To deal with Nigerian sisters In Law, you need to have sense. You need a bucket full of ‘wisdom that’s profitable to direct’. Unless like me, you are blessed with good sisters In-law. Nigerian In-laws also known as African In Laws can be sweet if you are lucky to marry into an enlightened family. They can also be a pain in the neck if they are the typical Nigerian In Laws from your village coming to stay with you and their brother in the city. Brother In Laws are easier to cope with. They don’t give much trouble and some don’t even give any trouble at all.
Here is a SM post shared by other women. A new mom whose baby is just 9 days old, still being taken care of by her Omugwo mother has been asked by her mature in-Law to get her mother to do laundry for the whole family including hubby.
Would you ask your mother to wash your husband’s clothes to make your marriage work ? to please a sister in law? How do you deal with a Nigerian sister In Law?
please share your wisdom by leaving a comment below to help others now and in the future.
‘I have just Given birth. I have a 9 day old baby and my mum stays with me. My sister in-law came to visit 7 days ago,she’s widowed with grown up chiLdren, she’s almost 48 while my hubby is 29.
MY STORY
My story goes thus,my mum do wash my cloth and my baby’s everyday,she picks just mine from d laundry basket and leaves my hubby own.hubby works all day except Sundays and is totally against doing any work on Sundays. he doesn’t even allow mummy wash cloth or go 2 d market on Sundays.Yesterday SIL called me and told me to tell my mum to start washing everything in d laundry basket instead of selecting just mine,I told her that mum came to look after me,but she insisted that i tell my mum since she eats in this house..
I do my husband’s laundry before I gave birth and after I gave birth he began taking them to a dry cleaner..I must not fail to add that Sister In Law cleans d house, does d dishes, even my room except cooking which my mum takes care of..
I’m confused, I can’t tell my mum to wash my husband’s clothes,cuz even my elder bro is older than my hubby. And he (my husband ) heard wen SIL was telling me to tell my mum to do all d laundry and he didn’t say anything.Instead he left the clothes there rather than take them to the dry cleaner as he earlier planned to.
Advice is needed please… How to cope with my sister in Law…
I put it to you dear SIL that you are a trouble maker o. You have grown up children, why not allow your brother’s marriage to work. There is nothing wrong with your brother giving his clothes to a dry cleaner. I have never washed my husband’s clothes unless undies. This new mom has always washed your brother’s clothes before she gave birth to her 9 day old baby. Leave your brother to patronise the dry cleaner for now. If grandma didn’t surface, you’d be the one to wash and clean and still cook after bathing and feeding baby.
Leave the old woman alone please. Don’t instigate trouble to make her leave early. That’s her daughter’s house too.
Leaving your brother’s clothes for the dry cleaner is a sign of respect sef. She doesn’t trust that she can wash those dirty clothes as good as the laundry men and that’s ok.
Why would a grandma go and be washing her son i n laws clothes? If she visited with her car and private driver, will you ask her to wash your baby brother’s clothes? ahn ahn!
For wives who do their husbands’ laundry, there’s nothing wrong with it for as long as you don’t do it grudgingly. No one should try to make it look like washing a husband’s clothes is part of the duties of a wife. No it’s not! They just do it for love. That’s all.
For new mom. Don’t make trouble with SIL ok? Just let her know that your mother can’t do that for now and that when you are healed, you’ll take care of hubby’s laundry.
Talk with your husband in the room when SIL isn’t listening in. Tell him that it’s best he continues using the dry cleaner until you are healed and strong enough to resume washing. Let him see that you cannot subject mama to washing his sweat, boxers and stocking after doing all the cooking for the whole family, caring for you and baby and still washing for you. He’ll see reasons with you.