Good afternoon aunty eya,
I really don’t know how to start writing,but I’ll start somewhere,I’m gonna really bore u with a long story here,but I’ll try cut it short,I need some candid advice.
There’s this guy I met roughly 2yrs ago,he lived in
my area all along but I dint know him,he eventually asked me out of FB and along the line we started dating online cos he was far away in Europe and I was here back home,it got to a stage he was stranded over there and could barely feed,against my friends advice I sent him some money to help bring him home,when he came back things were pretty difficult cos he’s from a poor home,but we tried coping with the little I was getting from home,infact there was a time we spent my fees because of the tough times we were going thru but still I held on,despite the fact that my friends wanted me to breakup with him cos according to them he was eating up all the little savings I ever owned.
Later he got some cash and for a while forgot I ever existed,he spent lavishly on people while I was so broke and I had fall out of favor with my family thanks to him,I later told him I wanted a break maybe that jolt him back to live he retraced his steps and became loving and caring almost to a fault.
Something happened along the line and we were drawing apart again,this time around he told me he was no longer interested and that he’s found some1 else,I was so heartbroken that I ventured into a relationship with the next available toaster(I get attention from guys a lot)he later came back that he was joking but it was almost 2late,I was invited to his house,his friend(much older) tried settling the ish between us and that night I got the beating of my life from him,that moment he killed the remains of what I have left for him,he later pleaded it was the devil at work that I should forgive him which I did.
I eventually broke up with the second guy cos I dint really love him,since then I’ve been with the 1st guy but things has never been the same with us again,its been from 1 ish to another and right now I feel trapped even though there are a lot of guys who want to be with me,moreso my family can’t let me marry him cos of some reasons I can’t tell here,pls I need honest advise
Thanks
*aunty eya pls post this*
I really don’t know how to start writing,but I’ll start somewhere,I’m gonna really bore u with a long story here,but I’ll try cut it short,I need some candid advice.
There’s this guy I met roughly 2yrs ago,he lived in
my area all along but I dint know him,he eventually asked me out of FB and along the line we started dating online cos he was far away in Europe and I was here back home,it got to a stage he was stranded over there and could barely feed,against my friends advice I sent him some money to help bring him home,when he came back things were pretty difficult cos he’s from a poor home,but we tried coping with the little I was getting from home,infact there was a time we spent my fees because of the tough times we were going thru but still I held on,despite the fact that my friends wanted me to breakup with him cos according to them he was eating up all the little savings I ever owned.
Later he got some cash and for a while forgot I ever existed,he spent lavishly on people while I was so broke and I had fall out of favor with my family thanks to him,I later told him I wanted a break maybe that jolt him back to live he retraced his steps and became loving and caring almost to a fault.
Something happened along the line and we were drawing apart again,this time around he told me he was no longer interested and that he’s found some1 else,I was so heartbroken that I ventured into a relationship with the next available toaster(I get attention from guys a lot)he later came back that he was joking but it was almost 2late,I was invited to his house,his friend(much older) tried settling the ish between us and that night I got the beating of my life from him,that moment he killed the remains of what I have left for him,he later pleaded it was the devil at work that I should forgive him which I did.
I eventually broke up with the second guy cos I dint really love him,since then I’ve been with the 1st guy but things has never been the same with us again,its been from 1 ish to another and right now I feel trapped even though there are a lot of guys who want to be with me,moreso my family can’t let me marry him cos of some reasons I can’t tell here,pls I need honest advise
Thanks
*aunty eya pls post this*
But seriously is this type of drama what u wish for in a husband?
Do u think u can cope with a relationship going OFF and ON like our epileptic powersupply?
Do u think dat a man dat struck u blaming the devil,wouldn't hit u again?
U deserve something better Boo.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
Excuse me babe,which advice do u want? You've already seen the handwriting on the wall what do u want to hear again??
Babe,pls you need to get on your knees and tell God to break whatever hold this guy has upon you because this is not normal. And no wonder the guy keeps treating you the way he does because you have shown yourself ready to put up with any crap he dishes out. Then wen he begs you,in ur mind u will feel like someone that is being begged and go back to your vomit.
I'm sorry to be so blunt with you. But the truth has to be told. Is it until he kills you? Or breaks your spirit so badly that a good guy will be in your face and you won't recognise him because you are stuck emotionally with one useless man? This man is abusing you. Physically,emotionally,psychologically.
Leave him. Turn your back on him once and for all. You deserve a good man that will not take your good nature for granted. Even if he brings obama to beg, DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM. The guy is a douchebag.
I haff said my own. God will not allow him to kill you with beating or kill your spirit in jesus name.*na prayer I do for you o. Oya talk amen!*
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Wats the point of advising wen she knws wat to do. Stay there untill u r beaten to death. Dnt run 4 ur life while u still can. I cant imagine how pple still love sm1 who beats them up. I grew up in an abusive home n ive vowed NEVER to let it happen to me.
Dear Poster, please grow up. You are disgracing yourself, family and friends.
This is my first time of commenting since I have been reading your blog for months now; I just couldn't help but hit the 'post comment' button. Aunty Eya, I know you are trying to be as nice as possible to your readers and may God bless u for it but pls stop publishing dumb stories like this. Thanks. Love ur blog.
Also Dear Poster, kindly send an apology note for allowing us waste our precious time reading your 'unpathetic' story!
