Hello fellow blog readers, I feel so alone lying down on the couch and looking at supersports without really watching anything. I fear depression is close by and need help before it gets too late.
need advice on how to get over a married woman I have been having an affair with for over 3 years.
It all started when i began to see her at my gym on Saturdays. at the private gym I used to work at. She began texting me flirty messages and kept wanting to see me outside of thegym after Saturday aerobics. Now this had been going on for about 6 months, I kept making excuses but finally I gave in to seeing her and that’s when this all took off. We began being intimate and that’s when she started to shower me with expensive gifts
, an IPhone, a very expensive replica Rolex, not the real Hong but friends say that replica is very expensive, although they do not know how I acquired it. Lovely pairs of trainers and male gym clothe. She recently changed my gym bag to a more classy more complete designer bag, getaways, fancy dinners in hidden PH spots. etc. For the first 3 years i really was just having fun with it because there was no commitment involved.
At the three year mark though she told me she wants more from me and is so in love with me that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. Now this hit me hard because we have many challenges in front of us. I am 25 years old and she is 40 year’s old with two boys. Everyday I thought about these challenges, but as the third year went by i finally told myself i cant lose her. I explained to her i am ready to give you my all. I became so in love with her that I was finally ready to give her what she wanted. We came to an agreement that she would cause a fight and move out after the Christmas holidays to make it easier on the kids.
Now that the holidays are over she has told me she is second guessing everything and isnt ready to leave her husband and kids. She says its only fair for her to see if she can love her husband in that way again. The toughest part about all of this is how she kept telling me that she needs more from me. I feel as though i have been led on which breaks my heart because i truly am in love with her and can’t picture my life without her.
So, finally today we spoke and she told me we should not talk anymore or else that will make things hard for us. She also thinks if i am out of the picture she will be able to realize if she can be intimate with her husband again. I am not the type of guy that would ever want to break up a marraige but I’m so deeply in love with her which makes me want her to leave her husband. I am deeply confused, heart broken, and depressed about all this. I have asked myselfmsome questions: Was she just playing with my emotions this whole time? Did she just want attention from a younger man? Did she truly know she was never going to leave her family for me? How do i cope with all this and get over her? It’s so hard for me. When I broke up with my girlfriend, it wasn’t half this hard I swear.
Do you know one of the reasons Eve tasted the fruit in the garden of Eden? The answer is, it was forbidden.
You see, whatever is forbidden is always very sweet and hard to let go of but whatever is right and good is hardly ever hard to let go of. You crossed the boundary dear poster, you overstepped your bounds with that woman. How did you ever think she'll leave the comfort of her home, for you? If she were a man, yes, she might, because I am sorry to say this but some men do not reason beyond their 'balls' but she is a woman, she knows what it means to leave a home that many others envy her for. She's thinking of what impression she'll make on her sons who might grow up into despising her, she's also thinking about the community and what they'll say about her.
You on the other hand, are 25 and think that the world is ready for you and you are ready for the world. You think that presenting such a woman to your family in these consequences will be easy peasy. You think strutting her about on your arm would cause stares of admiration, you think life would be rosy once you both become man and wife. You haven't looked ahead to see the incessant fights over insecurities from her as she could cut off your social life for the fear of younger women. You can't see the fights and quarrels of the future and here you are, wanting her for yourself.
Poster, you are in lust and you have been eating of the forbidden fruit. It's 2016, a year of moving forward. Shake the dust off your skin, delete her contacts, if possible, move from where you reside. realize that the woman has been using you all along to exert her sexual fantasies. Move on!
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Poster, you have a wrong perception of who you are – you are definitely a marriage breaker! Until you tell yourself the truth, you cannot be helped! How do you explain sleeping with a married woman and even start 'falling in love' with her?
The benefits have gotten into your brain and you are ready to walk into fire with your eyes wide open – you need deliverance.
I think you should move on and concentrate on your next victim. You are gradually selling your future for a pot of pleasure. On a more serious note – live a life that will glorify God and your future will be secured.
Adaeze baby, you won't kill person with laughter na otuah . Preach on sister sister.
I feel deep inside u, u are also scared of losing all the gifts she has been showering u with let go of her and find u a suitable girl to settle down with or befriend u will see that ur feelings for the woman will reduce and ur spirit will start lifting up
My dear naive guy, you have just been used and dumped. You imagine she will leave the comfort her husband can give only for sex with you? SMH.
Adaeze has said it all I can't say no more
Poster, change your number and avoid all contact with this woman. Try to get another job so she won't come looking for you. Get yourself another apartment as well. Concentrate on your job, hang out with your friends more and you might meet a nice girl that will make you forget this woman.
When she doesn't get the sexual satisfaction she desires from her husband, she will come looking for you so i suggest you change your job or ask for a transfer to another branch. If she ever finds you again please dont get back with her because she will use you and dump you again and this emotional trauma will return.
She will not leave her husband because i am pretty sure he provides the funds for all the luxury she gives you.
Wake up, smell the coffee and move on.
U are in luv with her bcos of her money tell ur self d truth. If there is no money would u hv gone for her? Despite d age difference.
U don't even have to change base or lines. Just block her from reaching u n Mk ur decision of ending it all. Life is about decision. Nvr ever try such again n go pray for forgiveness asap
dear poster, for you. Proverbs 7:6-27
6 At the window of my house
I looked down through the lattice.
7 I saw among the simple,
I noticed among the young men,
a youth who had no sense.
8 He was going down the street near her corner,
walking along in the direction of her house
9 at twilight, as the day was fading,
as the dark of night set in.
10 Then out came a woman to meet him,
dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent.
11 (She is unruly and defiant,
her feet never stay at home;
12 now in the street, now in the squares,
at every corner she lurks.)
13 She took hold of him and kissed him
and with a brazen face she said:
14 “Today I fulfilled my vows,
and I have food from my fellowship offering at home.
15 So I came out to meet you;
I looked for you and have found you!
16 I have covered my bed
with colored linens from Egypt.
17 I have perfumed my bed
with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon.
18 Come, let’s drink deeply of love till morning;
let’s enjoy ourselves with love!
19 My husband is not at home;
he has gone on a long journey.
20 He took his purse filled with money
and will not be home till full moon.”
21 With persuasive words she led him astray;
she seduced him with her smooth talk.
22 All at once he followed her
like an ox going to the slaughter,
like a deer[a] stepping into a noose[b]
23 till an arrow pierces his liver,
like a bird darting into a snare,
little knowing it will cost him his life.
24 Now then, my sons, listen to me;
pay attention to what I say.
25 Do not let your heart turn to her ways
or stray into her paths.
26 Many are the victims she has brought down;
her slain are a mighty throng.
27 Her house is a highway to the grave,
leading down to the chambers of death.