Hello Aunty Eya, good morning. I sent you a mail last week but didn’t get any response. I have since then been refreshing the page Incase it’s posted but can’t find it. I am resending it,please Aunty Eya, don’t ignore this email. Help me post this question for blog readers. I need answers immediately.
My husband’s kinsmen want him to get a second wife. The pressure is like a volcanic ash pushing to erupt. Before, he vehemently refused but with the pressure and age too, I sense he is weakening and may eventually do their bid.
He was my first boyfriend and 10 years after marriage there is still no hope for children from me. Although medically he is ok, the problem lies with me. Different Doctors have confirmed that I have infertility issues (they say I am infertile). By January next year he will be fifty while I am 42 this month.
We kept praying and believing but the biological clock is not on my side. I am a woman, my chances are getting slimmer by the day.
My husband’s kinsmen want him to get a second wife. The pressure is like a volcanic ash pushing to erupt. Before, he vehemently refused but with the pressure and age too, I sense he is weakening and may eventually do their bid.
He was my first boyfriend and 10 years after marriage there is still no hope for children from me. Although medically he is ok, the problem lies with me. Different Doctors have confirmed that I have infertility issues (they say I am infertile). By January next year he will be fifty while I am 42 this month.
We kept praying and believing but the biological clock is not on my side. I am a woman, my chances are getting slimmer by the day.
I told two of my friends and they both advised I go into dry fasting and prayer against that move, but my conscience is troubled. I feel like my husband should not remain childless for my inability to get pregnant. I don’t know how it would feel like having a sister wife and I don’t know what to do.
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Fasting and prayer matter? Maybe you suggest some other options to you husband. While you are fasting, what if he kinsmen also fast and pray that you suddenly pack your bags and leave? You and hubby can still have kids, if that's what is making them ask for a second wife. Suggest and see how he reacts. E never reach for second wife and your marriage will not be labelled childless.
if you dont want him to get a second wife, you guys should arrange with someone and pay the person to have kids for your husband. But wait o at 50 how will he take care of the child when he is almost about to retire……………you people should think this through
Dear poster, even as you pray(which is very important) I suggest that you look into these options.
Invitro Fertilization, Adoption and even surrogacy.
His kinsmen are too insensitive to try to break your marriage and your husband should not listen to them, afterall, he is the head of his home and not them.
However, go into fasting and prayers as your friends suggested. God be with you.
you can definitely pray against him getting a second wife because i am sure it is not the will of God for him to do so as that is adultery and God does not encourage sin. If you pour your heart out to God who has kept your marriage for so long he will definitely answer you.
@Eya even if her kinsmen fast and pray for her to pack her bags havent you read that God hates divorce so why would God answer that prayer.
madam pls pray and fast joh
Awwwwww…. Oh my dear its well. Have you tried cassava roots? Check Google for it and read people's review. Keep on praying nothing is too much for God to do. All the best
At 42 & hubby at 50… time is definitely not on your side. I believe you must have taken different steps before now, but keep trying with God as the foundation of any equation you chose. I am sure that you have heard (read) testimonies of people in worse situations? Your own will not be different, in Jesus Name!
You cannot do anything to stop the pressure on your husband – in fact, you will increase his blood pressure trying to stop him! However, I think both of you should have adopted a child(ren) long before now. It's not late and adopting does not mean that you have given up…
This is a time to be more caring and understanding. Talk about your fears and aspiration with your husband. It helps when you really talk openly about issues… God will make you smile and all that hear will come laugh with you.
Madam am being honest with u.hubby loves u and u should be grateful to GOd for that.I am a woman and I understand your fears, but if u love this man as much as he loves u, please both of u should pray about God providing a good woman to bear him children. It should not be one person decision. If u have a relation u trust and love pray and recomrnd her to hubby. Let. God take control. Pray that God will provide a godfearing relative who will not come and try to push u out. It will not be easy for any woman to share her husband, but in this case see it as a sacrifice u are making for a good husband. God will never let ur sacrifice to be in vain. Your husband is one in a million
Me I don't agree on using a relative o. I will prefer someone u don't know and far off. This is something u should have thought of long ago.sorrogate is the world but with someone u don't know and u can do it like u had d baby urself. I mean if hubby agree o. U can get someone and when she is pregnant u too can start acting pregnant as well just so ur husband people don't make.a big deal out of it.u can get something to put on ur tommy to make.it.look like u are pregnant till the nine months and u can think of ways to go from there. Just my opinion anyways
Me I don't agree on using a relative o. I will prefer someone u don't know and far off. This is something u should have thought of long ago.sorrogate is the world but with someone u don't know and u can do it like u had d baby urself. I mean if hubby agree o. U can get someone and when she is pregnant u too can start acting pregnant as well just so ur husband people don't make.a big deal out of it.u can get something to put on ur tommy to make.it.look like u are pregnant till the nine months and u can think of ways to go from there. Just my opinion anyways
Madam it is possible to get a child from ur egg which will be extracted from you n hubby's sperm n a surrogate mother made to carry the pregnancy.outside this country,there are women whose jobs it is. 2 b surrogate mothers.they r camped somwhere and paid for it.just browse for more info.pray n act fast.
Madam it is possible to get a child from ur egg which will be extracted from you n hubby's sperm n a surrogate mother made to carry the pregnancy.outside this country,there are women whose jobs it is. 2 b surrogate mothers.they r camped somwhere and paid for it.just browse for more info.pray n act fast.