Aunty Eya good day,my name is Sandra a corper i go thru ur blog everyday..i ave a problem and i need ur advice and other people you know can help is also welcome..am currently in a relationship which is not making me happy.i met Ben last year july wen we left camp to our various place of primary assignment,i work 4 his father and he has a room in d hotel where
i work,he asked me out promising me heaven and earth and i accepted…
few months into our relationship i noticed my boyfriend drinks smokes and womanizes too much i was shocked cos i trusted him wit my life and ℓ̊ tot ave found my mr right..d day i found out he was cheating was d day i lost my peace of mind cos we started quarreling and he started using abusive words on me..d worst is he even brings d gals in my presence wen he knows am in d compound not minding d way i feel later he apologizes,dis has been happening for months now..Aunty pls advice me dis is our 8th month in d relationship should i quit cos he makes me cry all d time,d gals call and send text to him everyday he has never been faithful nd i love him so much he claims to love me but he’s not ready to settle down..aunty am really depress cos i know of 6 other gals he’s also dating..
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Shouldn’t Sandra run for her dear life?
i work,he asked me out promising me heaven and earth and i accepted…
few months into our relationship i noticed my boyfriend drinks smokes and womanizes too much i was shocked cos i trusted him wit my life and ℓ̊ tot ave found my mr right..d day i found out he was cheating was d day i lost my peace of mind cos we started quarreling and he started using abusive words on me..d worst is he even brings d gals in my presence wen he knows am in d compound not minding d way i feel later he apologizes,dis has been happening for months now..Aunty pls advice me dis is our 8th month in d relationship should i quit cos he makes me cry all d time,d gals call and send text to him everyday he has never been faithful nd i love him so much he claims to love me but he’s not ready to settle down..aunty am really depress cos i know of 6 other gals he’s also dating..
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Shouldn’t Sandra run for her dear life?
There is something called common sense. I have gotten bored with all these type of stories. Girls should know when to end a relationship. Its not rocket science.
It obvious you need to run. A man that brings in other women in your presence does not respect or regard you. It's better you end the relationship now before he ends it himself. According to my mother, a man should show a girl more love than she shows him. A word is enough for the wise.
Sandra, how a man treats you before marriage is usually an indication of what will happen after you get married.
Now you say he makes you cry all the time?
You should remove your slippers, tuck them under your arm and run as far as your feet can carry you.
You'll find a man that treats you like you deserve. Please do not settle for any man. This is marriage.
Also Eya, I see some hateful people have made their way here. If censoring comments is what you must do to keep sanity here, please go ahead
Pls runnnnnn! Tank God u got 2 know at ds early stage. I don't tink dr is any point staying in ds relationship. Funke
This is not a healthy relationship. End it now.
Reason; he doesn't respect you and will only get worse. And if you marry him,he will slowly kill you(with his lifestyle) and bring his girlfriends to your funeral.
Its obvious you ve low self esteem,you are asking if you should run don't run stay there its obvious ure desperate to answer anybody abeg I no fit talk
And did it ever occur to you as well that she might not be the anon?
At least if they are censored and those comments are still published then we'd know its her, instead of speculating.
Sandra he's not worth it, not with what i just read. My dear you have to reduce your level of love for him that way you can take your decision without it affecting you much. The day you decide in your heart that you are really tired of all he's been doing to you, then you can bow out of the relationship and not feel much hurt.
Hi Sis Bene, be nice and kind OK?
I love you!
dear sandra, sorry but i have to be straight forward with you and a bit harsh also, deep down inside you know the right thing to do, you just don't want to do it. you said you are in a relationship but sorry to disappoint you dear, you are not in a relationship, your so called boyfriend has 6 girls and you are deceiving yourself that you are in a relationship. the problem most ladies have is that they are always afraid to walk away from such relationship. pls take a leap of faith and leave a million and one men that can treat you like the queen you are, why settle for less. this is the 10th or so of such questions am reading and it just shows that 60% of ladies are stuck in unhealthy relationship. pls leave that man and dont rush into another relationship, take time out to appreciate yourself and know that you are a queen and you deserve the world and more.
Do u want us to give this dumbass advice or not can't u see she needs something that will shock her pls leave bebe alone to say her mind eya u will be surprised she is not d only in this peace
Anon 11:14 I know ure EYA replying as anon u can delete that comment cos u know am right.pls keep it real
@bene and Deborah abi o. All I can say is " an advise is what u seek for when you already know what you want" . U know u have to break up with him sandra, ur just too afraid to walk away, cus ur scared that u will lose ur job, ur financial dependant on him too and ur afraid of starting again.
