When I wrote and published the five characteristics of a nagging wife. There was a promise to also post the characteristics of a nagging husband but along the line I forgot and years have past until yesterday. A blog reader landed on that post and sent me a mail;
Hello Eya
How are you and your beautiful family? First and foremost, let me thank you for the things I have so far learnt from your very enlightening, informative blog in just two days of discovering the blog. Each time my husband and I have a disagreement, he tells me that am a nagging wife. That I nag too much for his sanity. Yesterday, I had to google the character of a nagging wife which landed me on your blog.
The points you gave are true but in my own case, I am not the one that says or acts that way, it’s my husband. The reverse is the case in our small family. My husband nags a lot and turns round to tell me that I am a nagging wife.
Can I request something please ma. That you post also on a nagging husband so that my husband too will learn because I intend on letting him know that he is a nagging husband. Thank you and may God bless you for this blog.
MY REPLY:
I had to quickly reply nher and below are the characteristics of a nagging husband and if you do those as a man please mind yourself oh.
5 CHARACTERISTICS OF A NAGGING MAN:
- A Nagging man complains all the time. Very hard to please and finds faults in his partner or looks for reasons to complain about how she’s not giving him enough attention, how she is the reason he is temperamental. Finds ways to just complain until his partner feels uncomfortable around him.
- A nagging husband doesn’t know how to turn the other way and let some things just be. He must resurrect matters that should just lie and find ways to fight over them. He makes a mountain out of a mole hill with complains, I mean daily complains about so many things. He is kinda perfectionist and because it’s almost impossible to please a perfectionist, he just keeps complaining and complaining.
- A nagging husband or partner is that man that wants others to do his every whim, take orders from him, follow his directions in life and just do everything his way. His words are commands to be obeyed because he is always right. A nagging man is actually Mr Always Right!
- He is never content and always always looking for who to blame. He likes to quarrel and can talk even more than a woman. He likes to compare his wife to other women and feels inwardly like those are better than his wife in everything. No matter what his partner does, she isn’t doing enough! He secretly feels like he is better and talks disrespectfully about his partner
- He is a complainer. Like:
Why are you always eating?
Don’t you think you are eating too much?
Mr As wife has really lost weight and she looks pretty good
Can you just cook without adding too much salt
I think I might soon develop stomach ulcer from eating too much pepper
Your dresses are beginning to look too tight
Can’t you wear heels like other women do?
Do something about your stomach, go to a gym or start jogging in the mornings instead of sleeping late.
When was the last time you did a clean shave?
Haven’t you used that shoe enough to change it?
This dress is older than all the rest in your wardrobe when are you giving it away?
Why do you always wear black lipstick? I hate it!
Didn’t your mother teach you to respect a husband?
Why do I feel like you are beginning to gain weight or is it just my eyes.
This your bum bum looks flat these days what is wrong? Or do we need to do something about it?
You boobs are really shrinking what happened to them? Please fix it!
you are a lazy woman
Your cooking is not getting any betterTHE RESULT SHEET:
When a man nags too much, what happens?
His wife begins to find reasons to avoid him by keeping busy weekends, doing chores like cleaning a house that’s already clean just to keep away from her nagging husband.
She begins to attend every weekend social event just to stay away from him. Hangs around friends at the event until the last guests leaves.
She becomes a very loyal friend to office colleagues because she creates time to attend all their special events to keep herself happy since hubby’s nagging isn’t helping matters.
She begins to feel happier in his absence and not miss him, prefers his absence to presence.
Madam begins to see dear husband as a killjoy who doesn’t like her happiness so she avoids him.
Finds reasons to be home when he’s not and to be away when he’s home.
She learns to ignore his complaints and with time becomes insensitive to his true feelings.
Trust women, when a man nags, she begins to do the opposite of what he wants just to annoy him.
THE WAY FORWARD
When you complain once, STOP there because she heard you.
She knows about her weight gain and doesn’t need anyone reminding her on a daily or weekly basis.
Her boobs are changing because you both are growing older and will eventually wrinkle if you are lucky to live long.
Cooking is not easy. Try to complement her because some people earn salaries just cooking. If the salt is much, manage it like that and try to help in the kitchen sometimes.
Her outfits are looking tight? Take her shopping and stop complaining.
You don’t like her green lipstick, get her a red lipstick and tell her to wear it for you instead of complaining.
You think she eats too much? Get pregnant and you’ll know why. Nurse a baby and you’ll know why.
Her panties look tattered? take her lingerie shopping and you both will never forget the experience.
You think she’s gaining weight. Find a gym get you two registered and always take her along until she develops interest.
Marriage is hard work. Two individuals from different backgrounds living together is not easy but you can make it work.