This is just lame. Don't you read in the papers about how people are killed due to an abusive relationship. Is that how you want to end your life. After forgiving him you get the beating of your life and you still stayed. Na jazz? People are struggling 2 live a happy life and you are here asking me what to do with your abusive bf. Beat him up! Give him the beating of his life! For your time, your money, the beatings,the fall out with your family. I'm even angry now I feel like doing the beat. Lady, get mad, beat him up and move with your life. Get a job and give a good guy a chance.
No mincing words- YOU ARE JUST STUPID!!!! Ur confused? Ehen! Wat do u want us to do for u???? Pls stay let the guy gets ample time to help beat d stupidity out of u, so we have less idiots like u on d street. Aunty Eya, pls STOP feeding us with this rubbish! I'm sure a child wrote this! This blog is for matured minds! Start filtering ur mails and not all mails should be posted here for us up read. I dey vex.
And if u all like, insult me that I'm harsh, for ur pocket! Maybe u wdbt me yo advise her to pray about it! shior! Keep pretending that things like this doesn't vex u after reading it!
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Msheeeeeeew! Nonsense! Stay till u get killed. Dis is just common sense.
Lol..and me I thot I was harsh with my comment. Abeg make una take am easy with the babe oh. LooL. The guy don press her mumu button na I'm make she dey ask yeye queshun! Lol!
My dear, run as fast as you Can. May God help u in your next choice and give u a man dat really deserves u. Amen
Hmmm. #grinninganddancingazonto# common sense aint common. Punching bags tins. I'm sure he updates dt wyl punchin u.
Plsssssss, u guys should tak it easy wit her…. She had done notin wrong by askin 4 advice… If she were 2 b ur daughter ll u treat her lik this… Pls let us behave maturely..if u dnt hv anytin 2 say 2 her or advice, jst keep quiet.. I tink is better dat way…
leave! the only selling points he got are wife beater, lazy user and cheat. if u want to be miserable for the rest of your life stay. if u want to be sane LEAVE!
Olodo oshi! It's ur daughter dat wil act stupid. Pls dnt insult us!!!! I dnt blame u or her, it's Aunty Eya I blame!
Bonario,soulspasms,ahdaisy,ada,princess,anonymous 9.07,abi,thank you so much I grabbed 1 or 2 things,and for the anonymous(es)that decided to rain insults and curses thank you too,I believe when it comes to things of the heart and outsider at times could be the best adviser,you don't know me 1 bit and all your insults were uncalled for,to you I might be stupid,but its what's hurting me,watching 3yrs of my life go down the drain,all the same THANK YOU!
If you have no advice don't call it stupid or paint it… Every story might be a lesson or blessing to some in oblivion to you. This hate spilling is the reason Africa is and remains a dark and un-progressive continent.
@Aunty Eya, please ignore most of this gate keeper visitors always acting above their shoulders…. They ar the ones that know what shld be posted or not, if there's any1 that needs advice more in Nigeria it must be ur president GEJ.
Keep it comin, if I have comment I go yarn, if I nor get…. I waka pass
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Dear poster, don't be offended by the abusive posts. This your letter is actually some how haba. You are watching 3 years of your life go down the drain, it's better to jump of this moving train than to watch 10 years go down the drain.
I beleive in your heart you know the right thing to do.
So because u've invested 3 years of ur life with him u have to die there even if he's being abusive. Haven't u heard about starting all over again. That scumbag does not deserve u so move it!!!
Double like!
D poster is really confused.
Come, re u a learner or shud I call u a fool, even a 10yrs old gal can neva behave dis way u re behavin, leave d boy alone na by force, sey na wen he use knife on u na him ur eye go clear wella, leave him alone bikonu, he is not meant for u. Pls leave him oooooooo am beggin u. Thk u.
Dear poster, pls leave dis guy alone, u need to start afresh, forget the years u spent with him, don't see it as wasted years rather see it as years spent learning, am sure u have learnt a thing or two which will help you in ur next relationship, u need to be wise, use ur head and not ur heart, u need to walk out while u still can beofre ur broken am sure ur family will understand wen u go back to dem and dey r always ready to forgive un make the right decision now before you become history
Thanks for speaking my mind. Aunty Eya, this story is too dumb. Pls give us posts that'll enlighthen us, not one that reduces our IQ. Tnx.
God bless u real good!may all that concerns u never get spoilt,u rock!
So idiotic girl's like u still exist?sorry if u think we sound harsh but that the least of treatment u deserve!
U must be btn 23-25yr and u think a 3yr relationship can't end bcos ur whole life depends on it?have u heard of pple who stayed in 11yr old relationshp but still took a hike?
Seriously,u have got self esteem &inferiority complex issues that's why u would allow a douche bag to treat u like trash!
And please stop having sex with him(yes u doing that with him too)
Gosh,girrrlll grow up!damn!!!!!
Just for the act of beating U, RUN FOR UR LIFE.
3 yrs aint anything compared to ALL UR LIFE BEING BEATEN
Thks my dear, I wonder wat she is still doing der mayb his koboko is sweet and she doesn't want to loose it. Mayb its wen d guy has finished her or throw her out b4 she go knw, mayb she just big wit small pikin brain. Na she sabi ooo
Don't eva lick ur vomit, if u must den don't vomit it…period