silence from her.. Diff punishment skills
1. Get a strng cain, flog her on a butt when necessary.. This can be used in the car too, or public places… Don't spare her at all
2. Lock her alone in a dark room, and make her stay under the bed.. Use this smtimes @ home instead of cain.
3. Buy snack for other kids and dnt buy for her.. When she ask for hers give her a serious quarrel, and tell her to apologise to whoever she offended or to you.
Lastly always tell her to knee down and pray for forgiveness to God, each time she's tru with any punishment and teach her words to say while praying… Then don't forget to hug and kiss her afterwards, then promise her a reward if she doesn't misbehave again..make sure u keep to ur reward.
If you spare her now, and she gets to 5 b4 u introduce this method it becomes difficult becos she will think you hate her
Patsy
Mrs pasty I love u die, u be real militant
Oh! Nekwam nee bicycle mu!
Anon I don't know why u choose to be on my ish allday,now u're surprised and disappointed someone saw reasons with me.
Its no rocket science that a 3year old is still very small to be tagged well broughtup.
Biko raam aka,atarom kponki gi.lol
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
I agree with d points u have made but disagree on locking a 3yr old in a dark room under the bed as this will traumatise the child.
pray, love, correct and dnt spare the rod.
I don't agree Biko, a 3 year old is not a recruit in the army..you need to be firm not brutal..buying gifts for others and not for her will make her feel rejected not remorseful..just make sure when there is a misbehaviour, you nip it in the bud..you can put them on time outs, etc..we need to punish the action and not the child…Mee
Oh! Thank God o. I tot my 3yrs old is out to make me crazy and tag me a bad mum. D girls independence is too much. Cane does nothing o. Thank God its a phase biko
This is way to harsh there are other ways to go bout it. Take her out of the area that's tense and discipline her but do it wit love
As I said earlier its wrong. Its on the border of child abuse. In fact IT IS smh…..
Patsy, I agree with Number 1 point u made only. Nos 2 and 3 are a strong no no. Its only a lil child and not a convicted criminal. Haba.
@ Patsy how many kids do you have?
Key word is "Spare d rod and spoil the child".. When a child needs correction please correct the child..Remember, bring up a child in d way u want and when they grow,they will never depart from it..
I just discovered dis blog a week ago n I kinda like it. Am not yet married or engaged but am in a relationship. But I check this blod daily cuz I learn a lot. Whoever is dat anon insulting bona is evil. Check ur tongue. U r just one of those bitter pple that taunt others on lib. Jeez am disgusted. N besides bona gave d best advice. Its written in d bible. So take ur sour tongue n keep it somewhere. N madam admin filter comments from bitter pple. Nneoma
Nothing wrong with point no3,infact its best for kids in the absence of cane.
Point no2 is scary already #runs away from it#
All these militant advices on a 3 yr old na wao. Poster pls IT IS JUST A PHASE! and will pass before you know it. If you are registered in baby center you would have known this for a fact by now. I have a boy same age with yours and its same story. The only difference might be in variation of d stubbornness 'cos all kids are not the same.
This is not to say you shouldn't discipline her though cos I do mine, but follow your maternal instinct and don't give her punishment mightier than her age! lock in a dark room ke? even u as an adult wont u be traumatised???
Madam pls ur baby is not stubborn, she is just embracing her new found independence, and this phase just like others since she was born WILL PASS TOO.
Locking a child in a dark room does nothing to the child, especially the room the child is already use to.. I have 3 kids @ madam sazzy!
it's beta to discipline a child b4 she's 5, then u dnt need the rod after the child is 5… Go find out! Sorry dis came late
Patsy
@ patsy, please you need to re evaluate this ur style of punishment for a 3 year old so they don't resent you at the long run..do you know that just like you, they have feelings and fears? Maybe you don't. Asking her to lie under the bed in a dark room? Are you really a mom or step mom? A 3 yr old? Don't discipline cos u are angry or frustrated, do that cos u love her and want to teach her consequences of some certain actions..you don't want her to loose her self confidence in the process Biko..and this idea that after 5 you don't have to be as firm anymore is total Hokum…Mee
Nawa o, lock child in a dark room and put under bed. Please i dont envy your child/children. Poster child psycholoist say that the part of the brain that enables children understand the consequences of their action develops fully at age 5. Please dont take advice from just anybody. I understand the need to flog but pls do not over do it as you do not know the strength of your child, something can always go wrong. Pray and pls
Me think a three-year-old is too young to be called well brought up. But it's a foundation for being well brought up. I support Patsy's idea of dealing with the situation but pls don't lock a child in a dark room. If there's anything I can remember about my three – four year old days, it's that mum locked me inside a room, not dark but I had series of nightmares afterwards just because of the experience. Pls locking a baby up will traumatize her, yes some children are really stubborn, just be strict and firm. And give a few strokes on her bottom whenever she deserves it. And make sure you reward her whenever she does something you're happy about. No matter how stubborn a child is, she'll enjoy the rewards more than the cain.. 🙂
Me think a three-year-old is too young to be called well brought up. But it's a foundation for being well brought up. I support Patsy's idea of dealing with the situation but pls don't lock a child in a dark room. If there's anything I can remember about my three – four year old days, it's that mum locked me inside a room, not dark but I had series of nightmares afterwards just because of the experience. Pls locking a baby up will traumatize her, yes some children are really stubborn, just be strict and firm. And give a few strokes on her bottom whenever she deserves it. And make sure you reward her whenever she does something you're happy about. No matter how stubborn a child is, she'll enjoy the rewards more than the cain.. 🙂