My husband had an affair with a lady I know too well. All throughout the affair I kept asking him to stop but he kept denying it and since I didn’t have proof I couldn’t do anything. Now I do and he he is acting so good trying to be at his best behavior but I know it’s because he has been caught and does not want me to further expose them. But the lady in question
has been so rude and insulting, now that I have all the information to prove my case , she has been very silent. There is a spirit of revenge in me to report her to her husband should I?
So she can feel the pain . Or leave revenge for God? Please help I don’t know the right step to take !
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So sorry about all the pain you had to endure, pain caused by a fellow wife but reporting to her husband may not be the best option. It will belittle and disgrace your husband too. She has to pay for what she did knowing fully well how it hurts, there must be a way to make her pay because she was too confident and then broke the 11th commandment (Thou shalt not get caught). She fell into sin and then allowed herself to get caught, it's all her fault and she must be ready for the consequence. Being rude and insulting to you while sleeping with your husband is something else, no wise woman will try that and she must pay. Don't worry, I'll post on the blog now let others also tell us what they feel you should do and I will get back to you on the blog. Thinking seriously about she'll be made to pay for what she did. Later.
Tip: Right now, make your husband do anything you want, he is in your trap and cannot refuse.
The best, avenger is God. leave it to him to handle, besides if you expose them it will also stress your own marriage and make your husband see you as the enemy. Now that he is in your hand, its time to talk sense into him and tame him into what you want.All the best.
Report her. Not just for revenge but as a deterent…
Report her
Leave everything in the hands of God…. put everything in prayers…God will expose her in a special way to the husband.
I like your response but let me ask, what if d woman has a n infection that she has passed to this woman through her husband dirty act? My dear in as much as we want God to take control of this matter, pls let her report this woman to her husband.
Wat if the woman is later chase out of her home and she and the poster husband continue where they left of…or she use diabolical ways against her or sent thugs to kill her because of her reportn,i will advice her to use the evident to threaten the lady so that she can leave her husband for her jor…that woman is already a useless and thunder that will punish her is doing press up waiting for the right time…
Forget that your thunder press up mentality……. And how will God expose her if not by making the woman husband know. Even if she doesn't report her, she will still be sleeping with the husband. So forget this your fear of thugs and charm
Is through prayer she got them red handed so her work now to do is to report to the husband.
Wat if the lady is chase out of her home…she and the poster husband continue where they have left off…I have seen this happen to some one and I know how bad it was for her… anyway its left for the poster to take it or leave the advice… wisdom is profitable…
Report her to her husband and deal with your husband
When Married women comment,it bothers me.When husband cheats it simply means they lack sometin @home.Why don't u stop disgracing your hubby? You are simply telling every1 he made a mistake marrying u.Keep quiet and check for the Tins that is making him cheat
Re u married dear?
You're talking like an illiterate. …Are you even educated?? Who are you to judge this woman ??? My dear am not sure you've been in a relationship before talkless of getting married
Lawd have mercy… If a man cheats it means he is lacking something at home? Really? This kind of mentality is the reason men get away with anything and take responsibility for nothing…I can't even start addressing this issue…naah dunno where to start from… This one is beyond redemption.. Carry on good wife.. May your virtues keep your husband from cheating..
If u know her Mom or sister u can report her to them, insted of goin staight to her husband to report , u may not know wat will end it, and dat can affect u too.pls tink twice
Reporting her means reporting your husband for trespassing so you decide what's best for you.
The husband you are going to report him to,cheats as well…
I want to thank all of you for your inputs
Thank u so much
Anty I am waiting for your last input or what u are thinking, but whatever u said I will do . Left for me I would have told the husband or the family
Don't report her,cos if you do and her husband sent her out, then your marriage is on a time bomb.
Please don't report her. Threaten that you'll report if she doesn't clear but don't. See, reporting her will affect you. Like most readers have commented, it might affect your marriage negatively and you won't be happy. Not for her but for your own happiness, don't report, leave her poor husband. Save the good man from that stress please. Let her start living in fear (of the unknown) but don't do it.
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I believe this must have been over but I will still make my comments. I would advise the wife not not report the cheating lady to her husband because the multiplier effect might go beyond what she can handle. Your husband will trust you more and respect your for not reporting. Also not reporting will will calm things down and this will die off naturally as long as your husband is ready to right the wrong and discontinue. On the other hand, if you report, you have no idea what the lady husband's reaction might be! A very jealous husband can kill and even your own husband. By reporting, you would have exposed your marriage to public scrutiny and street discussion. This will definitely strain your marriage and I can assure you, it will never be the same again! You may eventually lose your husband because once you have exposed him, he has nothing to fear again.