Hello good people, Please I need your help and
advice. I am in love with an amazing man. he is so good to me and very
mature. He is going through a divorce (according to him) his family is
abroad. My problem here is he is 16 years older than I am, I am 27 years
old and secondly I don’t know if the Catholic Church will wed us cos of his
status.
advice. I am in love with an amazing man. he is so good to me and very
mature. He is going through a divorce (according to him) his family is
abroad. My problem here is he is 16 years older than I am, I am 27 years
old and secondly I don’t know if the Catholic Church will wed us cos of his
status.
He says he wants to be married to me but I am sometimes worried
whether he is being honest with me about the divorce.
Please I will like
advice as I am so worried cos its hard for me to even
like another and honestly I am not getting any younger. Thank you so very
much
my dear, do your research very well. and let him show you the divorce papers or mails before you believe. also i dnt think any church will wed you considering what the bible says about divorce, except they dont know. Also, there is a proverb that" the cane the man take flog the first wife, dey back of door dey wait for the second wife" you need to find out why they divorced so you too don't become a victim. 27ys is not too old dear, i have friends that are 32 and still single. i married at 27 too and it was to a wonderful guy i met that same year not my ex i was dating for only God knows how long. i think there is a man for every girl so dont take another woman's man.
My dear shine your eyes o! I almost married a divorcee he said his first wife packed out of the house everytime they had arguments and he got tired of begging her when I did my research i discovered that he was a chronic wife beater 3 months later I met my husband. If you doubt his ingenuity pls dont go down that road and think about what God said about marrying a divorcee do you honestly think thats Gods plan for you. By the way I was 27 when I broke up with him and I got married later that year
My candid advice is that no one can give u good advice on a social media engine.We don't know you and your unique situations. You should audit your true feeling from your vantage experience. We've all watched enough movies to know a bit about life. Whatever your decision you know you will bear the consequences. If its not feeling right its most likely not good enough.
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I got married last yr at d age of 34,I dont pray u wait dat long but pls be patient oo so u dont regret it,do ur investigation well i was in dat situation too sumhw i still neva confirmed d divorce bcos even after he told me i still stood by him before he brought up anoda thing dat his ex in gambia had a child for him dats wen i spoke to my legs he even came to talk to my mum.D long and short of d story is do ur findings well find out y dey r divorcin cos if he or she can easily give up on a life commitment tor ,if u want to go in be ready for anything den I would say seriously seek the face of the Lord in these matter so u wont miss ur way.Take care of u
I am really tired of these ladies in their twenty's singing "I am not getting any younger". Be careful about the decisions you make. It is better to be single and happy than to be married and miserable. A word is enough for the wise.
Whoever dt deleted my comment made b4 d last comment has actually deprived d members of this forum d opportunity to savour frm d wealth of EXPERIENCE of a london trained Counsellor! I knw it wasn't Aunty Eya because she's too sane to waste such a thought-provoking conjuration! Pls, right this wrong!
U did not tell us wether his first marriage was contracted in a church or marriage Registry. However, if his first marriage was done in a church especially d Catholic church, i knw as a fact that Catholic church will NEVER wed u! Frm wat u said abt u not getn younger, it's vry obvious dt u r rushing into dis marriage! Dear, u beta do ur research vry vry well to avoid RUSHING OUT d way u rushed in! Goodluck!
My dear, u can say that again! At 27, you are saying that u are not getting any younger *SMH* If only you know the implications of rushing into marriage all because age is not on your side or may be your friends have all gotten married, you wouldn't have said that. Just like anon 10.05 said, and i repeat, IT IS BETTER TO BE SINGLE AND HAPPY THAN TO BE MARRIED AND MISERABLE! DO NOT FALL A VICTIM PLEASE.
TAke a walk dear. Dat man ll waste ur time and youth. He is not 4 u…look 4 a man u can call ur own w/out appendages.dnt put urself in a bondage of endless wait. Wen he settles watever *if any* issues he is having wit his wife, he is surely going back to her. Walk away my dear .
No church will wed you. Please be sure, and like some advised. Get the papers, see them and verify the authenticity. Also, find the real truth about the first marriage. But i advice you don't wed him.
If you must, do find out the church Nollywood actor Solomon Akinyesi tried to wed in Lagos. Hopefully she wont find out.
Use ur brain. Dear,n seek Gods face.ur young to go tru dis,ur own man will come.
My dear, this should have come earlier. At 27, any man you decide to date should be for marriage. So this questions should have come before he asked to marry you. Plz like odas said, do ur research well and don't make excuses for him unnecessarily.
My dear, we can only advise u, but the ultimate decision lies in ur hands. I dnt know whether u asked us dis to get some sort of validation for wat u have already decided to do or wether u are sincerly confused. Wateva the case i can only lend my voice to the rest of the family and say FLEE FOR UR LIFE!
He is going thru a divorce and you want to marry him? my dear that is adultery. Wait for your own husband, don't be in a hurry.
my dear wait for ur own God given husband, dat man belong to somebody else.
This story sounds like that of my bestfriend…sweetheart is that you? Hmmmm if after all the talk we had in my mum's kitchen earlier this year you are still considering this man, then I think your mind is made up but pls when you begin to face the repacaution don't come here to cry Ooº°˚ you will have yourself to blame. When diD age become an alert indicator for time to get married? How do you intend to sit in naija to verify divorce papers in london? Do you think God was so confused in creating you that he kept a divorce for you??? I could type a whole page of advice but I will stop here you know what is good for you so go ahead.
UR BFF
Married men are always amazing to their side chicks if he was such an amazing husband tO his wife do you think he will be currently going through a divorce(if he really is) or you think that woman does nt know what is good? You should rather advice him to be amazing to his wife rather than sit here and become a distraction to his wife co wether you like it or not that is what you are. A man that sEes divorce as an option will definitely consider it when he is married to you. So be prepared to be a single mum…..
I know whenever you are prayinng for a financial breakthrough you always quote "I know what plans I have for you plans of Good and not of evil…" So now why have u refused to surrender to God to work his plan?
Cos God will never plan that you get married to a divorcee? For you to be asking if the church will wed you it means you have made up your mind on marrying the guy but girlfrienD I can assure you will regret it.
Don't consider that option. Better to remain single until you find your own man. Drop the idea now not later! Hmm sweet 27.
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Don't consider that option. Better to remain single until you find your own man. Drop the idea now not later! Hmm sweet 27.
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Pls make enqury why he divorced his first wife.
It is not in all divorce cases that the men are wrong.Some women are worst than d devil in a man's life.What I will advise is that u confirm if he has finalized the divorce and if u truly love him, go ahead. There are cases u cant manage in marriages no matter how u try. What if the man tried to save d marriage and the woman went ahead to file for a divorce? should the man remain unmarried?
even d bible says if an unbeliever leaves a believer spouse, the one left is not bound to the one who left. The bible says a bill of divorce can be given. People blame the men most times when they hear a divorce case. Don't be quick to condemn people. Just be sure d divorce is genuine and check what you feel for each other.