Aunty Eya, since ur censoring comments, also start censoring ur mails. Not all mails u get Should be posted here, you can answer some yourself privately. If people need advise from others, they should expect diverse concerns.
Exactly my point.and am told to be nice and kind eya am sorry but it is what it is no offence
May God bless you for this comment
What?
I responded to the post and replied you, and now I'm Eya? :s sorry to burst your bubble, I'm not.
Have a nice day.
My dear ur problem got more answers than questions,its obvious like todays date being 11th, dat u aint meant to be in such situation. What everyone seek in a relationship is love,happiness and everyoda thing dat accrues,not being in a relationship as if its next to air.
Dear u know whats gud for u? drop him like its "HOT"
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
A man u met during NYSC mistreat Ɣøû brings girls to d house where Ɣøû stay and Ɣøû still ask if Ɣøû should leave him, in your mind is that the kind of person Ɣøû would want to spend your life with? I don't think so a man without respect during courtship would definitely not respect Ɣøû while married Ɣøû better run as far as your leg can carry Ɣøû .
There are some questions that doesn't need answers/advises and this is certainly one of it. Like seriously, how can u stay in a relationship that u've been verbally, physically, emotionally and mentally abused and yet u are asking if u should stay or not? Are u a learner? This bf/gf relationship is not for children o. Ehen! Maybe u should tell us if he is the one that feeds u everyday or probably trained u in school cos these are the only thing that could make u consider staying. Ndeewo
Cos Dis IS Aunty eya's blog i will Be nice….Pls dear carry Ur legs and Run..If It IS possible For u To fly u Can do Dat..*ND By The way, u said u've Be Reading Dis blog Didnt u See d Story of d Lady whose husband already Got two Diff females preggie….i Dnt knw wast IS wrong wiv u But My dear If He IS already Using abusive words On u wen u guyz Get married He will Beat u….He IS cheatin On u and u knw It wen u guyz Get married u will Be d First wife among three wives..My dear a broken relationship IS berra, much More berra dan a broken marriage…
D problem wif most naija girls is d Fear of being single,mostly bkos dey r financially dependent on men n d societal blive dat being single is a sign of being ugly or unattractive,dey'd rather stay in an abusive r/ship Dan try n beta dia lives wifout a boyfriend n knw exactly wot to xpect frm guys.my dear Sandra,ur fear isn't abt breaking up wif him bkos u knw deep down dat it d right thing to do,ur fear Is rather wot u wl lose if u leave bt in honesty,u'd Neva knw wot u r worth except lose wot u hv nw.its a risk worth taking.
Dats words! "Run as far as ur legs ll take u"
My dear, in my language(igbo). Iwu onye apari! U v dated sum1 for 8months n u trust him wit ur lyf? Wake up and smell d coffee. He has tasted ya apple, so on to d next one. If anoda corper comes dere, he will do d same.u don't kno wat to do abi? At ya age? Pls stay dere oh! He will bring AIDS n STD for u all in d name of luv. He won't marry u, even if he does,he will still bring in women on ya head and say "dts how he was wen u met him, u shud v bin used to him by now". Use ur head oh!
What is happening to girls these days? In my days, I broke up with my first boyfriend because he was too overbearing and questioned all the guys that relate with me, I broke up with the second because he paid more attention to his male friens than me, I broke up with the 3rd and last one because he left for camp without telling me. These are nothing close to what you are facing. There are a lot of thrash in male form out there and the only way to protect yourself is to set a standard for yourself. What you can take andd what yoy won't tolerate. You've got to be brutal in love, even if you have feelings for a person and he doesn't reciprocate, then the feelings you have are irrelevant and would die a natural death one day.it is up to you to determine the time, whether now when much has not been lost or much later when all your self dignity is gone as plenty water would have passed under the bridge. Get out fast before you run out of dignity andbdont ever forget that the rule of survival in any situation and I mean ANY, is ME FIRST! Protect yourself and getout of situations that make you cry or sad.life is too short and precious to be wasted on tears.
plz stay if u go i will beat u nonsense….BOMSY
Sandra,
Am sure you are simply carried with the cheap thingz you get from this so called relationship. It is boldly written on the wall, WALK BABES.
It gets to me when some ladies don't know when to call it quit ….. Love with your head not your heart… Love itself is Mathematics…
BE WISE!