Good evening WC. I’m just trying to bring out my wife’s ringing phone from her bag and here is a pack of condoms before my eyes.she says they are for when she is not safe but I’d be a fool to believe that crap.I know things are a bit hard of late but I still try my best to provide for her and our daughter. I work
my ass off even when the pay is very small, I put a roof over her head, I manage to give her a little monthly allowance not minding that she earns money too.
Madam Eya and fellow blog readers, I’ve never used any condoms with my wife of 5 years. What can make a womann buy condoms? Why should I believe this cock and bull story? I need advise before I do something stupid. My head is hot and I refuse to look at her crocodile tears this time.
A quick question sir, has d condom been used? (Was it a complete unopened pack?
Pls sir take it easy o. First, have u seen any signs of cheating lately? Has she change from who she was before?. And has d pack been used?
I really don't get why people be asking if the pack has been opened? Used? Like seriously, what does that matter? The Poster's concern is why  there @all! Anyway, what do I know….
Poster, sorry about the way you are feeling, all I can say is don't be rash , seek the truth άήδ when you find it , be guided in your decision. Cheers
Since u av neva used condom wit her b4,am sorry 2say,mayb she's cheating or wanted to! Women,even if we want to cheat finD it very difficult to do so and mite av changed her mind afta all odawise she wld av trown d pack away b4 coming home. Communication is still d best way to no y she as d condom in her bag.pls take it easy and don't let d devil use u.I pray God gives u d wisdom to handle the situation. Adeyanju
Thnk anon6:11and 6:52
Only d both of u get common sense here
If its a woman dt found a condom in his man pocket,we women will scream murder.
Poster,believe me,ur wife os cheating or about to cheat. But try as much as possible and solve this prob wt love. Dnt be harsh on her.she might open up.
Poster this doesn't bode well but you should investigate further before taking any action. Look through her phone if you can, monitor her movement. Of course if she was doing anything, now that you have seen the condoms she won't try it for some time, and will make extra sure to wipe any evidence. Also are you sure the condom started being in her bag of recent, meaning that she didn't have condoms before now?
And just to play devil's advocate, have you been faithful to her all of the 5 years? Asking because in the event that she is actually cheating, the reason may not be only financial, could also be that she knows you are doing the same.
Hmm, its obvious communication in our poster's marriage is wanting. Finding a pack of condom in your wife's bag does not confirm infidelity. Sit down and honestly ask yourself if your wife would cheat on you. Don't let the finacial situation in your home allow poison seep through your heart. We women are complex, our actions are tied with our emotions.
In my opinion, their might be no sinister meaning to the condoms in her bag (it ight not be the explanation she gave you but there's no cheating involved)
Someone is giving your wife more attention, its become emotional and the condom in her bag is only a precaution. Chances are your wife couldn't go through with it.
If your wife is cheating, chances are you won't find such a careless evidence in her bag. You know your wife more than anyone else, listen to your heart and not your head.
Finally, have you cheated on your wife ? Could she have known ?
If you're still not sure, act that all is well. Give her some months of peace, if she's cheating,chances are when she feels everything has settled down and u're not sniffing about, your wife will drop her guards. Then you can catch her easily.
No, not used
As a man I cheated only once and this was a long time ago.
Why is the pack of condom in her hand bag and not in d room or anywhr in the house whr she can easily reachout for it so u both can use wenever she's not safe? Then why d sudden tot of condoms after 5yrs of naked sex during safe n unsafe period, atleast thr has bin a way of watchin out for the unsafe periods. Everyday is for the thief but one day is for the owner. Well, Mr Poster ur wife myt b cheating on u already or planning to. Anyways, don't b harsh on her like sme pple suggested already just let her knw u r aware d condoms r not for wot she claims dey r for, monitor her movement, watchout for her phone conversations. By God's grace u remain the head of ur family and I'm sure God'll help u to know how to solve everyting with love. Sorry tho'
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Why is it a bign deal pleass??? don't men cheat and ask for forgiveness?
this poster is a man of truth. how many men will admit cheating? pls sir don't be harsh on your wife follow this carefully and patiently and the truth that u seek shall unravel.
Ahaaan…@poster have u ever come across d word KARMA. When u cheated she didn't raise a brow and nw that u have found condom in her bag u are in a tensive mood. Don't even try doing anytin stupid 2 her cos I personally will send u 2 jail. Thank you
Just forget about it. All long as it hasn't been used. Maybe what she is telling u is d truth. Trust is very important in marriage. Goodluck
I dont think she will be foolish enough to leave evidence of her cheating where you will find it. Like you said things have been hard for you guys lately so she probably isnt ready for another baby yet. If you hadnt seen the condoms she would have told you about it and suggest that you guys use it.
And yes married women buy condoms. I know it is weird for you but it is not enough evidence that she is cheating. If you wanted to be sure you would not have let her know you were aware of the condoms then waited to see what happens. You have to let this go, if she is really cheating something else is going to expose her.
I agree with kiki, if she was cheating, she won't be careless enough to put the condom where u would find it bt again tht doesn't mean she couldn't have been careless with it. Some ppl are careless while some are not. U know your wife better than we all do. You've lived with her for 5yrs and may have known her for more. So u shld know wat she is capable of doing. Follow ur heart and not your head.
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one thing u pple didnt add is that she might be trying to protect herself from contacting STD from u since u've cheated on her before. Besides,the 2 of u should go for test abeg.
Maybe she got it from a clinic? Sometimes they hand out free condoms.
You never know. I have a friend who is a virgin yet has a condom in her bag.
If she's cheating, try to forgive her unless she's a serial cheat. Then for the fear of STDs you might want to forgive but move on.
I won't say anything about your cheating in the past. Marriage is not for keeping scores
What do you mean, as a man? So your being a man validates your cheating?
What do you mean, as a man? So your being a man validates your cheating?
just forgive her and move on she will on herself amend her ways. God bless your marriage.
This makes a lot of sense. A lot of married women set STDs from their cheating husbands
She is crying cos she feels GUILTY!!!
My take is what would you have expected her to do if she caught you when you cheated?do the same..