How To Spot A Married Bachelor

Alone with my thought: He always wants to be alone, He wants to have his own time, all the time. He may provide school fees and a lot of other stuff but doesn’t want to hear the noise, doesn’t want to get a bit messy and runs away from every chance to bond with the family.

Iya Basirat Character: I cannot wrap my head around men that cannot eat one soup twice, ha! I love cooking but that is tough everyday new soup? I had a friend that once her husband is in town she is not as excited, there was a day she ran quickly to choir practice before the guy got home, the guy doesn’t only want new food every day, he wants her to cook it fresh.

For Instance, if he is coming now, the food should be almost ready, don’t cook it down and drop in the fridge and no, tomorrow there should try to be a new soup or food, no food sleeps overnight and she has to buy the ingredient fresh, I was stunned!

I asked myself if this is not witchcraft, what is it? Was it something the girl did while they were dating that he is paying her for? When he is offshore he eats anything o.

Dear married bachelor if you cannot eat soup that stay in the fridge or freezer then you would need to find a buka around the corner, after all, they cook daily.

Don’t touch my phone: I hear some ladies say, it’s his phone, he doesn’t allow me to touch it, let me allow him to have his privacy….Na LIE! The phone is not private to nobody, it is his phone doesn’t mean you cannot snoop look around, it is not that every time you pick it and go ” let me see what you have been up to” but you should be able to look through his phone, share in some of his gists, laugh at jokes he made with his friends, what I mean is that you should be able to hold his phone and he doesn’t go into a panic attack or it results in a big fight.

If you are not yet married and your boyfriend is telling you that he should be accorded phone privacy then trust me you don’t need to be there.

Friends first, the family later: There are some men when you hear what friends have to say about them then you the wife would go “abeg is that my husband” you hear how he was there for his friends and he even extends it to their families, things like “your husband is so nice when I was out of town he helped my wife with the school run by taking our kids everyday to school on his way to work, he picked me from the airport etc” then you ask yourself is that my husband knowing that for him to do you a favour, he cannot! Chai! When they talk about our husbands outside may we know it is them.Family first!

Hanging out with the boys: I don’t have anything against a guy having a guy time here and there but when it becomes guys over family, then there is a problem. “Oh hanging out with the guys”I want to go hang with my guys”, “It my guys birthday”,” it my guys sisters wedding”, “just me and the boys”, why can’t our wife see your boys na and a married man should enjoy his wife and family more than your guys…I know someone whose husband never goes out with her even to weddings, they have one car and if she insist on going out with him, he must find an excuse or leave the car with her and use a taxi or even a bike, She is pretty and looks good so that is not the problem, it is bachelors behaviour, he doesn’t want the burden of her coming along with the kids, he just wants to be free from all of them, I heard he travelled to London recently, though they all got visa, he said he would go check out the place first.Na wa..

Going out and Coming anytime: As a bachelor, you did not owe anything to nobody but when you are married and you want to go out, tell your spouse where you are going to and when she should expect you back. I was at a friends place one day and she had a visitor when the visitor was talking about her husband, she did not seem to know when he would come back or where he was, she ended up saying, I normally don’t wait for him, I just drop the key where he can find it and go and sleep, bet why? Why would you act like this men? Imagine you call your husband and you ask where are you, some would say “somewhere, around the corner, hanging with my guy” when are you coming and they go “I don’t know na, don’t wait up o’….It is all bachelors behaviour and bad manners for marriage,

There are a lot where this came from but I would let you tell me some married bachelor behaviour you know or have experienced first hand.

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