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| “Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation…”- Oscar Wilde |
Men have emotional needs too, as much as we long to have our husbands understand and meet our innermost needs, we have to learn to give that which we desire to have.
- Companionship: Do things together and be together, however busy your schedule, find time for him. Even when he seems too busy watching the football match, he is engulfed in his computer, make yourself available by sitting beside him. Sit for a few minutes and see if a discussion won’t start.
When he is ready to talk is when you are busy in your room , because you want to pay him back for not giving you attention. Be a friend, let him feel he has someone with him. Don’t let him feel lonely while still married. Many married men still feel lonely. They are so misunderstood by their wives that they prefer to talk with outsiders instead.
- Trust: If you have doubts, it is better to confront him in a loving manner, avoid spying on him.
- Respect him, listen to him when he is talking. Give him your attention and avoid rolling eyes at him.
- Talk less: Don’t become a chatter box at home. When you have something to discuss with him and you realize he is tired or looks stressed up, schedule another time for the talk. Try to avoid putting him on the spot at the wrong time. There is a time to talk and a time to be quiet.
5. Free Time: Everyone wants to have a free time at one time or the other. It is not all the time that we want someone clinging around us. There are times you just want to lie down and wallow in your “me time” or think wild. There are times you want to be alone with your thoughts. If we want this free time, why not give our husbands some free time too. Do not make them run to the office every time they need free time. Sometimes, the reason they go out is just to relax their minds because they can’t get their free time at home.
Can you share other things you feel men want from their wives?
Eya, U didn't mention the most important thing which is good s.
*Have dinner ready when he comes home from work
*When you go shopping, ask if he wants you to get him something.
*Call him during the day and ask how he is doing at work
*If he is busy and has to miss a TV show that he likes, record it for him.
*Get him his favorite after-shave before the bottle is ready
*Send him loving emails and text messages
* Make an effort to prepare him his lunch box too,the way you do for your kids.#WorksForMe
After only 4 years of marriage, my husband is no more romantic. He behaves like a brother and I don't like it. I will try these points and hope he changes back to lover and not brother. I already have enough brothers as it is.
Very funny lady.I just can't stop laughing.
Wow, the lunch box thing works for me too. Now I make sure I add an apple and one pack of lucozade boost or ribena…:-) . Then the text message and calling him at lunch to see how his day has gone so far. Also once in a while, I take a mattress to the living room, provide junk food, and a new movie. It changes things up a little.
Aunty Ojay the 4th point,is the one that interests me the most,no man wants a nagging wife. As for me dats onething I may find hard to bear,no man wants to come home and meet a wife dat complains about almost everything.
Ehen aunty Ojay u forgot to add LOVE the ultimate. Just love us,asin love us,I mean u av to love us. And trust us to fill u to the brim with our undiluted love.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
Thank you Bona, some women forget that love is the overall. If you do all without love, bible says it is nothing. And with love, you will rarely go wrong, and when you do, you find it easy to apologize.
Don't deny him SEX…#very important
I'll call the above listed the abstract needs of a man from his woman, if there should be anything like a mans real-life needs from a woman?
Top of the list of what a man wants from his wife
would be!
1) A Male Child
2) Good food all the time
3) Great Sex (cos some women turn sex to a price, you have to win it)
4) Financially supportive, even if he doesn't say it he wants it.
The irony is… When the real business of marriage gets on men are the 1st to start playing down LOVE and women play down ROMANCE.
The man gets consumed by work, money and responsibilities; he cares less about the lovey things and act he must exhibit.
The woman see's (the 3C's) chores, career & children all the time and she becomes less romantic in her daily life, she even play's down her attraction, she won't even keep up a 247/365 seductive cum romantic persona that'll make his brain giggle, maybe once in a blue-moon after reading an article.
Nuff'Said
Morning great fam
Oh, whose job is it to plant the male child in a fertile womb??
@Ace, pls answer me o.k.
Oh my! @ male child. I thought we've moved past that stage. Is it just me or does anyone feels like ace is a 17th century man.
@ACE: we await ur response!! U who implants d male child in d womb*rme* 17th century is better sef, 10th century ni!!!
Ace has said d bitter truth,hw many men even wen dey knw dey ar d ones to plant d male seed,do dey act it lik its dem?my uttermost prayer is dat all mothers hv both sex.men deep in there hrt wnt a male child some wil do all dey can to gt 1.
Men want their wives to show it outside that they are the men. It's a natural ego-booster. They want to be loved and tended like mothers do to their babies!
Exactly my thought too….. please erase no 1 everyone knows that first it is God that give children whether male or female more so, it lies on the man too cause he is the only one that can produce the Y Chromosomes.
@Ace I agree dat every man wants a male child, but its also their responsiblity to give deir wives d male child! If a woman has only female children how is it her fault?!?!
I tink men want u to compliment dem like "dis shirt is fine dear" "sex was hott__u re too much boo" etc
Men lik to b taken care of,gud fud, clean house,lots of Love,etc
The chikoo
My response….
Talking of the Y and X Chromosones, the man is the one who makes the male child cos he donates both Y and X as the woman can only offer the XX chromosones, but 90% of men do not understand this genetics but as Africans a male instinct simply believes come-what-may, she must give me a male child, and sadly, mothers(women) think so as inlaws to the wife.
I was educating a male friend about contraceptives and prevention as regards unwanted pregnancy just this week. It took me heaven to convince him that withdrawal is O% effective in preventing pregnancy, people who have survived withdrawal method took advantage of low fertility of the couple at the time of exposure, safe period or just providence.
