10 QUALITIES OF A ONE CHANCE MARRIAGE

If your marriage is described here, maybe you are in a one chance marriage.

Aunty Eya please help me post this. My cousin and her husband have a one chance marriage. Every time I try to make her see reasons she doesn’t. Completely blinded by love but I being her closest cousin am aware that he is just using her to have children to his name and that’s all.

QUALITIES OF A ONE CHANCE MARRIAGE:

1. You are in a one chance marriage when your husband cannot say sorry to you. Yes! He feels to proud to come down to your level and apologize. When he is wrong, you apologize. When you are wrong you still apologize. You know it’s not right but cannot save yourself.
2. If your husband spends well on himself, buys himself expensive gifts, expensive clothing and shoes and acts like he doesn’t owe you. If he uses you to manage, like get himself expensive items and ngo for cheaper items when he shops for you. Then know you are in a long one chance marriage.
3. Why can’t your husband buy the same quality of wrist watch for ladies and gents? He’ll rather buy a rolex for himself and want you to kneel and thank you for getting a first class Aba made for you. You have entered already.
4. You are in a one chance marriage when your husband prefers to do the shopping. Not because you are too busy or because he is less busy. Because he wants to keep the extra change. You have entered one chance bus already.
5. You are always trying really hard to make him fall in love. You feel like he is holding back. He only comes into you when you ask. If you don’t ask, he is not interested in that part of the union. One chance already.
6. You are in a one chance taxi when your husband gives you money for house upkeep with the intention to teach you how to manage small money. He earns 1 million Naira per month and gives you 50k Naira for monthly allowance. Sorry. One chance Range Rover.
7. He threatens you with a divorce, not because he really wants to lose his “servant” he threatens you to gain more control. If your husband is in the habit of threatening you with a divorce every time you have a fight. You are in a one chance private jet.
8. He makes you look bad. He is the good cop among friends and even family. He acts like he is better than you. Never tries to discipline the kids. You flog and scold and he says nothing acting like he is the best man on earth. One chance power bike.
9. Does he defend you? He acts like it doesn’t matter instead of standing up to defend you. With his family, you are left to defend yourself and cry your eyes out later at night. You ask why he cannot stand up for you and she pretends there’s nothing serious about whatever happened. You are ina disguised one chance marriage.
10. When you ask for help, he promises to deliver but never does. Especially financial help. You need some money to start a business. He never says No. He always promises to help financially but never does. Sorry, he may never be supported because he never wants your level to change. Can’t stand to see you empowered financially and will do all he can to keep you dependent and obedient in servitude. Does he magnify your faults? He makes fun of your mistakes to crush your spirit? One chance.

IN CONCLUSION:

Is your husband or wife acting like this? Do they exhibit this one chance qualities?  You have along way to go in life.

Cousin’s husband perfectly described above but she doesn’t see anything wrong with her marriage. Nothing will change for as long as nothing will change. That is who he is. He cares about no one but himself. That man cares about just himself alone and you cannot change him with your love. You cannot change him with your humility. You cannot change him with your apologies. Just endure that way or help yourself by fixing it.

 

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