After 14 years of marriage, Nigerian Dad bumps into his wife’s private chats on her mobile phone and has begun to doubt his marriage and the fact that he thought he knew his wife.
The disappointed dad who wants the best for his kids, couldn’t keep his findings to himself as it was just overwhelming for him. He shared these chats on Social Media. Confused on what step to take next. From the chats, seems like his wife and mother of their kids has been in the habit of paying the school teachers to alter grades and give promotion to the kids to help impress their father:
Read his post below:
Good evening ma. How are you and your family ? I came to report my wife who is a member of this forum to you . Let her fellow women advise her and tell her to her face that she is doing a wrong thing. My wife has been buying my children’s teachers over for these past years.
A school I pay heavily on, my daughter school fees is 145,000 for a term. I just found out through the chats I saw on her phone.
I will give you just one screenshot to prove my point. I am not only disappointed, I have lost trust entirely where she is is. I just want to go to that school and report that teacher so she will be fired, but on a second thought I remembered Cynthia’s forum and decided to know what people can say on this first before anything .
This was the chat she had yesterday with the stupid teacher yesterday morning and I saw it. I screenshot the last part to show you how the stupid teacher was even trying to tell her simple truth but she insisted to carry along her useless plans.
This is enough to divorce this woman but I won’t. From yesterday, I made it clear to her that I won’t give her any free privileges anymore because she has done more harm to my children than anybody can do .
My first son has repeated Jss1 twice now in his new school. I don’t know if she didn’t succeed in bribing her way through his own class teacher this time or what? I feel like slapping her to ask her why she wants to ruin our children’s life but I don’t even have the courage to do such.
It shows that I don’t even know the woman I have been married to for 14 good years. Hey lord I am finished.”
Here’s My Reply:
Most mothers who do this do it out of desperation and fear. Fear of being blamed for their kid’s performance. Why should you be blamed for your kid’s failure at school? Children take their brains from both mum and dad. If they are slow or fast at learning, it’s a combination of both parents’ brains.
Please, No mother should be blamed by hubby when kids fail examinations.
It’s not only about the brain anyways. Failure at school could be as a result of the home environment or events happening at home, kids unseriousness or any other thing. Sometimes, kids who are not great in classroom work, do have other areas they excel at which perhaps haven’t yet been discovered.
Not everyone is good at making great grades at school.
Many great men and women we see today didn’t come first or third in school. We that came first with straight A’s ended up as school teachers sef.
Men too, you are not helping. Sometimes, the husbands are the reason their wives go to any length to deceive. They leave the whole work load on the woman… From getting the kids ready for school to picking up after school, to feeding, to homework, doing assignments, School projects and all.
Honestly speaking, some fathers don’t even know the location of their kids’ schools. Once school fee is paid, they leave every other thing to the mothers.
A father should be immersed in his child’s life no matter how busy your schedule. Aside paying school fee, look at your kids’ books from time to time. Sit beside them sometimes when they do homework and you’ll know their abilities and capabilities without being told.
However busy, don’t be too busy for family. Dad’s please find time on weekends to go through your kids’ books. If you can do that even thrice in a term, you’ll know where your children need help and if they can pass to the next class or not.
Dear mothers.
No matter what, when it comes to kids, never hide the true situation of things from their fathers. The truth will always come back in your face. What about the future?
It’s better to let the dad in and get things fixed early.
By doing this with the teachers, this mum was just delaying the evil Day. Can you bribe through University and their adult life at work?
It’s better to take the blame and shame now. Better to get things fixed on time, than paint a fake image and cry in future.
To all parents
Depending only on the report card at the end of the term may not give you the truth about your child. Some private schools do alter grades when children perform poorly. They do this to impress their customers (Parents) and keep them from withdrawing their kids to other schools.
Create time to do homework and read with the kids. School lesson too doesn’t really solve much. Many children do this after school lesson with the same teacher and what the teacher does is just give them same activity to do. The teacher cannot kill himself.
Kids who do homework at school may not even be getting much out of it, but they have to do it because there is no way a mum who comes back from work late will find time to sit for homework with already tired sleepy kids.
Depending on the teacher. There are a few teachers who write down homework answers for the kids to copy into their books without really explaining well. At the end of the day, everyone is happy that homework is done during lesson and we all can rest.
Try copying the homework questions into a sheet of paper without answers, ask your child to provide answers, then you know.
You get the honest truth about your child when you are physically involved in the process.
Hope I’m making any sense… May God help us parents!