You need just a single spermatozoa to make a child and such sperm is released even before ejaculation by the male.
He argued further… Saying it has been working for him…
I pressed harder!!!!!
Then I gave this obscene analysis…
During foreplay, do you ever notice fluids in ur boxer even with out the main sex, he siad yes… Then I told him, that fluid contains live spermatozoa! He puzzled,
I went further to tell him, imagin if you've been having sex at the time you were having foreplay those stuff in ur boxers are in already and exactly same happens during thrusting sperms are released as you thrust.
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A girl got pregnant for a guy, but the guy denied the paternity cos he withdrew. Cos she was infidel she gave it to her 2nd lover who had sex with her a month before, doctors insisted that she was 2 month preg but she said she was 3 month pregnant cos the other guy had to be the forced father. The only mistake was the withdrawal psych.
In essence, Men have a pariah way of thinking, A male child is what we want, we think so premature about a lot of things! Women must be ahead by getting the info out to him, but that won't still influence some men… He needs a male child, and you must get it for him, Lolz!
A lot'Said
Great weekend blog fam!
I'm sorry aunty eya this is my first time commenting but I follow ur blog daily but I need to curse ace bently out! @ ace u sound all enlightened but this male child tin ur sayn shows hw stupid u r hw dare u say a woman shld give a man a male child will she self fertilize herslf or ur brain cells are on hols that's a wrrong thing to say , u have such a wrong perception I really do pity ur wife cos u have some mental issues without even knowing .FYI I'm nt married yet so don't think I'm venting I'm a woman and a know the dynamics of these things!bfre u comment think oga take a cue from bona #im sorry aunty eya
You sound like an educated ILLITERATE!!!
@Q'money and Alero, thanks for ur words, but I simply realized ur response to my penultimate post show's that you did not read my post, you only hastily commented.
Let me in one sentence explain what you dint understand…
By all I wrote, I opined that men most times don't know the science behind a lot of family issues all they think and want is what they ask for.
In my last paragraph
(In essence, Men have a PARIAH way of
thinking, A male child is what we
want, we think so PREMATURE about a
lot of things! Women must be ahead
by getting the info out to him, BUT
THAT WON'T STILL INFLUENCE SOME MEN… He needs a male child, and you must get it for him, Lolz!)
Iccase you still don't understand, The last line meant that some men won't still understand when dia wives explain the truth abt a male child all he wants his the male child.
If you really read this paragraph am sure you'll not say things that'll demean ur sense of judgment and reasoning.
Plz, next time read well before you chat crass crap…
Have a great day!
@Q'money and Alero, thanks for ur words, but I simply realized ur response to my penultimate post show's that you did not read my post, you only hastily commented.
Let me in one sentence explain what you dint understand…
By all I wrote, I opined that men most times don't know the science behind a lot of family issues all they think and want is what they ask for.
In my last paragraph
(In essence, Men have a PARIAH way of
thinking, A male child is what we
want, we think so PREMATURE about a
lot of things! Women must be ahead
by getting the info out to him, BUT
THAT WON'T STILL INFLUENCE SOME MEN… He needs a male child, and you must get it for him, Lolz!)
Iccase you still don't understand, The last line meant that some men won't still understand when dia wives explain the truth abt a male child all he wants his the male child.
If you really read this paragraph am sure you'll not say things that'll demean ur sense of judgment and reasoning.
Plz, next time read well before you chat crass crap…
Have a great day!
@Q'money and Alero, thanks for ur words, but I simply realized ur response to my penultimate post show's that you did not read my post, you only hastily commented.
Let me in one sentence explain what you dint understand…
By all I wrote, I opined that men most times don't know the science behind a lot of family issues all they think and want is what they ask for.
In my last paragraph
(In essence, Men have a PARIAH way of
thinking, A male child is what we
want, we think so PREMATURE about a
lot of things! Women must be ahead
by getting the info out to him, BUT
THAT WON'T STILL INFLUENCE SOME MEN… He needs a male child, and you must get it for him, Lolz!)
Iccase you still don't understand, The last line meant that some men won't still understand when dia wives explain the truth abt a male child all he wants his the male child.
If you really read this paragraph am sure you'll not say things that'll demean ur sense of judgment and reasoning.
Plz, next time read well before you chat crass crap…
Have a great day!
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No words for u ace , I won't even turn this to a blog fight having to respond to ur post again.u obviously have issues, such myopic way of reasoning…Enjoy ur day aswell
@Alero, in this case you are the myopic one, if I had done anything wrong the onus is on me to own up and apologize but I haven't my dear so stop spilling…
We know lots like you, LIB is where you were breeded.
Awww…. I love these tips.. Its refreshing…
God bless you Eya for these Tips. Sometimes we forget d real essence of marriage-companionship. God saw that Adam was alone and decided to make him a companion,a helpmate, Eve. As wives we need to always rember that.
But ace is just saying that men want a male child even if its not d womans fault. Take time and read what he's saying now. He's sayn men are ignorant but dey stil want a male child. O ga o
As in for real, sum pple still don't understand wat ace is talking abt, he is saying dat men are jus ignorant when it comes to making babies,pls try to read thru it again.
Exactly.Ace is only trying to explain wat it takes to have a male child which is strictly from d men yet d men keep blaming d women.Dats all. He hasn't said anytin wrong here. Sonnie